I have a question for the guys ( Archived) (71)

Possible and probable...but not feasible...
They are still attached.

The worst one I saw was a man saying he was widowed! Found out his wife is alive and has Alzeimers.How sick is that!

Maybe the women ought to get into this discussion. Why would a woman want someone who wasn't available yet. It doesn't work, something is always coming up to prevent the finalization.
Also, don't you think that it's like jumping out of the frying pan into the fire trying for a relationship so soon after you just got out of one that didn't work?

Good morning, thanks for looking anyway.

Actually, LF, I can also answer this as a woman who did this twice. My first marriage had been over for a year before I separated from him, and we weren't legally divorced yet when I started dating my second husband. I got remarried withing weeks of the finalization of that divorce, had two children to him, and was married to him for 7 years...until his personality change from his medications.

Why did this work? Because my first marriage was really over before I walked down the aisle, I think...it was a huge mistake. My second one was a good one, and I honestly loved him for who he was, and had it not been for his medication and the changes it made in him, we'd most likely still be together.

I started dating my third husband while separated from my second, and moved in with him before the divorce was final. Again, I married shortly after the finalization of that divorce...however, this one was a mistake...a rebound. I married what I'd just left, someone who was emotionally abusive and controlling.

I'd been divorced already for a few months when I started dating my last, and late, husband. Again, a man I loved very much for who he was, and to whom I'd still be married if he hadn't died.

It's not always a mistake to look for a permanent relationship while you're still separated. It depends on how long the marriage was actually over, and where you are emotionally in your healing from it.

I usually don't read past the age requirements, however I read yours and you state very clearly what you are looking for. Very good.

Well, it's lying, that's for sure. And I know I can't trust anyone who lies like that, regardless of the reason that they give for doing so.

But if his wife is in a home and has Alzheimer's, and it's been years since he had a true relationship with her, can you blame him for seeking companionship? (I realize you can blame him for the lie, but that's not what I'm asking.)

Very sick. The worst I saw was a man who's wife had Alzeimers and he admitted it and that he was in the process of a divorce...would be very lengthy because of his 'assets'.

well every time im at work.. or working out or basically not with the wiff....I AM separated so there !!!!!


oh....wait i just read the last part about serious answers....


...scratch that !!!!