if you are still in love with your ex (vise versa) (68)
bob1959otisfield, Maine USA54 Threads 3 Polls 1,874 PostsIf your so is still in love with their ex or your still in love with yours how do you manage (reconcile) this. I mean, if you really loved someone, there will always be a place in your heart that is theirs and yet it must be O.K. to love again, mustn't it? Especially big john and somechick but all of us that have been deeply in love before....Discussion, opinions?
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interesting ............ it never goes away i guess just kinda hides in the back of your soul .
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bob1959: If your so is still in love with their ex or your still in love with yours how do you manage (reconcile) this. I mean, if you really loved someone, there will always be a place in your heart that is theirs and yet it must be O.K. to love again, mustn't it? Especially big john and somechick but all of us that have been deeply in love before....Discussion, opinions?
The last time I saw one ex my partner was with me. She held my hand tightly and gazed into my eyes until the ex walked away.
She knew if she let go of my hand there was a 50/50 chance I would have pulled the pepper spray out of my jacket pocket, soaked down my ex with it and thrown the b!tch into the river.
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You will never lose your love for someone because they have died and left you behind. However, as time goes by you learn to live with it and learn to accept that it is okay to move on. At first it feels like you are cheating on them. But that too goes away.
A heart is a big place and has room for another in it. They shouldn't expect you to not remember something that was a huge part of your life, but you can create a new life and a new love that is just is strong as the first one.
It will and is different. Trust has to established between the two that you are in love with her now. That it is fantastic and exciting to have this new feeling.
A heart is a big place and has room for another in it. They shouldn't expect you to not remember something that was a huge part of your life, but you can create a new life and a new love that is just is strong as the first one.
It will and is different. Trust has to established between the two that you are in love with her now. That it is fantastic and exciting to have this new feeling.
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adamisk: interesting ............ it never goes away i guess just kinda hides in the back of your soul .
Yes!, I think of it as a scar on my soul. (seager)------ This thread is Archived ------
katt1017: The last time I saw one ex my partner was with me. She held my hand tightly and gazed into my eyes until the ex walked away.
She knew if she let go of my hand there was a 50/50 chance I would have pulled the pepper spray out of my jacket pocket, soaked down my ex with it and thrown the b!tch into the river.
seriously, This is how my ex's act. What's up!!She knew if she let go of my hand there was a 50/50 chance I would have pulled the pepper spray out of my jacket pocket, soaked down my ex with it and thrown the b!tch into the river.
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Big_John: You will never lose your love for someone because they have died and left you behind. However, as time goes by you learn to live with it and learn to accept that it is okay to move on. At first it feels like you are cheating on them. But that too goes away.
A heart is a big place and has room for another in it. They shouldn't expect you to not remember something that was a huge part of your life, but you can create a new life and a new love that is just is strong as the first one.
It will and is different. Trust has to established between the two that you are in love with her now. That it is fantastic and exciting to have this new feeling.
You are a wise man, John. Sometime I wish you didn't know what you were talking about. (you'll get that later) but a wise man just the same. Tahnks for your post.A heart is a big place and has room for another in it. They shouldn't expect you to not remember something that was a huge part of your life, but you can create a new life and a new love that is just is strong as the first one.
It will and is different. Trust has to established between the two that you are in love with her now. That it is fantastic and exciting to have this new feeling.
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Of course they'll always be a place in my heart for my late husband but I also know that now after 3 years that it's time for me to move on with my life.I know he would want me to.
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In response to: If your so is still in love with their ex or your still in love with yours how do you manage (reconcile) this. I mean, if you really loved someone, there will always be a place in your heart that is theirs and yet it must be O.K. to love again, mustn't it? Especially big john and somechick but all of us that have been deeply in love before....Discussion, opinions?
Hmmm..I think that if you are truly in love with your ex and can truly try to move past all the hurt then you should tell her. Being honest is the best thing..you may not like her answer but at least she knows and maybe given time she may realize she feels the same. It's all a big gamble. All I know is that if something were to happen to anyone I cared about..God forbid.. I would want them to know how I felt. Life is toooo short!------ This thread is Archived ------
somechick: Of course they'll always be a place in my heart for my late husband but I also know that now after 3 years that it's time for me to move on with my life.I know he would want me to.
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Hey bob.. I've been in love a couple times.. and love these men... and even though each on has hurt me, I still hold them dear in my heart! There are two people that are part of the "ex" box.. who I still love and will always love. I will not go back to either of them but I will always have that special place in my heart for each of them. I hate bad break ups.. even if they've done me wrong, I still try and manage to remain civil with anybody that I was in a relationship with.. because there are things and times that we shared that were great and wonderful.. and those are the things we should remember!
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nanners2863: Hmmm..I think that if you are truly in love with your ex and can truly try to move past all the hurt then you should tell her. Being honest is the best thing..you may not like her answer but at least she knows and maybe given time she may realize she feels the same. It's all a big gamble. All I know is that if something were to happen to anyone I cared about..God forbid.. I would want them to know how I felt. Life is toooo short!
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nicki_love: Hey bob.. I've been in love a couple times.. and love these men... and even though each on has hurt me, I still hold them dear in my heart! There are two people that are part of the "ex" box.. who I still love and will always love. I will not go back to either of them but I will always have that special place in my heart for each of them. I hate bad break ups.. even if they've done me wrong, I still try and manage to remain civil with anybody that I was in a relationship with.. because there are things and times that we shared that were great and wonderful.. and those are the things we should remember!
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bob1959: It's complex and simple all at once. Honesty begets trust doesn't it?
On the contrary..it's not simple at all..the hardest thing to do..to put your heart out there knowing it could take a huge hit.------ This thread is Archived ------
bob1959: If your so is still in love with their ex or your still in love with yours how do you manage (reconcile) this. I mean, if you really loved someone, there will always be a place in your heart that is theirs and yet it must be O.K. to love again, mustn't it? Especially big john and somechick but all of us that have been deeply in love before....Discussion, opinions?
no. my ex husband does not always have a place in my heart though I loved him once. He destroyed that, and I think he wanted to.
I am not in love with any of my exes, but I like them except for my ex husband who I don't trust and sort of co exist from a distance with for the sake of our sons.
I will not put up with anyone I am seeing regularly having feelings for an ex or regularly spending time with an ex if they are in a relationship with me. I don't bring that to the table so I deserve the same consideration AND it's too much drama.
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bob1959: seriously, This is how my ex's act. What's up!!
Let's just say she had some serious emotional and maturity issues.
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felixis99: no. my ex husband does not always have a place in my heart though I loved him once. He destroyed that, and I think he wanted to.
I am not in love with any of my exes, but I like them except for my ex husband who I don't trust and sort of co exist from a distance with for the sake of our sons.
I will not put up with anyone I am seeing regularly having feelings for an ex or regularly spending time with an ex if they are in a relationship with me. I don't bring that to the table so I deserve the same consideration AND it's too much drama.
Don't get me wrong felix. I wouldn't put up with a so that spent a lot of time with an ex but when a womone tells you she still has a place in her heart for the father of her children.... What...I blow her off. Seems ........wrong. I don't know?I am not in love with any of my exes, but I like them except for my ex husband who I don't trust and sort of co exist from a distance with for the sake of our sons.
I will not put up with anyone I am seeing regularly having feelings for an ex or regularly spending time with an ex if they are in a relationship with me. I don't bring that to the table so I deserve the same consideration AND it's too much drama.
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bob1959: Don't get me wrong felix. I wouldn't put up with a so that spent a lot of time with an ex but when a womone tells you she still has a place in her heart for the father of her children.... What...I blow her off. Seems ........wrong. I don't know?
to me -if a man said that ^- it would be a red flag - I could not accept it. But one's comfort level with such a thing is an individual decision based you r needs & comfort zone ~
There is no right or wrong answer.
I know people who are very cool with each spending time with their respective exes. I am not. I need more loyalty and I give more loyalty than that.
To me, it is a matter of honor
but we, each of us, is unique in these things I think
(time for a Labatt's)
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felixis99: to me -if a man said that ^- it would be a red flag - I could not accept it. But one's comfort level with such a thing is an individual decision based you r needs & comfort zone ~
There is no right or wrong answer.
I know people who are very cool with each spending time with their respective exes. I am not. I need more loyalty and I give more loyalty than that.
To me, it is a matter of honor
but we, each of us, is unique in these things I think
(time for a Labatt's)
So, you have no love for the father of your children. (forgive me if you don't have any, I haven't read your profile) (I'm tying "maker's mark" for the first time myself tonight. Don't usually go for the Kentucky stuff)There is no right or wrong answer.
I know people who are very cool with each spending time with their respective exes. I am not. I need more loyalty and I give more loyalty than that.
To me, it is a matter of honor
but we, each of us, is unique in these things I think
(time for a Labatt's)
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bob1959: If your so is still in love with their ex or your still in love with yours how do you manage (reconcile) this. I mean, if you really loved someone, there will always be a place in your heart that is theirs and yet it must be O.K. to love again, mustn't it? Especially big john and somechick but all of us that have been deeply in love before....Discussion, opinions?
ohh please dont ask this....Im there right now, I know it has to STAY over for my own good....but its hard very hard, Im TRYING so hard to move on and every day is a step in the right direction, I KNOW I can love again with as much intensity its part of who I am......but it will be a bit of a struggle for a while, and I dont think I will every forget those wonderful memories we shared.....but
its onward and upward for me... and a NEW life and fresh start and hopefully a wonderful NEW love....that I will cherish and hopefully make me realise what a loser.........HE WAS
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