Men are more self conscious than women think. We try not to show it, We try to analyze the best approach. Its true women like a confident man but confidence is only one factor in an equation. Men tend to fall back on the "what if she thinks I'm desperate" When it comes to an infatuation, we are just as vulernable as women.
As they say " A faint heart never won the fair maiden"
If i like you, I won't wait three days to call you. That waiting in period would be torture and lead to doubt. We already established our existence to each other when we met, so now its time to get to know each other. Calling and texing would be a medium to get to know you. In time we'll know if we can be friends, assoicates, lovers or nothing at all. Simple, no hard maths or rocket science.
But I'll admit, the 1st call toyou, would take some courage and me kicking procrasting thoughts out of my head.
First contact always takes a HUGE amount of courage, no matter what the venue. Whenever I get a contact on a dating site from a man that doesn't seem to me to be a good match, I ALWAYS write back! I just feel like it's not fair to just ignore people. Which way is better?
LadyPhoenix1965: First contact always takes a HUGE amount of courage, no matter what the venue. Whenever I get a contact on a dating site from a man that doesn't seem to me to be a good match, I ALWAYS write back! I just feel like it's not fair to just ignore people. Which way is better?
Always let people know were they stand,you'll get more respect that way
jdc5558: I'm not in this for games. If I like someone I make damned sure they know it. As far as calling goes. The very next day. If that makes me look desperate she obviously misread me.
Good post. Like wise I would hope if I call a woman the next day she would understand that it means I'm interested....not that I'm desperate.
I hear what you're saying, but it is so weird to hear about this. I would never think a man who called me after a date was desperate- I would think it was sweet, caring, and that he was interested in me!
longhairedwoman: I hear what you're saying, but it is so weird to hear about this. I would never think a man who called me after a date was desperate- I would think it was sweet, caring, and that he was interested in me!
So what's wrong with the woman calling the bloke, I assume youv'e swopped numbers. phones work two ways. Question what if he has lost your number???
patmac: So what's wrong with the woman calling the bloke, I assume youv'e swopped numbers. phones work two ways. Question what if he has lost your number???
That's a personal preference on my part. I want to know that he's interested in me, and I want to be pursued. I have chased after men before, and it has never gone well.
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When it comes to an infatuation, we are just as vulernable as women.
As they say " A faint heart never won the fair maiden"