long distance (11)

hi everybody been on here now a few months and was just wondering what people tought of long distance relationships, would anyone consider of meeting someone from a diffrent country and could a long distance relationship work.

I try it b4, Always feel so tired after driving long jounary, but it can be hard if, no car, are u willing do it every weekend?
I can't now, not with the puppy, and i can't keep dumping him off to my folks, every other weekend!
looking for local man! or near by!

Hi Biggles,

The short answer to your Q is yes...You may get some pointers here

Well, it has worked for me. It was difficult, and very stressful at times, but it has worked out better than I could possibly have imagined.

Its not an easy thing to do, and depending on the countries involved it can be expensive and complicated to relocate, but it really depends on your personal circumstances. I had no ties, as in children or property commitments and it was relatively easy for me. My partner had his own business and property, so it made sense for me to be the one to move.

I certainly think that giving it some thought is not wrong, and keeping one's opinions open is vital. Limiting oneself to a radius of say, 50 - 100 miles is somewhat restricting.

Anyway, just my story..

Its not a question of the heart ruling the head, TG. Sometimes, it makes sense in ALL respects to make the move.

A romance with someone 10 miles down the road is just as likely to end in failure than one with hundreds or even thousands of miles in between. In fact, the trust and commitment issues are tested FAR more in a LDR, so in a way the foundations for a strong, long lasting relationship are way stronger than in a local relationship, simply due to the logistics involved.

There are no guarantees in any relationship, so I just think its best to keep an open mind, and not limit yourself to any kind of restriction.

IMO long distance just doesnt work.. sure there are stories which shows that it has worked with some people, but in the main, and from personal experience... it just dont work..:(

I think its as much hit and miss as any normal relationship, really. For some, it works, for some it dont - as you said. Think it depends on personal circumstances and commitments.

As I said before, it takes a bucket load of trust, and alot of patience. As far as Im concerend, Im very glad I stuck it out, because now Im happier than Ive ever been.

As regards TG's post, well, LDR are also about people who have met and for some reason cannot live together straight away. In those cases you already know if the chemistry is there.

As regards visas and things - yes, some countries can be complicated, but Ireland has the whole EU on the horizon, which require in the main no visas or changes of currency, and, I might add, a lot better climate!! Just think maybe, if one is able to consider it, moving further afield would be good. Its also an adventure - nothing ventured, nothing gained!