Paradox67: ON THE FIRST DATE, WHAT ARE SOME DO'S AND DON'TS?
1.) How should a person dress?
2.) Where should a couple go?
3.) What are some signs that your date is not interested?
4.) What are signs that they are?Humorous responses are also welcome. (as always)
1) and 2) - up to two ppl involved, whatever they feel comfortable with. No rules. Except maybe ONE: start the 1st date in a public place.
3) No way to tell. If you are a civilized person, you'll make it fun for both of you, since time is invested into it anyways, hence the only sign - no contact afterwards.
Well, if folks made the same effort as they do everyday, then why would they have to make an extra special effort on a date?
Is that not misleading, I mean, if the date turns into a relationship, human habits will come to light soon enough, people fart in bed and have morning breath.
No point trying to hide human habits, we all have them...
Laura25: 1) and 2) - up to two ppl involved, whatever they feel comfortable with. No rules. Except maybe ONE: start the 1st date in a public place.
3) No way to tell. If you are a civilized person, you'll make it fun for both of you, since time is invested into it anyways, hence the only sign - no contact afterwards.
Sommerauer71: Well, if folks made the same effort as they do everyday, then why would they have to make an extra special effort on a date?
Is that not misleading, I mean, if the date turns into a relationship, human habits will come to light soon enough, people fart in bed and have morning breath.
No point trying to hide human habits, we all have them...
I think that I went beyond human habits at my most embarrassing moment. I sneezed and blew a booger on my dates sweater. I don't know if she saw it but I was nervous for the rest of the night and kept wondering if I should tell her.
Sommerauer71: Well, if folks made the same effort as they do everyday, then why would they have to make an extra special effort on a date?
Is that not misleading, I mean, if the date turns into a relationship, human habits will come to light soon enough, people fart in bed and have morning breath.
No point trying to hide human habits, we all have them...
'afternoon, Sommer
Right,
but since there is no bed and no morning after (in a majority of 1st dates), it would be nice to see them taking the time to brush their teeth and watch what they eat the day prior the 1st date, no?
but since there is no bed and no morning after (in a majority of 1st dates), it would be nice to see them taking the time to brush their teeth and watch what they eat the day prior the 1st date, no?
but since there is no bed and no morning after (in a majority of 1st dates), it would be nice to see them taking the time to brush their teeth and watch what they eat the day prior the 1st date, no?
Hi Laura
I expect that of humans anyway, to take care of themselves everyday, not just on a date.
So, if I think he only brushes his teeth when he is taking me for dinner, I would not want to know.
3.) What are some signs that your date is not interested?
4.) What are signs that they are?
1. As I go to a date after work, so it’s the same clothes I’ve taken on that morning. How he is dressed – it’s entirely his business.
2. It’s his choice as it’s he who is supposed to pay, and there’s no way I can know in advance what place he can afford.
3 and 4: Depends on the date’s nationality: if a Swede once in a while mumbles something inaudible into his cup of whatever as an answer on your question, it doesn’t have to mean that he is not interested. It’s just his way to be. And no, there won’t be any eye contact. But there will be a lot of messages the day after. Or the very same evening. You’ve paid for your cup of whatever and found the way to your home on your own, and here they are – genuine passionate words about how pleasant it was and how he’d like to meet again…
if a non-Swede talks to your breasts for an and a half hour straight, pays for your cup of whatever, and then insists on taking you home, it doesn’t have to mean anything either. It’s just his way to be. If there’ll be some message the day after, it can be anything from “Thank you, but I’m sorry, and good bye” to “Thank you, would we meet again?” Of course, there can be a silence as well, and it speaks for itself.
I stopped to do a big deal of the first date: if there is chemistry between two people, then it doesn’t matter how they are dressed and when they’ve spent their first date. And if there no chemistry, no dresses and no places can change that.
jbibiza: I don´t think there is such a thing as "first date etiquette"... it´s what ever feels right for the 2 people involved. There are those first dates that turn into 3 days and nights... and there are the ones that last and hour or two with a cup of coffee... it´s all about the connection!
Agreed, JB. Heck, I've had relationships that never had a "first date" and ended up as marriages.
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