Dating someone who divorces (10)

Hi all,

Can anyone tell me if it is a good or bad idea to date someone who is in the middle of a divorce fight?

They have been married for about 6 years.
There are three kids.
Now they are separated.
The legal fighting for who gets what is still going on.

Is it a a rather bad idea to start a relationship with her - while the other one is still not finished ?

Well… for me the landmark always was my feelings, (and the man’s in question feelings of course), I would keep my bearings on that, not on current circumstances.

There are no people without one or other grief at any given moment. If you love each other you will find solutions for all problems sooner or later.

But from my experience: if you ask then you are not sure about your own feelings, and then there is not much point in starting something serious.

I don't see anything wrong with it personally. But there again I am speaking as someone whom has been seperated for 4 1/2 yrs and only just going through the divorce (Even though it is straight forward, no bickering over kids or whom has what..)

I feel, and it is ONLY my thoughts.... That you ask and way you ask this Q, is 'cos, you don't feel as if you are able to take this kind of thing on board - Too much like hard work??? -- No offence meant. Because it is for some people. But I suppose if you wanted her and loved her enough..........You would stick by her, be her rock, in one of lifes most horrible situations.

All i can say if the person is feeling the stress of it or bitter to the other person ..it will all take its toll on you as the third party...

IF its a thing were its all riding smoothly and the one you want is dealing with it in a good way well there is no real reason why not.....

but if this person as children and there is a fight about custody or other things to do with the children again not a good time to be invloved......

well not impossible but becareful ...one that you dont get caught in the middle and two to ensure that their relationship is really over ..........

'Let no man thingybobby with a married woman'

My only problem is that when a couple are separated that there is still the possibility of a reconciliation. We all want marriages to work - so if I fell in love with a separated but still married woman and the couple had a chance (however slim) to be reconciled I should wish them to be reconciled; in which case I'd be happy for them but heartbroken!

I'd say that there is nothing wrong with having feelings for another person who is going through a divorce, but that you are not 100% free to commit to each other until the married person is made free by a divorce or annulment.

I intensely dislike the Maltese culture of separation - I know people who use this marital status to 'have the best of both worlds' and to me it totally sucks of hypocracy!

It IS possible for Maltese to get a divorce in contrast to an annulment - all one party has to do is go and live in another EU country for six months and get a divorce there; although divorce is illegal in Malta a divorce granted in another EU country I believe is binding here!

Some people like to be married yet free to enjoy affairs without the possibility of making any real commitment - being separated yet still legally married makes the unmarried person in a relationship have no hope for a real long-term relationship as a couple.