love and least expecting ( Archived) (9)

i have found over the years that the harder you try the least luck you have in your search for love and that it always seems to come along when you are least expecting it. theres food for thought. could it be a turn off people trying to hard to make connections do people get drawn to single person that is not trying so hard. everyone wants to find that special person me included but some people i find try to hard and thatis enough to put a lot off. comments please!

in a way i agree i would love to talk andchat to people and am genuine to anyone that would talk to me be for relationship friends chat whatever . but if i mail tend not get much luck down to the bad guys that try and fake it i suppose. butif i leave comp on all the time i tend to get a genuine few that will take the time of day to talk and have a lot more success that way . i have practically given up trying to make first base myself that i think hey shes nice i like what shes got to say . lets try and get no where but if you wait and someone calls you you seem to be able to have nice conversations and i put that down to she wanted to talk and mail me first. shame theres not more like that would be pleasant to wait by my pc.

Yes, but then if we all do that, nobody will contact anybody.

I do agree with the OP. I've said that many times to others on here who express their frustration. Love happens when you stop trying so hard. Right now, I'm not actively seeking. I have several doors open, and am willing to explore what comes through them, but I'm not desperate or in a rush to find love right now.

I agree with you druidess..

We always want what we can't have.

It's all part of the challenge, I suppose.