is there a bond (85)
steven6611victor Harbor, South Australia Australia3 Threads 672 Postssame here Kizzy 
, as Blonde said at least they know that their mum loves them very much , the only thing I can say is in the long run its his loss and I hope in years to come he looks back & realises he is the biggest loser out
, as Blonde said at least they know that their mum loves them very much , the only thing I can say is in the long run its his loss and I hope in years to come he looks back & realises he is the biggest loser out
blondeaozichick: at least your kids have one parent who gives a damn about them
what a waste of space your ex is
what a waste of space your ex is
Yes I spent the last three years in mediation to get him to take an interest Ive had 7 different orders drawn up from every second weekend to once a month whateva he wanted so he would see them I offered to not accept childsupport if he would just hang out with them once a week
he went along with each for a few months then stopped comming didnt call it was torchure for the kids especially my youngest Its been a rough road emotionally for us all I have been indifferent but today recieved a text basically saying its my fault he wont come I make him feel guilty ....
gee wonder why?
Its very sad to watch your children cry
breaks a mothers heart
steven6611: same here Kizzy , as Blonde said at least they know that their mum loves them very much , the only thing I can say is in the long run its his loss and I hope in years to come he looks back & realises he is the biggest loser out
thanks Blonde & steven
Its just upsetting when someone is so outrightly selfish your just powerless to do anything but turn away in disgust
sad as it is it would have been so much easier to been widowed at least the kids could have grieved & moved on they grieve everyday
kizzy27: Not the kids my kids rock its the claytons father i refer too
he is feeling guilty for not seeing or calling them since christmas day ....Text me today he claimed its not his fault the work pressures time etcetc etc etc 7 months zero contact now heres the best part about this he lives within 5 kilometres & hasnt bothered cement shoes are actually too good for him
OMG!!!!!!he is feeling guilty for not seeing or calling them since christmas day ....Text me today he claimed its not his fault the work pressures time etcetc etc etc 7 months zero contact now heres the best part about this he lives within 5 kilometres & hasnt bothered cement shoes are actually too good for him
Sorry you are going through similar Redsteven6611: Sorry you are going through similar Red
Thanks Steven... Yeah he doesn't want to have the kids and when he does it's because he's paid a child support payment and thinks he might as well have them if he is paying for them
They hadn't seen him for 5 years and now his daughter who is 13 doesn't want to know him
Sorry Kizz... I get where you ladies are coming from, my ex hasnt seen shortie for 10 years!!!!
She finally found him on face book the other day, and they are having a lovely time sending emails to each other...
She finally found him on face book the other day, and they are having a lovely time sending emails to each other...
i'm good hook line and sinker
There is certainly no bond between my kids Dad and myself.
In fact I loathe the idiot.
In fact I loathe the idiot.
Now see great thread John I wouldnt have known I wasnt the only woman who married & bred with a total loser
Now begs the question how on earth did we end up with these clowns ?
another thread perhaps
To all you guys and girls who share children with a**hole at least our kids have 1 good parent better than some im afraid
Kizzy
Now begs the question how on earth did we end up with these clowns ?
another thread perhaps
To all you guys and girls who share children with a**hole at least our kids have 1 good parent better than some im afraid
Kizzy
kizzy27: Now see great thread John I wouldnt have known I wasnt the only woman who married & bred with a total loser Now begs the question how on earth did we end up with these clowns ?
another thread perhaps
To all you guys and girls who share children with a**hole at least our kids have 1 good parent better than some im afraid
Kizzy
they are not downs,they make us strong and help us to evolve and make us better people and that's life my friend and i loved your cellar cheersanother thread perhaps
To all you guys and girls who share children with a**hole at least our kids have 1 good parent better than some im afraid
Kizzy
No JD thats not true, we can only give our own personal experience, and that is NOT gender specific...there are guys on here who fought tooth and nail to get their kids away from disfunctional ex wives.
Every situation is different and for every child, that child has a mother & father.
In a happy world, it would be nice, even if parents split, that the child/children envolved still had both in their lives but life isnt always that simple.
The welfare of the children is what is most important and sometimes they are better of with their mothers and sometimes their fathers, whoever is going to nuture them and love them and put their needs first.
You mums & dads do the best you can, just by reading your posts here and its sad that sometimes the other parent cannot be loving or caring as they should, maybe that is for the best in some cases, especially when the other is scum (be it male/female).
Cheers to be great & loving parents (mums or dads)
(especially single ones)
Every situation is different and for every child, that child has a mother & father.
In a happy world, it would be nice, even if parents split, that the child/children envolved still had both in their lives but life isnt always that simple.
The welfare of the children is what is most important and sometimes they are better of with their mothers and sometimes their fathers, whoever is going to nuture them and love them and put their needs first.
You mums & dads do the best you can, just by reading your posts here and its sad that sometimes the other parent cannot be loving or caring as they should, maybe that is for the best in some cases, especially when the other is scum (be it male/female).
Cheers to be great & loving parents (mums or dads)
(especially single ones)
tarnsnz: That is really sad Kizzy that a father could actually drive past ya house and child & not even stop!, My heart really goes to you and children and dont blame you at all for the words he obviously deserves.
You shouldnt have to enforce visits, you would think as the other parent, you would want to see your children and then they wonder later in life, why their kids no longer want anything to do with them.
You shouldnt have to enforce visits, you would think as the other parent, you would want to see your children and then they wonder later in life, why their kids no longer want anything to do with them.
It does make you wonder later on in life when the kids are getting married and having grandchildren if these deadbeat parents are kicking themselves for missing such wonderful milestones or if they were invited, actually turn up??
My dad died when I was 18 and when I was organising my wedding, that tv show 'Weddings' was on and I remember watching this one episode where this girls father was in hospital with cancer and he was dying. That was the most horrible day because I actually realised that my dad was not going to be around to give me away. I was a bubbling idiot absolutely bawling my eyes out and it still really upsets me that he was not there for a huge day in my life. Makes you wonder what will happen when our kids get to that stage, especially if you have girls.
dizzy me again 
forgot to put quote around 1st paragraph on previous reply
my comments are after 1st paragraph
(its ok, i have a glass of red wine in hand lol)
forgot to put quote around 1st paragraph on previous reply
my comments are after 1st paragraph
(its ok, i have a glass of red wine in hand lol)
Ralf74: It does make you wonder later on in life when the kids are getting married and having grandchildren if these deadbeat parents are kicking themselves for missing such wonderful milestones or if they were invited, actually turn up??
My dad died when I was 18 and when I was organising my wedding, that tv show 'Weddings' was on and I remember watching this one episode where this girls father was in hospital with cancer and he was dying. That was the most horrible day because I actually realised that my dad was not going to be around to give me away. I was a bubbling idiot absolutely bawling my eyes out and it still really upsets me that he was not there for a huge day in my life. Makes you wonder what will happen when our kids get to that stage, especially if you have girls.
My dad died when I was 18 and when I was organising my wedding, that tv show 'Weddings' was on and I remember watching this one episode where this girls father was in hospital with cancer and he was dying. That was the most horrible day because I actually realised that my dad was not going to be around to give me away. I was a bubbling idiot absolutely bawling my eyes out and it still really upsets me that he was not there for a huge day in my life. Makes you wonder what will happen when our kids get to that stage, especially if you have girls.
Luckily I have a wonderful 17 yr old son whom I know will be proud to give his sister away
He loves her with all his heart
For us our family unit is a tight one without him As Im sure yours is Ralf
It does make you wonder later on in life when the kids are getting married and having grandchildren if these deadbeat parents are kicking themselves for missing such wonderful milestones or if they were invited, actually turn up??
Probably times like those, or 21st that they then think they are entitled to be a parent after all the missed years!
Difficult moments as well, like my sons 21st is 6mths away and its probably a time that he would want both parents to be there but also creates a difficult situation, so i am thinking 2 separate 21st, be safe.
Probably times like those, or 21st that they then think they are entitled to be a parent after all the missed years!
Difficult moments as well, like my sons 21st is 6mths away and its probably a time that he would want both parents to be there but also creates a difficult situation, so i am thinking 2 separate 21st, be safe.
kizzy27: Luckily I have a wonderful 17 yr old son whom I know will be proud to give his sister away
He loves her with all his heart
For us our family unit is a tight one without him As Im sure yours is Ralf
He loves her with all his heart
For us our family unit is a tight one without him As Im sure yours is Ralf
Yes indeed.
very close, you take on one, you take on all of us. 
Your son sounds like a very mature and sensible young man, you must be so proud of him.
I must admit I am so envious of you all. Even though you have all had problems with your partners & have raised your children yourselves. Firstly I do think very highly of all of you and it is obvious that you have very strong family units. For me it is a touch of both sadness & also yes that dreaded jealous word as I never got the chance to enjoy children growing up.
steven6611: I must admit I am so envious of you all. Even though you have all had problems with your partners & have raised your children yourselves. Firstly I do think very highly of all of you and it is obvious that you have very strong family units. For me it is a touch of both sadness & also yes that dreaded jealous word as I never got the chance to enjoy children growing up.
Would you ever think about fostering Steven?
Might give you an opportunity to do something positive for someone while getting a taste of parenting and being able to share yourself with someone else who needs you.Ralf74: Yes indeed. very close, you take on one, you take on all of us.
Your son sounds like a very mature and sensible young man, you must be so proud of him.
Your son sounds like a very mature and sensible young man, you must be so proud of him.
Yes Your sons are young yet when they become young men and say to you mum I couldnt have wanted anything more than youve given to me all these yrs your heart will melt & you know youve done right by thenm 7 their future partners
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