Lets just say you met "The One" on here.......... (72)
I would not et legitimate reasons stop me from Moving if I was in Love.
41 years on this earth and only felt it once. Move heaven and earth to make it work.
JMO
41 years on this earth and only felt it once. Move heaven and earth to make it work.
JMO
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The reason is kids though ,both of these people have kids.
One of them will be 18 in 3 yrs.
One of them will be 18 in 3 yrs.
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there is always a solution some where it may mean having to sacrifice something. how about both relocating half way and starting fresh
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SWFinMA30: The reason is kids though ,both of these people have kids.
One of them will be 18 in 3 yrs.
One of them will be 18 in 3 yrs.
Oh and also both are single parents and can't take the kids away from other family members without serious consequences.
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If they werent looking to relocate I question why would they be here in the first place let alone keep going out with this other person.
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I'm kind of in this predicament right now. I'm just going with the flow. I mean, what else do I have to do right now? No other 'love interest' to speak of. But don't absorb yourself in that person so much that you close yourself off to other possibilities.
Meanwhile, we IM every day & both come on here. It's just that certain things in both our lives prevent either of us from going to the other right now.
Meanwhile, we IM every day & both come on here. It's just that certain things in both our lives prevent either of us from going to the other right now.
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Either A or b could be the right way, But C would work if, 1. you can afford the trips. 2. you have a good bit of trust. The answer to see is continue as you have been until one can relocate.
So much can happen you don't think about, you can't see in the future. Something could happen to change it all around. And if it doesn't well going thru all that in the end could make your relationship even stronger. Any choice A.B.C. or even the rest of the letters you want to include, there is no garenty it's the chance people take everyday to have love in there life. You just need to ask your self what kind of chance are you willing to take?
Good luck with what ever you choose
So much can happen you don't think about, you can't see in the future. Something could happen to change it all around. And if it doesn't well going thru all that in the end could make your relationship even stronger. Any choice A.B.C. or even the rest of the letters you want to include, there is no garenty it's the chance people take everyday to have love in there life. You just need to ask your self what kind of chance are you willing to take?
Good luck with what ever you choose
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SWFinMA30: The reason is kids though ,both of these people have kids.
One of them will be 18 in 3 yrs.
One of them will be 18 in 3 yrs.
Do the Kids live with them both.....full time ?
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SWFinMA30: My actual question was...........Do you think it would be worth it to wait 3 yrs?
When you think about it ,the past 3 yrs went by fast so maybe the next three will too.
When you think about it ,the past 3 yrs went by fast so maybe the next three will too.
A lot can happen in 3 years. As I said though, right now, what else do you have to do? I mean, is there any other 'love interest'?
Is emailing/IMing/talking on the phone enough for you? Can you/he make trips to visit the other?
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I was in this situation once in the past only it was ended by my other half as 'it clearly was not going to work'. Needless to say I was devastated because she was 'the one'. The answer is to leave it in the past, get over it (which takes time and not a little pain), and move on. There is simply no point in putting your life on hold in the 'hope' that there might be a way to make it work in the future.
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I have the same problem, but mine is not in another state it's a whole different country. But we have decided to try and make it work. Just will take time to get everything in order to relocate. I'ts dealing with personal lives, kids are involved, and so are two governments. But If it never gets to the point we can relocate. we are still not giving up.
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catchastar2: I have the same problem, but mine is not in another state it's a whole different country. But we have decided to try and make it work. Just will take time to get everything in order to relocate. I'ts dealing with personal lives, kids are involved, and so are two governments. But If it never gets to the point we can relocate. we are still not giving up.
Mine's all the way on the other side of the country.
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One of the kids lives with grandparents ,and is 15 and sees his mother pretty much every day,but this mother has no legal custody so she cannot take the child away from grandparents.
The other kid is 6 and lives with his dad full time but sees his mother weekly(it would violate visitation for the guy to relocate with the child).
The other kid is 6 and lives with his dad full time but sees his mother weekly(it would violate visitation for the guy to relocate with the child).
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SWFinMA30: My actual question was...........Do you think it would be worth it to wait 3 yrs?
When you think about it ,the past 3 yrs went by fast so maybe the next three will too.
When you think about it ,the past 3 yrs went by fast so maybe the next three will too.
The choice is both of yours, but for opinions sake If you love each other yes it's worth the wait.
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sweetowen: A lot can happen in 3 years. As I said though, right now, what else do you have to do? I mean, is there any other 'love interest'?
Is emailing/IMing/talking on the phone enough for you? Can you/he make trips to visit the other?
Is emailing/IMing/talking on the phone enough for you? Can you/he make trips to visit the other?
Niether of us can afford to travel a lot ,and it would be too difficult to simply keep in touch.
This is why relocation was the plan ,because we can't afford to travel.
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sweetowen: Mine's all the way on the other side of the country.
It's hard to manage at times, but it's love and that can be pretty powerful.
There is now law that says it's easy to find your soulmate. and nothing says they have to live next door. There just might be a cosmic reason that some are found halfway across the world.
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c.if in those 3 years your comunication still working and u both have same mutual feeling and time came that u can relocate to one another is fine but if there is 3rd part,u must to think first,its not good to hurt the feelings of someone must be honest earlier..
SWFinMA30: and he/she lived in another part of your state which made it a long distance relationship.
This person came to meet you and you both fell hopelessly in love,this person also came to see you every other week for a couple of days for about 2 months,and you both talked about growing old together.
Ok here's the crappy part........Neither of you can relocate because of legitamate reasons and the reason is the same for both of you ,but you were both in denial about it because you wanted so badly for it to work.
You decide mutually to break it off and try again in 3 years because one of you will be able to relocate at that time.
Would you.......
A.Try not to get into a serious relationship and just play the field until 3 years has passed.
B.Move on knowing that if you do you will probably never find "The One" again.
If there is anyone who would like to add a "C" option feel free because anything will help.
This person came to meet you and you both fell hopelessly in love,this person also came to see you every other week for a couple of days for about 2 months,and you both talked about growing old together.
Ok here's the crappy part........Neither of you can relocate because of legitamate reasons and the reason is the same for both of you ,but you were both in denial about it because you wanted so badly for it to work.
You decide mutually to break it off and try again in 3 years because one of you will be able to relocate at that time.
Would you.......
A.Try not to get into a serious relationship and just play the field until 3 years has passed.
B.Move on knowing that if you do you will probably never find "The One" again.
If there is anyone who would like to add a "C" option feel free because anything will help.
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This person came to meet you and you both fell hopelessly in love,this person also came to see you every other week for a couple of days for about 2 months,and you both talked about growing old together.
Ok here's the crappy part........Neither of you can relocate because of legitamate reasons and the reason is the same for both of you ,but you were both in denial about it because you wanted so badly for it to work.
You decide mutually to break it off and try again in 3 years because one of you will be able to relocate at that time.
Would you.......
A.Try not to get into a serious relationship and just play the field until 3 years has passed.
B.Move on knowing that if you do you will probably never find "The One" again.
If there is anyone who would like to add a "C" option feel free because anything will help.