To pay or not to pay?! (19)
wilburC28Dublin, Ireland4 Threads 2 Polls 25 PostsWhen you are dating someone for a while is it expected that they pay sometimes when you go out? Personally, i have a default when im seeing someone...i always pay, but when it comes to buying drinks some of my friends get into rounds with their girlfriends. Call me old fashioned, but i just couldnt ever ask a girl im seeing to buy me a drink. I wouldnt want to come accross as mean. It kind of takes away the idea that im the guy and i should be the one who pays...
wilburC28: When you are dating someone for a while is it expected that they pay sometimes when you go out? Personally, i have a default when im seeing someone...i always pay, but when it comes to buying drinks some of my friends get into rounds with their girlfriends. Call me old fashioned, but i just couldnt ever ask a girl im seeing to buy me a drink. I wouldnt want to come accross as mean. It kind of takes away the idea that im the guy and i should be the one who pays...
Unless you're a millionaire then that idea came from a time when women had no money of their own and were dependant on their men. It's fine in the short term depending on who asked who out but other than that I reckon o Dutch.
wilburC28: When you are dating someone for a while is it expected that they pay sometimes when you go out? Personally, i have a default when im seeing someone...i always pay, but when it comes to buying drinks some of my friends get into rounds with their girlfriends. Call me old fashioned, but i just couldnt ever ask a girl im seeing to buy me a drink. I wouldnt want to come accross as mean. It kind of takes away the idea that im the guy and i should be the one who pays...
Its so sweet to hear that old fashioned guys are still around, but I always was independant and Id always be a 50/50 girl...still its nice to know...not many of you around anymore!!
irish1978eyes: Its so sweet to hear that old fashioned guys are still around, but I always was independant and Id always be a 50/50 girl...still its nice to know...not many of you around anymore!!
When a guy is going out with a girl at what point does he squeeze in the "Hey hun, you're buyin tonight K?!" Id expect to be dumped!
wilburC28: When a guy is going out with a girl at what point does he squeeze in the "Hey hun, you're buyin tonight K?!" Id expect to be dumped!
Well in this day and age you shouldnt have to say that, it just naturally happens as in 'My round hun'...50/50 all the way...from both partners!!
wilburC28: When a guy is going out with a girl at what point does he squeeze in the "Hey hun, you're buyin tonight K?!" Id expect to be dumped!
You must have a low self esteem if you thunk you'll be dumped for that? Its nice for a man to pay for the first date but after that you should play it by ear. Nowadays plenty of women earn more than men so why should the burden of expense always fall on the man. In modern dating most women want to pay their way anyway as its good to have a 50/50 relationship in every area i think.
I would automatically buy a round or pay for dinner some night etc etc. Wouldn't think twice about it and would never expect someone to pay every time.
wilburC28: When a guy is going out with a girl at what point does he squeeze in the "Hey hun, you're buyin tonight K?!" Id expect to be dumped!
Most women will want to pay their way in a relationship and I personally start the way I mean to continue so its fifty fifty from the first date, If you are bringing her out for her birthday or a special occasion then obviously you should treat her. If a woman dumped a bloke for not paying all the time he would be better off without her.
Keeneland: You must have a low self esteem if you thunk you'll be dumped for that? Its nice for a man to pay for the first date but after that you should play it by ear. Nowadays plenty of women earn more than men so why should the burden of expense always fall on the man. In modern dating most women want to pay their way anyway as its good to have a 50/50 relationship in every area i think.
Awh your back...I knocked you out in the first round even with a vest on ya!!
irish1978eyes: Awh your back...I knocked you out in the first round even with a vest on ya!!
I wasn't around last night. Was afraid you had those maltesers ready.
wilburC28: When you are dating someone for a while is it expected that they pay sometimes when you go out? Personally, i have a default when im seeing someone...i always pay, but when it comes to buying drinks some of my friends get into rounds with their girlfriends. Call me old fashioned, but i just couldnt ever ask a girl im seeing to buy me a drink. I wouldnt want to come accross as mean. It kind of takes away the idea that im the guy and i should be the one who pays...
your not looking for opinions, your just telling the ladies exactly what they want to hear...
wilburC28: When you are dating someone for a while is it expected that they pay sometimes when you go out? Personally, i have a default when im seeing someone...i always pay, but when it comes to buying drinks some of my friends get into rounds with their girlfriends. Call me old fashioned, but i just couldnt ever ask a girl im seeing to buy me a drink. I wouldnt want to come accross as mean. It kind of takes away the idea that im the guy and i should be the one who pays...
50/50 all the way starting from the 1st date...after that if yis get serious work it out between you....i wouldnt feel comfortable letting the guy pay anyway i dont think its right...especially with the state of our ecomomy...robpacciani: your not looking for opinions, your just telling the ladies exactly what they want to hear...
Dude what are you doing...? I had about 20 messages in my inbox
nah seriously though i should of been born at the time of the round table or something!Keeneland: I wasn't around last night. Was afraid you had those maltesers ready.
I did...see other thread...thought I knocked you out even had a gettaway vehicle
wilburC28: Dude what are you doing...? I had about 20 messages in my inbox nah seriously though i should of been born at the time of the round table or something!
haha, i like your way of thinking though. happy hunting bud
irish1978eyes: I did...see other thread...thought I knocked you out even had a gettaway vehicle
Well at least you put some planning into it.
wilburC28: When a guy is going out with a girl at what point does he squeeze in the "Hey hun, you're buyin tonight K?!" Id expect to be dumped!
Yeah you would be dumped if you pointed it out but it shouldn't come to that. If the woman doesn't pay her own way at least some of the time then it soon becomes clear what she's like....JMO.
wilburC28: When you are dating someone for a while is it expected that they pay sometimes when you go out? Personally, i have a default when im seeing someone...i always pay, but when it comes to buying drinks some of my friends get into rounds with their girlfriends. Call me old fashioned, but i just couldnt ever ask a girl im seeing to buy me a drink. I wouldnt want to come accross as mean. It kind of takes away the idea that im the guy and i should be the one who pays...
I think the man should pay at the start and as time goes by then share the costs of a night out.
In saying that I do hate when a man accepts a drink from me.... I was only asking to sound nice !!
Well i went for dinner a few times over the last few weeks, and ive put my hand in my purse only to be told to put it back, which i didnt, i split the bill 50 / 50 which i think is only fair,
but at the same time its nice to be treated every once in a while
but at the same time its nice to be treated every once in a while
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