Paranoia or just too pushy? ( Archived) (13)

So I realize I don't know all of you very well. I've been really just lurking around the forum for the most part in the past week, getting a feel for it. And I want to say first that I think most of you are really great and interesting people. It's been a pleasure reading about you guys and seeing your very witty responses. Lovely people... :)

Now I have a question for anyone who would like to step up and give me their opinion.

Is there such a thing as being too pushy with regards to starting a relationship on here? I know we sign onto a site like this and meeting someone is really the point, but has anyone had an experience where a guy or girl seemed a bit too eager to get involved or meet you? Maybe I'm paranoid...I mean, or too cautious?

Anyone understand what I mean?

Yes, I think that has happened here. As a matter of a fact, I believe I lost a chance at a really good relationship because I was a bit to eager...

I just wanted to reduce her risk, because she had kids, but she took it as "needy, and desperate", and it all fell apart.

Examine your situation closely, and be cautious. It may be what you think it is, or it may really be something wonderful for you...

Either way, be careful. Plan public meetings and all that if you go on with it.

You can stalk me any time. I am naturally paranid. Remembering that line from "The Little Mermaid", "You shouldn't lurk around in doorways people might question your upbringing." Too pushy for a woman, hmm. I think that is a contradiction in terms for some men in here if it is a woman being pushy to have a relationship because I think there is a lot of guys in here that want a relationship with a woman. Too eager? lmao. Too cautious is normal in here. I can understand you but then I am paranoid, too.

Roy

I understand what you mean. I'll try to be objective about it. I just find it to be a little bit much...too quick, too soon. You know.
Thank you for the advice :) I appreciate it.

I think You need to follow Your instincts... You can send a flower or email to some one, see what their response is or they have the option of not responding. Sometimes people don't get on line every day, so patience is a good thing. I don't think "making a move" in a thread is a good plan, not in my comfort zone anyway.....
The name of the site should make our intent clear..."Connecting" is a big clue....Assertive is acceptable, I think....Rude and or aggressive are not acceptable...the Forum Rules are pretty simple...
Enjoy.
You're a nice addition to the forums...You've been "lurking" in a pleasing way.

Welcome!!!

LOL thanks...Yeah I can be a bit too cautious or paranoid whichever you want to call it...lol So I know what you mean.

Got it. And thanks for the welcome! :)

Paranoia can destroy ya, lol.

Yea, it's somewhat of a curse. lol