kIDS GROWING UP AND LEAVING THE NEST. (56)
wexlady41: I Absolutely dread September!! My youngest will be going to college.
I get physically sick if I let myself think about it.
I get physically sick if I let myself think about it.
Hiya C.
Is that because you will miss him or because you will be worried how he will cope?
wexlady41: I Absolutely dread September!! My youngest will be going to college.
I get physically sick if I let myself think about it.
I get physically sick if I let myself think about it.
SNAP!!
Thats what i mean.
lancerbora: thats for sure.
Plus all the cool old school words are gone...
Get stared at when you use old cool words nowdays...
In response to: Ok,for the mums and dads here with kids,
do you ever think what its going to be like when they are all gone and you are all alone?
Perhaps its already happened to some of you and you would like to share your experience here..
Personally i find it scary,the thought of the house being quiet.
Whats your views on it or have you even thought about it?
my little lad is just gone 3 and already he is getting so independent cant imagine what he will be like when he is older hopefully he will have some sense unlike his father it would be one less worrydo you ever think what its going to be like when they are all gone and you are all alone?
Perhaps its already happened to some of you and you would like to share your experience here..
Personally i find it scary,the thought of the house being quiet.
Whats your views on it or have you even thought about it?
vonney: Hiya C.Is that because you will miss him or because you will be worried how he will cope?
Mostly because I will miss him but a little worry too. At least when the eldest went I still had the youngest at home.
It goes much deeper though. All I ever wanted to be was a mum. Have been one for the past 19 years. Now I don't know what my purpose is! They don't need me to cook/clean/nurse/pick up/drop off/comfort/teach/protect..so what am I to do now? Who am I?
I know, I know. I have been told there is more to my life than my kids..but actually there isn't really. Everything I do is for them.
wexlady41: Mostly because I will miss him but a little worry too. At least when the eldest went I still had the youngest at home.
It goes much deeper though. All I ever wanted to be was a mum. Have been one for the past 19 years. Now I don't know what my purpose is! They don't need me to cook/clean/nurse/pick up/drop off/comfort/teach/protect..so what am I to do now? Who am I?
I know, I know. I have been told there is more to my life than my kids..but actually there isn't really. Everything I do is for them.
It goes much deeper though. All I ever wanted to be was a mum. Have been one for the past 19 years. Now I don't know what my purpose is! They don't need me to cook/clean/nurse/pick up/drop off/comfort/teach/protect..so what am I to do now? Who am I?
I know, I know. I have been told there is more to my life than my kids..but actually there isn't really. Everything I do is for them.
I do hear what your saying hun but we dont have our kids to live our lives through them. Time to let them go and live their lives. Look on it as the next stage of your life, we go from being someones daughter to someones wife to someones Mother, time to just be ourselves.
wexlady41: Mostly because I will miss him but a little worry too. At least when the eldest went I still had the youngest at home.
It goes much deeper though. All I ever wanted to be was a mum. Have been one for the past 19 years. Now I don't know what my purpose is! They don't need me to cook/clean/nurse/pick up/drop off/comfort/teach/protect..so what am I to do now? Who am I?
I know, I know. I have been told there is more to my life than my kids..but actually there isn't really. Everything I do is for them.
It goes much deeper though. All I ever wanted to be was a mum. Have been one for the past 19 years. Now I don't know what my purpose is! They don't need me to cook/clean/nurse/pick up/drop off/comfort/teach/protect..so what am I to do now? Who am I?
I know, I know. I have been told there is more to my life than my kids..but actually there isn't really. Everything I do is for them.
They will always need you..when things go wrong
or they need advice they will turn to the one
that has always been there for them.
But i can identify with what you are saying..
Whats next for us??
My kids have been left home for some years now. Not only that, but my oldest daughter now lives in Barcelona, and my son just moved to Kiev. I only have one left in Ireland, and she and her partner and their kids don't even live in the same town as I do.
While I love to see them all independant and successful, and they are, very much so, I just couldn't get used to it in the beginning. It was like a bereavement every day. Luckily I had still been fostering teenagers for those first few years, so it wasn't quite so bad, but now I no longer do that this past year, the house is very empty.
I plan visits and chat with them on the internet by webcam and we get by on that, but it is still difficult not being able to meet for coffee or having our ritualistic lunch once a week to catch up with each other's news. It has been nearly a year since I have seen my daughter now, and she was the closest of my kids, and the one I would have had the most daily interaction with.
Nothing ever fills that gap I don't think. They range in age from mid twenties to thirty, so I would often go for a drink with them or to the theatre, and places like that, but since they are gone I no longer do that now by myself, because it is no fun alone.
Life certainly changes, that's for sure.....
While I love to see them all independant and successful, and they are, very much so, I just couldn't get used to it in the beginning. It was like a bereavement every day. Luckily I had still been fostering teenagers for those first few years, so it wasn't quite so bad, but now I no longer do that this past year, the house is very empty.
I plan visits and chat with them on the internet by webcam and we get by on that, but it is still difficult not being able to meet for coffee or having our ritualistic lunch once a week to catch up with each other's news. It has been nearly a year since I have seen my daughter now, and she was the closest of my kids, and the one I would have had the most daily interaction with.
Nothing ever fills that gap I don't think. They range in age from mid twenties to thirty, so I would often go for a drink with them or to the theatre, and places like that, but since they are gone I no longer do that now by myself, because it is no fun alone.
Life certainly changes, that's for sure.....
They will always need you..when things go wrong
or they need advice they will turn to the one
that has always been there for them.
But i can identify with what you are saying..
Whats next for us??[/quote]
Absoulutely anything you want, travel, socialise, learn.
or they need advice they will turn to the one
that has always been there for them.
But i can identify with what you are saying..
Whats next for us??[/quote]
Absoulutely anything you want, travel, socialise, learn.
gingerb: My kids have been left home for some years now. Not only that, but my oldest daughter now lives in Barcelona, and my son just moved to Kiev. I only have one left in Ireland, and she and her partner and their kids don't even live in the same town as I do.
While I love to see them all independant and successful, and they are, very much so, I just couldn't get used to it in the beginning. It was like a bereavement every day. Luckily I had still been fostering teenagers for those first few years, so it wasn't quite so bad, but now I no longer do that this past year, the house is very empty.
I plan visits and chat with them on the internet by webcam and we get by on that, but it is still difficult not being able to meet for coffee or having our ritualistic lunch once a week to catch up with each other's news. It has been nearly a year since I have seen my daughter now, and she was the closest of my kids, and the one I would have had the most daily interaction with.
Nothing ever fills that gap I don't think. They range in age from mid twenties to thirty, so I would often go for a drink with them or to the theatre, and places like that, but since they are gone I no longer do that now by myself, because it is no fun alone.
Life certainly changes, that's for sure.....
While I love to see them all independant and successful, and they are, very much so, I just couldn't get used to it in the beginning. It was like a bereavement every day. Luckily I had still been fostering teenagers for those first few years, so it wasn't quite so bad, but now I no longer do that this past year, the house is very empty.
I plan visits and chat with them on the internet by webcam and we get by on that, but it is still difficult not being able to meet for coffee or having our ritualistic lunch once a week to catch up with each other's news. It has been nearly a year since I have seen my daughter now, and she was the closest of my kids, and the one I would have had the most daily interaction with.
Nothing ever fills that gap I don't think. They range in age from mid twenties to thirty, so I would often go for a drink with them or to the theatre, and places like that, but since they are gone I no longer do that now by myself, because it is no fun alone.
Life certainly changes, that's for sure.....
that is so sad and i feel for you
i just dread my day coming.
vonney: They will always need you..when things go wrong
or they need advice they will turn to the one
that has always been there for them.
But i can identify with what you are saying..
Whats next for us??Absoulutely anything you want, travel, socialise, learn.
or they need advice they will turn to the one
that has always been there for them.
But i can identify with what you are saying..
Whats next for us??Absoulutely anything you want, travel, socialise, learn.
i do all that now..
its the empty house syndrome i dread..
missspecial: that is so sad and i feel for you
i just dread my day coming.
i just dread my day coming.
I think it is easier if you are not alone. I would wish for you that you have someone to go places with and plan a future with. It would be so much easier for you then.
missspecial: i do all that now..
its the empty house syndrome i dread..
its the empty house syndrome i dread..
Thats one of the things I am looking forward to.
vonney: Thats one of the things I am looking forward to.
The upside of having the house to yourself is that you don't have to tidy up other people's mess all the time. It stays tidier a lot longer.
Hi Vonney
wexlady41: Mostly because I will miss him but a little worry too. At least when the eldest went I still had the youngest at home.
It goes much deeper though. All I ever wanted to be was a mum. Have been one for the past 19 years. Now I don't know what my purpose is! They don't need me to cook/clean/nurse/pick up/drop off/comfort/teach/protect..so what am I to do now? Who am I?
I know, I know. I have been told there is more to my life than my kids..but actually there isn't really. Everything I do is for them.
well you could always adopt me It goes much deeper though. All I ever wanted to be was a mum. Have been one for the past 19 years. Now I don't know what my purpose is! They don't need me to cook/clean/nurse/pick up/drop off/comfort/teach/protect..so what am I to do now? Who am I?
I know, I know. I have been told there is more to my life than my kids..but actually there isn't really. Everything I do is for them.
gingerb: The upside of having the house to yourself is that you don't have to tidy up other people's mess all the time. It stays tidier a lot longer. Hi Vonney
Hiya
Mine have been sleeping over in friends a lot since the hols started, is great, I dont know myself lol.
vonney: They will always need you..when things go wrong
or they need advice they will turn to the one
that has always been there for them.
But i can identify with what you are saying..
Whats next for us??
Absoulutely anything you want, travel, socialise, learn.
or they need advice they will turn to the one
that has always been there for them.
But i can identify with what you are saying..
Whats next for us??
Absoulutely anything you want, travel, socialise, learn.
Travelling and Socialising are all very well if you can afford it and have someone to do them with.
Learn? It's hard enough to fund the 2 kids education..without taking on one for me too!
gingerb: The upside of having the house to yourself is that you don't have to tidy up other people's mess all the time. It stays tidier a lot longer. Hi Vonney
unless you have a dog called meg living with you 
wexlady41: Travelling and Socialising are all very well if you can afford it and have someone to do them with.
Learn? It's hard enough to fund the 2 kids education..without taking on one for me too!
Learn? It's hard enough to fund the 2 kids education..without taking on one for me too!
Havent had anyone to do these things with in years, cant let that stop us living.
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thats for sure.