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Sounds to me that your lady friend is an amazing women..and i gove my lvoe to her and hope she stays strong..but if the man of her dreams was meant to be..he could look past the breast cancer thing..because to me that is very very shallow of him to leave her for something that was beyond her control..thats not right ..just because she wouldnt have breasts shouldnt matter if he was in love with her for the person she is and not what she had or what she was gonna loose..your dear friend derserves the world because what she is goin throuugh is a rough time in her life and she needs to be strong for herself..and not worry about someone else..im sure it hurts but with the love and suppot of a friend like you she will get through it..
much love to you and your friend..Good luck to her
much love to you and your friend..Good luck to her
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To niece3
That is sad about your friend, I can tell you that guy was not really the man for her, when he ran after she found out of BC. She is a survivor and let her know that and one door will shut but many will open. That would be my biggest fear of having breast cancer, I have many friends die of BC and if caught early maybe they would be here now. Your friend is lucky he left now because she will struggle with this after she has the Masectomy, obviously he was not much of a man, I hope I don't meet someone like that, There is also breast reconstruction that is an option. Life is not over tell her that she will rise above and be alive which is most important. She should go to a counsellor to talk and get advice.
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That is sad about your friend, I can tell you that guy was not really the man for her, when he ran after she found out of BC. She is a survivor and let her know that and one door will shut but many will open. That would be my biggest fear of having breast cancer, I have many friends die of BC and if caught early maybe they would be here now. Your friend is lucky he left now because she will struggle with this after she has the Masectomy, obviously he was not much of a man, I hope I don't meet someone like that, There is also breast reconstruction that is an option. Life is not over tell her that she will rise above and be alive which is most important. She should go to a counsellor to talk and get advice.
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sounds like the guy is a jerk and she is better without him, people with cancer have enough to face and the negative people in their life needs to leave, just my opinion. Sorry to hear though, my prayers are with her.
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thanks, i just want her to realise that she is still the strong woman that has adopted and raised 4 kids and still has plently of life left and try not to kill the jerk all at the same time. instead of planning for tomorrow like she normally would she is planning for if she pasts and what will happen to her children. how can i get her to see that
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here, there is three kinds of people in this world, 1= is the leaves, when the wind blows they go over there and it blows again they go the other way, then there is the branches= come a mighty wind they break and fall, then there is the roots, only a few roots to make a tree live and they are not seen to take the credit, so you wanna keep your roots because that is the people who stays with you even through the worst times, and as long as their is a root, there is hope for the tree. Originally wrote by Tyler Perry.
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U R her friend. Keep her busy support her. and love her............Be her rock she will move on with your love for her as a friend! 
niece3!!!!!!!!!
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I agree,
Sounds like he has a real case of the a*s.
We should love each other for who we are
not for what we look like. He should be
there for her. A family member of mine
had to get one of her breasts removed.
Her insurance covered the reconstructive
surgery. Is this an option? For her self
esteem, definetly not for him. What a
looser.
Sounds like he has a real case of the a*s.
We should love each other for who we are
not for what we look like. He should be
there for her. A family member of mine
had to get one of her breasts removed.
Her insurance covered the reconstructive
surgery. Is this an option? For her self
esteem, definetly not for him. What a
looser.
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MY 2 CENTS
Your friend needs you just talk to her listen be her shoulder when she needs you give her hope hun jsut pray for her if this guy cant be with her is she doesnt have breast then she cant be with him cause he doesnt have a heart
Your friend needs you just talk to her listen be her shoulder when she needs you give her hope hun jsut pray for her if this guy cant be with her is she doesnt have breast then she cant be with him cause he doesnt have a heart
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First and foremost I pray that all goes well with treatment,my Mon had it 18 years ago,the breast was removed,and Mom is in her 80's and doing well.Maybe he don't know how to handle it,or if in deed he "he could not love a woman without breast"it's better that she get's well(and She will)and move on,a brighter day and better thing's are to come.
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It is hard to deal with any medical problem that is a long term situation... and losing what you cherished and adored because of it, Is a devasting blow to ones emotional and mental state...
Just saying she's lucky to be rid of him, is no real comfort to her right now.
I would suggest support groups onlne and off, those who still are combating the same condition and those that have successfully went thru it... maybe he is doing the same..maybe (support and learning about it)
Advances are being made daily to combat and eradicate this disease.
It is unfortunate this occurred , but, if it wasn't real it would have happened eventually... be grarteful that he did not lead you on with false hope and deceit.
As we age are proirites change, in the way of wants and needs our partners can and must fulfill... he was a breast kinda guy, just maybe...if its a real attraction he will contact you again.
This is a hard thing to ask, but look at it from his perspective ..never met, never seen, never shared an phyiscal intimate moment... thats alot for anyone to adjust to, the fear and doubt he had to experience... if he was capable of, or continue dealing with a partner with such a condition.... time can do wonders to /for a relationship... as I said maybe this guy is battling with himself as we speak, then again ...
She should ask herself can she deal with a man that cuts and runs at the first sign of a problem or complication? In life, theres always something to contend with....always.
Personally, I say address the health problems, and let the magic of love work at its own pace.
no harm or hurt intended
just an opinion
Just saying she's lucky to be rid of him, is no real comfort to her right now.
I would suggest support groups onlne and off, those who still are combating the same condition and those that have successfully went thru it... maybe he is doing the same..maybe (support and learning about it)
Advances are being made daily to combat and eradicate this disease.
It is unfortunate this occurred , but, if it wasn't real it would have happened eventually... be grarteful that he did not lead you on with false hope and deceit.
As we age are proirites change, in the way of wants and needs our partners can and must fulfill... he was a breast kinda guy, just maybe...if its a real attraction he will contact you again.
This is a hard thing to ask, but look at it from his perspective ..never met, never seen, never shared an phyiscal intimate moment... thats alot for anyone to adjust to, the fear and doubt he had to experience... if he was capable of, or continue dealing with a partner with such a condition.... time can do wonders to /for a relationship... as I said maybe this guy is battling with himself as we speak, then again ...
She should ask herself can she deal with a man that cuts and runs at the first sign of a problem or complication? In life, theres always something to contend with....always.
Personally, I say address the health problems, and let the magic of love work at its own pace.
no harm or hurt intended
just an opinion
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none taken, and thanks for everything those are somethings that i can now talk with her about and if anyone can help with advice to her son whom is sitting here with me that would also be great he is 19 and wants to put off going back to college to help take care of his younger sib. thanks again
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well her son must be a wonerderfull person for takin on the resposibility of helping his mom out..andhe should talk to his mom about it and ask her what she thinks for she is the person to tell him what he can and cant do..if i was in that situation i would take all the help i can to support a family memeber..I am a singal mother of 2 so i no how hard it is to do it on your own..hope you have the best of luck My prayers are with you's
much love 
much love
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thanks to everyone my name is jack and i am the oldest kid of the 4 my mom has adopted. my auntie was nice enough to let me on here to say thanks and i have talked to my mom about going back to school, she wants me to go and i want to stay she says the younger ones look up to me and i need to be there for them and show them we have nothing to fear but fear itself. but here is the thing mom took me and my 3 sib. in when we had no place to go and for that i will always be greatful and now when i feel she needs me for a change i feel that she is pushing me away. my dad is her ex husband and they never had kids together but when he divorced her he did not want us anymore either and she could have turned us away but no she took us now i feel i should be here for her and she keeps pushing us away. any advice would be great. thanks, jack
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well just dont let her push you away tell her how you feel tell her that you dont want to leave because you want to be there to help her out like she helped you out..but if she still says no dont feel bad about goin back to school.from what i can tell from what your aunt said that your mom is a very strong women and she is your rock..just tell her you wanna be hers and you are there for her through thick and thin....You also have to respect what she wants because she has been there for you always..Right?? If she wants you to go to school, then that jsut means she wants the best for you and for you to have a good life..if thats the case be there for her when ever you can..but thats just my opionin------ This thread is Archived ------
well if she wants you to go to school and not live at home..then you have to do it..ask her if you could go back to school and still live at home..
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Wow! What a jerk that guy is. A woman's breasts are the last thing I look at when I see someone who I am attracted to. Boy, he better hope he never loses anything. That is about the coldest thing I have ever heard.
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I will be praying that your friend makes a full recovery and that they have detected the cancer soon enough so that she will win this battle.
I think the important thing is for you to be there for her and offer support if you can. Friends and family are important in life and more important when we are facing stuggles.
As for this man - it is better that he was honest with her and left because he obviously did not love her. To love someone it shouldn't matter if any part of your body is missing because that's what love is really about - loving the whole person body/soul and spirit. Not just the external shell. May he grow in maturity and wisdom to realize this one day.
I think the important thing is for you to be there for her and offer support if you can. Friends and family are important in life and more important when we are facing stuggles.
As for this man - it is better that he was honest with her and left because he obviously did not love her. To love someone it shouldn't matter if any part of your body is missing because that's what love is really about - loving the whole person body/soul and spirit. Not just the external shell. May he grow in maturity and wisdom to realize this one day.
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well last nite he broke if off with her because he said he could not love a woman without breast. my friend is such a wonderful person and is so hurt but at the sametime i know that somewhere under all the hurt and pain is that strong woman who opened her home to any kid who was having problems at home are just need a meal and someone to care. so please help me get her to see that she is the same person and he did not really love her to start with.
thank you