Does this terrify any other fellas? (5)

I just want to ask the fellas and indeed the women too I guess) here if they have similar problems talking to people who they are attracted to.

If I meet someone who I don't know or only know vaguely, who I find myself attracted to, I just can't go up and talk to them. I just go mute. If I am already friends with them in a platonic way, I can't bring myself to tell them I have feelings for them. Only once did I ever manage to tell a girl to her face that I liked her in that way, and even then I was a little vague. Normally if I say anything at all about liking someone it is by a text or an email and that is very rare.

As regards approaching someone in a social situation and chatting them up, it scares the living daylights out of me, as in TERRIFIES ME. It's a little weird, because, I do a lot of acting and public speaking, I'm used to being the life and soul of the party but when it comes to approaching a woman I am attracted to, I become the shyest man in the world. It has gotten to the stage where I can't even visualise how I am going to develop a romantic relationship, because I just can't bring myself to make the approach.

I suppose it is an age old problem in some ways, but was just wondering have other fellas had similar problems? A female perspective would do no harm either.

i used to feel like you.. the fear of rejection scared the life outta me and the whole thing of thinking there 2 good 4 me..and people fpund it weird since im a loud out going person..

i cant ring people either.. if people ring me i rarely answer.. could be a reason why im unemployed.. just cant pick up the phone.. guessing its another confidence thing..

but my advice would be the worst thing they can say is no..

i guess its confidence bulilding.. ya its all good saying it but doing it is the question before i was found (yeah he made first contact) i used to do stuff 2 pass the time like send about 5-10 emails r flowers to men that i thought i could connect with..

well i say i got like 3 replies so gave up on that.. used bug me when they read them and just deleted them thats another thing women and men have the thing of telling someone they aint interested if there persued on this..

so in my opinion online dating is best for you if u find it easier, to use technology to teel women you like them..
can build your self esteem hopefully..

you find public speaking easy to you as im guessing its a talent of yours aswell as acting.. if your involved in it like, it comes natural..
but the difference then is promoting yourself in a different atrraction way..

maybe act it out hun might help

I never had a problem with chatting to people i fancy. In fact i am the opposite as i can be too talkitive when i meet someone i fancy.