single mothers... (55)

NOBLONDEHERE: interesting question

i probably wouldnt be on this site if i was single because my life would be in a very different place.... me thinks infact id be living in america

but i have 5 children two of whom still require my mothering services full time
and maybe some of the women on here with children is because the fathers sheirked their responsibilities
so we get left with all the responsibility and we take it seriously ( watch the avalanche of attacks at this thought) and i am not saying men dont get a raw deal with regard to custody etc because they do
but my experience is a lot of women get left holding the baby

but maybe thats not what u meant

if you have children they have to be ur priority so therefore it is unlikely you will have a fantastic social life unless u have a wonderful mum or family to keep taking ur children while u go off galalvanting

and there is the crux of it

we think it is galavanting and we feel guilty so we stay at home and spend what time we have with our chislers and put ourselves on hold

or

use a site like this to have a bit of a life, and laugh and make friends and maybe even find dare I say it love but our children come first

maybe

a thread should follow how u introduce ur children to ur male dates

never
at some point
only when ur ready to take things a step further ( he's movin in or ur moving out)

some thoughts for u gorrestfump

gorrestfump: well personally i think its ok to introdce ur date to a child, but any kind of connection that is goin to be built up between them should only happen when ye both agree the relationship is goin somewhere serious..

happyoutin: what a great answer

as a single mother of 2 beautful kids,they do come first always,ive had offers of dates here but at short notice so its a no go,are men that stupid you just cant walk out the door lots to organise before you do.

nitak: Hey Gumpy, as a matter of interest, did you go through the mens profiles to c how many were single fathers

Perhaps you shud have named the thread "single parents" as for every single mother out there, there is also a father, a small minority maybe who arnt single !.. ...U no me i like to keep the balance

Oh! and i also like to hear mens views on this

gorrestfump: hey hun... good to see u back here again.. havent seen u in a while..

and well said...

and i dont think any guy would see u as a mother first and a woman second... other way round i reckon..:)

lancerbora: hiya...ahh was just taking a chill fro here...

thanks hun xx