You tread on my dreams...... (12)

It's genuinely a long time since I allowed anyone to get close enough for me to be vulnerable in my feelings. This is the first time in my life that I decided to be open and trust a man I thought was precious and special. He told me I was his very special friend.

He said he downloaded my picture and used it as a screensaver. I delighted in the ease and comfort of our conversations, as he said he did. He said he had stopped looking for anyone else because I was the person he wanted. He posted videos and sent e mails. I allowed myself to dream, for the first time since childhood...


When he was in poor health I tried to find solutions and offer help. I genuinely cared about his life and what was happening to him. I cried for the tragedy of his life and for the joy of finding this wonderful man and his delight in my friendship.

My life has had more than it's fair share of tragedies too......

When he said he would be away on business for a couple of weeks I said I understood. He told me his phone had no credit, so I phoned him. He said he would be away from that phone and the other one wasn't working I believed him...

Then I began to wonder why he hadn't written in a few days, why, when I looked at his profile to feel near to him, it said he had been on the site that day, and I had no e mails, no contact. I brushed it off, he was probably collecting mail, no time to linger and write... He said he was a busy man.


Today I found out that he has been coming to this site nearly every day. Writing in forums etc, things that take up considerable time on here, and I had had no word from him at all.

No indication that he changed his mind about our friendship, no words that would have let me know he was no longer interested, nothing at all except being left waiting and wondering, with my feelings crushed.....

What kind of person does this to someone?

I am sorry to say but without trust you can not build a relationship...

Maybe you need to listen to his explanation before you judge him...he may have a perfectly honest and good one...

Have you actually met this person and did he promise you anything?

Sorry you are feeling hurt hun.

Have no explaination why ppl do these things

Hi Ginger............

The short answer is I dont know............

Unfortunately we are all prey to this sort of thing and I know you have been on the site awhile so if it can happen you it can happen anyone.............

I'm so sorry that this has happened to you.

God only knows and sometimes we never find out and in our minds we cant move on until we get an explanation and we may never get it. This person obviously didnt have the back bone to be honest and upfront with you so hes not deserving of your friendship or respect.
Be good to yourself and realise you need and deserve more.

An explaination would be great if there was any way to contact him. I mailed him for an explaination but he didn't open the mail..... yet he had many opportunities from the amount of time he was here.

We made plans to meet and he cancelled at the last minute.

I made no judgements. I just stated facts.

I won,t worry about it ginger too much , maybe he just needs time to work out his feelings and is on here chatting to friends like...i now its immature .. but hey he is a guy .. not to just say hi !!!or let you know what his thinking is ...




My advice .. A... either contact him and see were you stand .. or go to plan B ... Get yourself to the meet on the 28th ..



Anyway ....

Thanks Vonny, me neither.

I guess it happens to all of us in time.