Asian Woman ( Archived) (122)

Of course,the weather. And economically,in comparison to living in the U.K.,how does it differ?

hi morgan



i read what you had left me you stated that i dont listen and i am set in my ways i do listen but i come behind the guys the mens group i am involved in has helped me and in return for the help i had gotten i am able to see how unfair the courts can be especialy towards us guys


when my x wife left me for 5yrs i had no contac with my son i did not know where they wer i had no contac from my x wife the only contac i had was to have the divorce papers signed


a guy has no leg to stand on and what i was told if i took off with my son i would have been charged and in a lot of trouble but when it comes to a western women she will not get into trouble if she leaves with the kids


i payed a fair bit to track my x wife down and when the first contac was made she was making it hard for me to establish contac with my son my son was 2yrs old when i saw him last all i saw was my son crying in the back seat wanting me


she did what her mother told her to do even lied to the police i was taken to narrabri police station slaped with an avo and had to hitch baack to boggabri


my mate told the cop that it was my x wife who was egging me and he said i am inocent


one of my best friends also was charged for taking off with his 4 boys the boys wanted to be with him not the mother when she finaly tracked them down he was arrested slaped with an avo the boys were returned to ther mother the only way he could have his boys was by doing what his solicitor told him to do he had to work a 2 job he know has the 4 boys his x got into a fair bit of trouble department off community services came behind my friend


i met a guy who was sleeping in his car the poor guy had to put up with what his x threw at him and she knew how to hurt him



an asian women would not have the same support as my x wife had gotten


we have support groups set up to help women but no support groups wer set in place to help us fathers only know do we have support groups that are set up to help us dads


i dont see this set up in the philippines i have an indonesan friend who lives in jarkata she tels me thes support groups dont exist in her country and said that this is what the women want in her country were the courts come behind them



thank you for acknowledging that some asian women have been chassed of and others have been welcomed





i dont see it wher the courts have come behind us guys in australia morgan we want the courts to come behind us but the courts come behind the mother and ther are greedy solicitors who will take us threw the dry cleaners even if we are not that rich they will do what the x tells them to do but if we try to do this to our x wifes they will not bend or wil they listen to us










damo9

high morgan



its ok and i can see also where you are comming from and i am sorry to hear what you had been threw with your firt husband moran


when i first had contac with my son it was iike i was a stranger to him and slowly he is comming around morgan he has a father my x wifes new husband and the last request she wanted was for me to alow my son to have her new husbands last name which means my name is no longer on his birth certificate

my solicitor morgan told me to put up with what ever she threw at me he told me not to bite back he told me to write everything down and use a tape recorder she would leave abusive messages on the answering machaine i did not want to get to her or hurt her or did i want to take my son off her i just wanted what a father wants to not loose contac with my son


what i share it does not mean that i am a bitter man morgan i am at a point in my life were i know what i want and i am not scared to get out of my comfort zones

the guys we get comming to our mens group are shattered and bitter men morgan we help them with the family law court we turn up with them on ther first visit by law the courts state for the first few contacts with your child you have to agree to what the coursts state in the paper work and what hurts you have a worker from department off community services watching and writting everything down they watch how the child reacts to you and they watch how you react with your own child


when they see that you can be trusted you get either visiting rights or phone contac when it comes to visiting rights you only have your child to the allocated time given to you and if you are late your x wife has the right to call the police and you better have a good excuse for being late



we adress issues that the courts wil not adress and the guys i am with are decent guys morgan i did not know thes groups existed


but you learn and you advertise and tell other men that thes groups are available for them



i can see where you are comming from morgan but i also feel for the asian women in my friends country


i told them of the support groups set up in our country and they wish that ther are thes support groups set up in ther countrys

what hurts i am doing the right thing yet i was also told because my son no longer is carrying my last name why should i be paying child support i simply pay child support and shut up and do what i can to keep the peace i lov my son and thats all that matters


take care morgan






damo9

high morgan



thank you and i am sorry to and yes you are right solicitors can put words in our mouth i did not want to use a solicitor i know how mean some can be they are like vampires morgan and i know that a solicitor will lie to get what he or she wants for there client


i too dont like seeing kids being used as pawns morgan but what can you do greed has set in and our courts need to be cleaned up where they listen to both the parents were you dont use solicitors to do the talking on your behalf


i am also sorry to hear what your daughter is going threw to and i am glad that she is alowing the husband to see his child


i know you did not want to do what you did but the courts some how come behind the women and you end up leaving a bitter taste when you have worked hard all your life to own your own home


the guys i am with dont get payed for what they do morgan thes guys are just like the guys hear and some are like jd and my self

we just share from our personal experiances when a new guy comes to the group only know is the family law court seeing how good of a job thes support groups are doing


long time ago thes groups never existed morgan i wish they did as my dad could have gotten a lot of input and this is wher we are trying to get thes groups for us guys established with in australia you need support to run thes groups and some times we pay for what we need to keep thes groups running


but the women some how have support from the goverment


our funding comes from the fun runs we do in our communities


i am glad you know have a good guy


my fear is this if i ever have a child i dont want to go threw what i went threw with my first wife i dont tend to let past hurts stop me from getting what i want though and the women i am getting to know is asking me if i ever want another child i said we need to take things slow before we even start talking about kids





damo9

........Morgan5...I 100% back up Damo9 statements, and here New Zealand our political system and justice system and that includes the Family Courts too.....view Womanhood and Motherhood as always the 'Victim' from any Marriage/relationship breakdown, and Manhood/Fatherhood are always the 'Abuser' in the Marriage/Relationship......

J.D