SO-refer to the bad boy thread I did-my ex was (maybe still is I don't know) a drug dealer-I quit all drugs when I was 19 I don't see the point anymore just to get that straight
I knew he lied I knew he cheated I knew how conniving and mischievous he was...I also knew all his dirty little secrets he couldn't hind! I stayed with him for 2 years believing he loved me and he didn't know how to stop his stuff. It came to an end which involved hiding until his trial because I was in danger. I talked to his "girl on the side" on the phone-his phone he left behind and i answered it because it was labeled his brother whom he was going fishing with. She had a son as well and thought we were not together anymore...we were not only that I defended him to myself and stayed with him. I found an assortment of paraphernalia for weed, crack, coke (his favorite) and many other things. I dismissed them as he pegged a sibling with a serious heroin problem. Instead of facing the problem I justified it to myself and others. My friends saw straight through him it was I who was blind.
Moral: I always trust myself and never shut my eyes to people. I don't believe humans are generally good and decent anymore I believe everyone has something to hide and will do so with everything they have even if it means hurting others. I no longer take people at face value and I don't put up with crap from anyone anymore....
this may not be what you wanted Gilly-and maybe TMI for here but if someone else can learn from my situations than I have helped
gillyloves69OPlondon, Greater London, England UK7,359 posts
friends4now: Trouble-I know what he looks like-my ex
SO-refer to the bad boy thread I did-my ex was (maybe still is I don't know) a drug dealer-I quit all drugs when I was 19 I don't see the point anymore just to get that straight
I knew he lied I knew he cheated I knew how conniving and mischievous he was...I also knew all his dirty little secrets he couldn't hind! I stayed with him for 2 years believing he loved me and he didn't know how to stop his stuff. It came to an end which involved hiding until his trial because I was in danger. I talked to his "girl on the side" on the phone-his phone he left behind and i answered it because it was labeled his brother whom he was going fishing with. She had a son as well and thought we were not together anymore...we were not only that I defended him to myself and stayed with him. I found an assortment of paraphernalia for weed, crack, coke (his favorite) and many other things. I dismissed them as he pegged a sibling with a serious heroin problem. Instead of facing the problem I justified it to myself and others. My friends saw straight through him it was I who was blind.
Moral: I always trust myself and never shut my eyes to people. I don't believe humans are generally good and decent anymore I believe everyone has something to hide and will do so with everything they have even if it means hurting others. I no longer take people at face value and I don't put up with crap from anyone anymore....
this may not be what you wanted Gilly-and maybe TMI for here but if someone else can learn from my situations than I have helped
welcome to the thread friends4now !...and thanks for joining us !
gillyloves69OPlondon, Greater London, England UK7,359 posts
friends4now: gilly
what are you studying?
well first of all thanks for telling us your story ...and talking straight from the heart friends4now
not many people can do that !
this year i'm going to be studying digital video editing, film theory, narrative and documentary !
i love doing courses and meeting friends on the courses that i do..its not really about the qualifications really... but the ' meeting people to make films with, and becomes long term friends with !
i'm in no great rush to go back onto film sets as a professional person because i've done that for years as a lighting man ( its the being a student bit that i like more than anything else) !
and trying to fullfil dreams with colleagues and having more creative say in what i'm involved in even if its unprofessional standards
so how were you able to cope with the nightmare that you went through then ?
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