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Ide have to tell them cause they would kill me if I didnt
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Mercedes1: Ide have to tell them cause they would kill me if I didnt
Oh crikey I said that wrong
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Yes. I think it's best for them to be prepared for my ultimate demise. And I plan for them to treat me with kid gloves. After all I will still have power over The Will.
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Yeah I would tell them as if the shoe was on the other foot I would feel heart broken that they didnt include their mum in their demise
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zee1ander: If your doctor told you you have a terminal disease that there was no cure.... would you tell your family?
My thinking is... there is nothing your family can do for you and all they will do is worry. The end may be a shock, but it deletes the long term stress that they would be under.
What are your thoughts?
zee
My thinking is... there is nothing your family can do for you and all they will do is worry. The end may be a shock, but it deletes the long term stress that they would be under.
What are your thoughts?
zee
Yes because if not I am depriving them of their time to grieve and prepare for my eventual death...rather than to be in shock and have to grieve afterwords...with the looming question hanging over their heads of why I didn't tell them in the first place....I think would only add to their pain more....
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Mercedes1: Yeah I would tell them as if the shoe was on the other foot I would feel heart broken that they didnt include their mum in their demise
And you best inform me missy!! Because I would catch the next flight down there to Oz to be with you...you know that!
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crazyblondeone: And you best inform me missy!! Because I would catch the next flight down there to Oz to be with you...you know that!
I will take my last breaths in your arms
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Yes because if not I am depriving them of their time to grieve and prepare for my eventual death...rather than to be in shock and have to grieve afterwords...with the looming question hanging over their heads of why I didn't tell them in the first place....I think would only add to their pain more....
Don't you think they would grieve after anyway? I have often heard people say that they knew it was coming, but it was still a shock when they finally passed.
zee
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that's actually something i never thought about for now i would probably tell them . i would also tell them to not worry about it true i done bought the ticket but the train ain't left yet .
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zee1ander: If your doctor told you you have a terminal disease that there was no cure.... would you tell your family?
My thinking is... there is nothing your family can do for you and all they will do is worry. The end may be a shock, but it deletes the long term stress that they would be under.
What are your thoughts?
zee
My thinking is... there is nothing your family can do for you and all they will do is worry. The end may be a shock, but it deletes the long term stress that they would be under.
What are your thoughts?
zee
Simple answer nope.
No point in my mind, though family would likely figure something out at some point.. traveling to see them and help them with things, sharing things with them that were a bit outside the normal... etc but it isn't that hard to pass off stuff like that...
I would leave something behind that explains the situation and why I took actions that I did so they would know it had nothing to do with my not loving them or my fear of them not understanding etc. I will make sure they have a very solid understanding that it was just not my nature to cause any undue thought my direction as I would not enjoy being any kind of interruption to their lives etc. That is why I would spend time with each of them for a while and just enjoy that time spent doing things to help them along in their lives.
Besides lots of things can happen that who knows maybe the condition changes etc. So for me why toy with possible things of that kind through the emotions of others. That is to say why have loved ones feeling horrible about your impending demise and then all the sudden poof it doesn't happen and the doctors say WHOA but then two months later it's back. Having run an adult foster home for years I have seen things like that happen more then once. It just plays havoc on the families and I would want no part of that.
I would likely tell only one person but who knows that remains to be seen I suppose.
I like threads like these thanks for getting one going Zee
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Ive been their with another and I lied to some peeps and I wont do that again
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zee1ander: Don't you think they would grieve after anyway? I have often heard people say that they knew it was coming, but it was still a shock when they finally passed.
zee
zee
Even when people are preparing for the eventual death of a loved one due to terminal illnesses, the final is often shocking. Probably due to numerous reasons. Although at times the death is a relief not only to the one suffering, but to those who have worried, suffered and grieved to that point. After the death the grief may be the genesis of healing.
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zee1ander: If your doctor told you you have a terminal disease that there was no cure.... would you tell your family?
My thinking is... there is nothing your family can do for you and all they will do is worry. The end may be a shock, but it deletes the long term stress that they would be under.
What are your thoughts?
zee
My thinking is... there is nothing your family can do for you and all they will do is worry. The end may be a shock, but it deletes the long term stress that they would be under.
What are your thoughts?
zee
It is an honor to be with the ones who love you. I cared for my parents as they cared for me. This is the gift of life. The miracle of both life and death. It is ours to share.
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zee1ander: Don't you think they would grieve after anyway? I have often heard people say that they knew it was coming, but it was still a shock when they finally passed.
zee
zee
zee1ander: Don't you think they would grieve after anyway? I have often heard people say that they knew it was coming, but it was still a shock when they finally passed.
zee
zee
Yes...they will...but it will take them less time...most times when someone is terminal...the grieving process starts then when the person and family finds out...and they grieve all the way through the persons illness....afterwords there is still some grieving to do...but also a sense of relief at not seeing their loved one suffer anymore...being able to be with the person through their whole illness allows them to accept and come to grips with the persons death and gives them a sense of closure of things that need to be said...done etc....
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Mercedes1: I will take my last breaths in your arms
awww I do love you merc!!
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nurcnurc: Even when people are preparing for the eventual death of a loved one due to terminal illnesses, the final is often shocking. Probably due to numerous reasons. Although at times the death is a relief not only to the one suffering, but to those who have worried, suffered and grieved to that point. After the death the grief may be the genesis of healing.
Yep and if I was unlucky to succumb to an aweful disease I dont want my family feeling guilty that they could of done something for me
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adamisk: that's actually something i never thought about for now i would probably tell them . i would also tell them to not worry about it true i done bought the ticket but the train ain't left yet .
I like your way of thinking, adam.
I also feel that eventually, even if you've never told your loved ones, your "ailment" would start to show and they would find out that way anyway. Then the repercussions of having them ask why you never told them before would probably hurt worse and, the emotional scars would probably be deeper.
A good thread to make one wonder and think about. Thanks, zee.
Jim
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crazyblondeone: awww I do love you merc!!
I Sooooooooooooooooooooo Loves Ya More
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i think i would start traveling and keep it to myself unless i had a better half i would include my kids in my travels to visit them but not tell them just fade off by myself
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My thinking is... there is nothing your family can do for you and all they will do is worry. The end may be a shock, but it deletes the long term stress that they would be under.
What are your thoughts?
zee