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Mercedes1Sydney, New South Wales Australia101 Threads 1 Polls 3,764 PostsZee is a man of many words
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zee1ander: If your doctor told you you have a terminal disease that there was no cure.... would you tell your family?
My thinking is... there is nothing your family can do for you and all they will do is worry. The end may be a shock, but it deletes the long term stress that they would be under.
What are your thoughts?
zee
My thinking is... there is nothing your family can do for you and all they will do is worry. The end may be a shock, but it deletes the long term stress that they would be under.
What are your thoughts?
zee
it wud be very difficult not to tell them cos if it is a terminal illness they are going to notice that u are not well ur obviously gonna be hospitalised at some stage and ur gonna need help n support urself
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I would tell my family, as I would want them to know.
My cousin had a brain tumor and he was dying from it. He told the family and we all got to say our goodbyes before he died.
My cousin died a few weeks back, I still miss him, but I was able to say what needed to be said before he died and it brought peace to both of us.
My cousin had a brain tumor and he was dying from it. He told the family and we all got to say our goodbyes before he died.
My cousin died a few weeks back, I still miss him, but I was able to say what needed to be said before he died and it brought peace to both of us.
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no he isn't he's an idiot
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he's just like a grasshopper when it comes to jumpin to conclusions...
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Hugz_n_Kissez: no he isn't he's an idiot
This one quote may be true, but it still hurts my feelings.
zee
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Yes because if not I am depriving them of their time to grieve and prepare for my eventual death...rather than to be in shock and have to grieve afterwords...with the looming question hanging over their heads of why I didn't tell them in the first place....I think would only add to their pain more....
I agree here. It gives them and you time to bond for the last time.
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CjTenorSax: I agree here. It gives them and you time to bond for the last time.
A person can bond with another without telling them why.
zee
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zee1ander: A person can bond with another without telling them why.
zee
zee
True too. But, to have one pass w/o knowing hurts more, trust me, I KNOW.
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zee1ander: If your doctor told you you have a terminal disease that there was no cure.... would you tell your family?
My thinking is... there is nothing your family can do for you and all they will do is worry. The end may be a shock, but it deletes the long term stress that they would be under.
What are your thoughts?
zee
My thinking is... there is nothing your family can do for you and all they will do is worry. The end may be a shock, but it deletes the long term stress that they would be under.
What are your thoughts?
zee
I understand your point, but yes, I'd tell them. After dealing with my husband through his cancer, one thing I was grateful for was to be able to begin the grieving process while he was still alive, and to have time to say good-bye and adjust to the coming loss. It wouldn't be fair to not tell them, and have them also deal with anger when they discovered I had known and hadn't told them.
It might seem nicer to spare the stress of their feelings of impending loss, but I don't think it really is nicer to do that. And honestly, if it was someone I loved and they didn't tell me, then on top of my grief I'd have anger and hurt over that issue, too, which would make it more stressful when they were gone.
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druidess6308: I understand your point, but yes, I'd tell them. After dealing with my husband through his cancer, one thing I was grateful for was to be able to begin the grieving process while he was still alive, and to have time to say good-bye and adjust to the coming loss. It wouldn't be fair to not tell them, and have them also deal with anger when they discovered I had known and hadn't told them.
It might seem nicer to spare the stress of their feelings of impending loss, but I don't think it really is nicer to do that. And honestly, if it was someone I loved and they didn't tell me, then on top of my grief I'd have anger and hurt over that issue, too, which would make it more stressful when they were gone.
Just my thoughts and opinions on this one, Zee.
It might seem nicer to spare the stress of their feelings of impending loss, but I don't think it really is nicer to do that. And honestly, if it was someone I loved and they didn't tell me, then on top of my grief I'd have anger and hurt over that issue, too, which would make it more stressful when they were gone.
Just my thoughts and opinions on this one, Zee.
Exactly.
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druidess6308: I understand your point, but yes, I'd tell them. After dealing with my husband through his cancer, one thing I was grateful for was to be able to begin the grieving process while he was still alive, and to have time to say good-bye and adjust to the coming loss. It wouldn't be fair to not tell them, and have them also deal with anger when they discovered I had known and hadn't told them.
It might seem nicer to spare the stress of their feelings of impending loss, but I don't think it really is nicer to do that. And honestly, if it was someone I loved and they didn't tell me, then on top of my grief I'd have anger and hurt over that issue, too, which would make it more stressful when they were gone.
Just my thoughts and opinions on this one, Zee.
It might seem nicer to spare the stress of their feelings of impending loss, but I don't think it really is nicer to do that. And honestly, if it was someone I loved and they didn't tell me, then on top of my grief I'd have anger and hurt over that issue, too, which would make it more stressful when they were gone.
Just my thoughts and opinions on this one, Zee.
I do understand your point and I do understand it is very personal.
My point is, in my situation, all of my family lives in a different state. Should I cause them to move to where I am or be forced to move to where they are? How do you think they would feel knowing I am dieing and they are unable to see me before the end? I would feel guilty causing them so much stress. I would rather them get a call telling them of my death.
zee
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zee1ander: If your doctor told you you have a terminal disease that there was no cure.... would you tell your family?
My thinking is... there is nothing your family can do for you and all they will do is worry. The end may be a shock, but it deletes the long term stress that they would be under.
What are your thoughts?
zee
I wouldn't tell my Family at all...I always said if I ever got Cancer..That's it... I wouldn't put my self threw any keymo...or anything...I know that isn't how you spell it lol lol but u all know..... I believe when it's your time it's your time.: this way my family wouldn't know...As Long as I go up My thinking is... there is nothing your family can do for you and all they will do is worry. The end may be a shock, but it deletes the long term stress that they would be under.
What are your thoughts?
zee
and not Down 
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Yes because if not I am depriving them of their time to grieve and prepare for my eventual death...rather than to be in shock and have to grieve afterwords...with the looming question hanging over their heads of why I didn't tell them in the first place....I think would only add to their pain more....
but would they.
Oh now Hugz...I'm joking....I'd even miss your commie butt...
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kathy12345: I wouldn't tell my Family at all...I always said if I ever got Cancer..That's it... I wouldn't put my self threw any keymo...or anything...I know that isn't how you spell it lol lol but u all know..... I believe when it's your time it's your time.: this way my family wouldn't know...As Long as I go up and not Down I'll be Happy
Then it's off into the sunset for the two of us when our time comes. I made a similar post earlier.
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