Apr 29, 2009 10:33 AM CST Is Friendship a better starting point before romance?
BlueSkyJWoodland Hil(near Los Angeles), California USA2 Threads229 Posts
BlueSkyJWoodland Hil(near Los Angeles), California USA229 posts
Raven0: For most people starting a relationship is hard enough. But what's the better way to begin it? Is being a friend first the way to garner attention then eventual love?
Mutual chemistry, mutual attraction is the best way for me to begin a relationship......I have plenty of friends & if I love having them, but I'm looking for a girl friend.....When we are both attracted to each other the friendship develops on a much more intimate level.....
BlueSkyJ: Mutual chemistry, mutual attraction is the best way for me to begin a relationship......I have plenty of friends & if I love having them, but I'm looking for a girl friend.....When we are both attracted to each other the friendship develops on a much more intimate level.....
i completely agree with you blueskyj.. i cannot fathom actually making love to someone i initially considered as my friend! GAAAAAAAAG! although i can deal with being crazily attracted to a guy then being the bestest friends ever later on and still be able to do the deed!
In response to: For most people starting a relationship is hard enough. But what's the better way to begin it? Is being a friend first the way to garner attention then eventual love?
That is a good ?. I've heard in some situations it developed into love, whether it worked out I couldn't say. I have 1 female friend(not intimate) and we get along tremendously and we kid around but we both feel it would compromise our friendship and that is too valuable to lose. Tough call Raven
Raven0: That's it. totally seducing 'em now. Friend shmend
friend shmend indeedy! there has to be a physical attraction first off, lets be honest! and friendship can progress later on if it is meant to last.
after all, when i am all decrepit & in my walking stick, i would like to have out of this world memories to fall back on to keep me warm during the winter nights, ya know!
g33kgurl: friend shmend indeedy! there has to be a physical attraction first off, lets be honest! and friendship can progress later on if it is meant to last.
after all, when i am all decrepit & in my walking stick, i would like to have out of this world memories to fall back on to keep me warm during the winter nights, ya know!
I'd rather have my castle and minions to fall back on. LOL But a memory can be pretty decent too.
Raven0: I'd rather have my castle and minions to fall back on. LOL But a memory can be pretty decent too.
<<<<<<looking very leery now..... i'll have a garrison full of lovely little navy guys to do my every bidding of course.. but ahhhhhhh... nothing will be able to compare with memories of hot & steamy nights with some edward cullen lookalike matey! ner ner ner
g33kgurl: <<<<<<looking very leery now..... i'll have a garrison full of lovely little navy guys to do my every bidding of course.. but ahhhhhhh... nothing will be able to compare with memories of hot & steamy nights with some edward cullen lookalike matey! ner ner ner
army beats navy lalala nuuuu But I will admit, Edward rocks!
drbombay: That is a good ?. I've heard in some situations it developed into love, whether it worked out I couldn't say. I have 1 female friend(not intimate) and we get along tremendously and we kid around but we both feel it would compromise our friendship and that is too valuable to lose. Tough call Raven
I've got conflicting ideas here. I know friends of mine have fallen for other friends, and are now married and seemigly happy. Then there are those whom the very thought has altered the friendship. A puzzler it is.
Raven0: I've got conflicting ideas here. I know friends of mine have fallen for other friends, and are now married and seemigly happy. Then there are those whom the very thought has altered the friendship. A puzzler it is.
I say go for it anyway, for some strange reason I can't explain if you make the 1st move it will not affect the relationship, if the man makes the 1st I believe it will and again I do not know why I feel thay way.
drbombay: I say go for it anyway, for some strange reason I can't explain if you make the 1st move it will not affect the relationship, if the man makes the 1st I believe it will and again I do not know why I feel thay way.
REAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAALLY??? so we can hit on our men friends but not the other way around huh??? that's not fair.. so ther eyou go raven, hit away! ner ner ner.... personally - if i hang out with a guy ie. go pub crawling or start gaming together online or lan parties, he is NOT a date material! UNLESS of course he starts buying me shiny little gifts and taking me to candlelight dinners... thennnnn... i might see him in another light...
LOL Still two conflicting ideas. Guy says, girl make move Girl says, guy make move. So then no-one makes a move. s'ok I made my move. I guess in the end, it really is just up to the person it involves. Each individual makes their choice, be it wrong or right. For there is no wrong, there is no right.
g33kgurl: REAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAALLY??? so we can hit on our men friends but not the other way around huh??? that's not fair.. so ther eyou go raven, hit away! ner ner ner.... personally - if i hang out with a guy ie. go pub crawling or start gaming together online or lan parties, he is NOT a date material! UNLESS of course he starts buying me shiny little gifts and taking me to candlelight dinners... thennnnn... i might see him in another light...
I didn't mean it for reasons you're stating, women are more secure then men and that is why.
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or you find a guy who is like edward cullen droolicious - and find out he's a one minute guy in bed......