Does the heart ever REALLY recover? (90)
YES I THINK IT DOES. SOMETIMES IT TAKES A LONG TIME THOUGH. DEPENDS ON HOW PAINFUL THE SITUATION IS. IT IS ALSO A MATTER OF WHAT ONE BELIEVES, LIKE WHAT IS LIFE ABOUT AND WHY THINGS HAPPEN AND WHAT SHOULD WE ALLOW OURSELVES TO ACCEPT. 
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jodestir: ... do the barriers ever come down? Does the heart eventually allow itself to try again? Any comments?
Yes the heart does recover. It really only depends on how deep the wound was and is.
The barriers are only to protect ourselves from ourselves.
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Yes the heart does recover....but only once you decide to allow it too.
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My dear; they must come down and you must take a risk again. Other wise you are but a bitter women. this is not only in love but all aspects of life! My philosophy in life is if you appreciate the garbage the good stuff is WAY better! Good luck!
Yahoo for coco puff's
Yahoo for coco puff's
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I think yes, as long as we really want to try
It leave scars but we can take it as a life experience
One day, it won't hurt anymore, just a memory
damn, why my scars still hurts
It leave scars but we can take it as a life experience
One day, it won't hurt anymore, just a memory
damn, why my scars still hurts
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Assets52: My heart has recovered just fine but I will never put myself in a position of losing everything I've worked for again.
I've started over twice. I'm too old to do it again. And I feel that at my age, what I have earned deserves to go to my son ... not a partner of a few years.
I've started over twice. I'm too old to do it again. And I feel that at my age, what I have earned deserves to go to my son ... not a partner of a few years.
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my sentiments exactly. What i have when i go .. will go to my son ... absolutely!!!! 
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jodestir: ... do the barriers ever come down? Does the heart eventually allow itself to try again? Any comments?
A broken heart is broken..so I rather call it a wounded heart, that kind of heart can heal.------ This thread is Archived ------
jodestir: ... do the barriers ever come down? Does the heart eventually allow itself to try again? Any comments?
Yea, when we're ready.
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jodestir: ... do the barriers ever come down? Does the heart eventually allow itself to try again? Any comments?
Iam emotional and not yet gotten over the feeling too.Even if I just keep it away hidden in the farthest part of my heart something will show up that will make me remember again and again. Got only one heart. If starting again means clicking some restart button.
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jodestir: ... do the barriers ever come down? Does the heart eventually allow itself to try again? Any comments?
They do eventually. I know it was quite some time before I wanted anything to do with someone after my ex gave me the boot
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SOME BROKEN HEARTS NEVER MEND
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jodestir: ... do the barriers ever come down? Does the heart eventually allow itself to try again? Any comments?
I'm sorry for your pain! Being hurt emotionaly and financially are hard lessons in life. Trust is almost impossible to recover. But, we only have two choices in life: we can spend our time alone or spend it with someone.
I choose to want to be with someone. Will my heart get hurt? Who knows! I often say; you have to play the game to win. You will lose more times than you win in any game. Love is no different.
Take time for yourself. Do things you alway wanted to try. Get involved in activities. Go to the gym. Go on dates. Remember to smile.
If you get burned again; well get up and start all over again.
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englishelegance: Well we all grieve differently from a Broken Heart, but yes, we DO recover and come out so much stronger. Life goes on without that special person for us, and as hard as it is, we need to focus our attention on ourselves. We may always have feelings for that special person, but love can come around again, we just need to open our hearts to receive it.
Well said!
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I just found this article by a relationship adviser and i think it is documented well
A Broken Heart Does Not Have to Equal A Broken Spirit
The first thing you have to understand is this, everyone has, or will have their heart broken. This is a fact of life, just like living, and dying...But! You don't have to let the facts of life weigh on your mind, and rob you of the rest of your life...OK? This a choice plain and simple...nothing else. We didn't ask to be born, and we never know when were going to die. I believe that our destinies are very flexible, and can be altered at anytime we choose a different path to take. This is much like our love destinies, we can change them, if we choose to take action.
The big problem that we all run into when our hearts get broken is self pity, and hopelessness. These two things cloud our minds, and vision so it is hard to see which path to take, so we sit there and weep. And then when you finally decide to make a move, you move forward with doubts, and fears. These things will break your spirit, and your will to fight. Nothing in this life worth having comes without a fight, we have to be ready to fight for things we want in this world, or we will leave this world lonely and broken hearted. Make yourself aware of the seduction of self-pity and fight it. Don't let a broken heart, break your spirit as well.
A Broken Heart Does Not Have to Equal A Broken Life
The longer your spirit remains broken, the more you risk leading a broken life. The more bitterness, and doubt that we embrace as humans, the more tainted we become. Soon, everything has a bitter taste, and we hide our hearts away, where love will never find them again...Why? Because our broken spirit has lead us to believe it is better to be lonely and bitter the rest of our lives, then it is to risk a broken heart once again. Looks like self-pity, fear, and doubt have done their work well, Huh?
Now you find yourself at a crossroad in life...which way are you going to turn? Which path will you take? Are you going to walk towards the bright light of the future possibilities? Or will you stay where you are? Or worst yet, allow yourself to sink back into the past, and relive your pain over and over again? People can only point the way, you have to have enough faith in yourself to follow the right path. The easiest path is usually always the one that will hurt you the most. But because it requires no risk, most people always choose that one. Will you be brave enough to follow the right path? It may be long, hard, and scary...but focus on what is waiting for you at the end of it.
The only thing that is worst then having your dreams stolen away from you, is to give them away without a fight.
A Broken Heart Does Not Have to Equal A Broken Spirit
The first thing you have to understand is this, everyone has, or will have their heart broken. This is a fact of life, just like living, and dying...But! You don't have to let the facts of life weigh on your mind, and rob you of the rest of your life...OK? This a choice plain and simple...nothing else. We didn't ask to be born, and we never know when were going to die. I believe that our destinies are very flexible, and can be altered at anytime we choose a different path to take. This is much like our love destinies, we can change them, if we choose to take action.
The big problem that we all run into when our hearts get broken is self pity, and hopelessness. These two things cloud our minds, and vision so it is hard to see which path to take, so we sit there and weep. And then when you finally decide to make a move, you move forward with doubts, and fears. These things will break your spirit, and your will to fight. Nothing in this life worth having comes without a fight, we have to be ready to fight for things we want in this world, or we will leave this world lonely and broken hearted. Make yourself aware of the seduction of self-pity and fight it. Don't let a broken heart, break your spirit as well.
A Broken Heart Does Not Have to Equal A Broken Life
The longer your spirit remains broken, the more you risk leading a broken life. The more bitterness, and doubt that we embrace as humans, the more tainted we become. Soon, everything has a bitter taste, and we hide our hearts away, where love will never find them again...Why? Because our broken spirit has lead us to believe it is better to be lonely and bitter the rest of our lives, then it is to risk a broken heart once again. Looks like self-pity, fear, and doubt have done their work well, Huh?
Now you find yourself at a crossroad in life...which way are you going to turn? Which path will you take? Are you going to walk towards the bright light of the future possibilities? Or will you stay where you are? Or worst yet, allow yourself to sink back into the past, and relive your pain over and over again? People can only point the way, you have to have enough faith in yourself to follow the right path. The easiest path is usually always the one that will hurt you the most. But because it requires no risk, most people always choose that one. Will you be brave enough to follow the right path? It may be long, hard, and scary...but focus on what is waiting for you at the end of it.
The only thing that is worst then having your dreams stolen away from you, is to give them away without a fight.
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i think it does but its damn wary for a good while!
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I remember the first time my heart broke.
I remember the phone calls, the pleading, i remember the tears, the anger, the helplessness, the denial.
I remember thinking "my heart will never recover from this"
I remember not wanting to hear "give it time" from those infinitely wiser than me.
I remember wandering the desolate dark plains of loneliness, unconsolable, brooding, uncaring.
I remember my thoughts, dark, evil and with malice.
But then....
I remember thinking "I dont need to live like this"
I remember chastising myself for being so self centered.
I remember feeling embarassed for trying to make others feel my pain, when, if i had taken the time to look outside of myself, i would of seen they also felt the pain of their friend.
I remember thinking "Live, Love, Lose, Learn" for this is how it is with the matters of the heart.
I remember thinking my heart is much stronger than i give it credit for, from the moment it broke, it started healing again...
I remembered to laugh, feel happiness and contentment.
I remembered how to live again, I remembered how to love again.
As long as i live, i will not forget the lesson my heart has taught me.
I remember the phone calls, the pleading, i remember the tears, the anger, the helplessness, the denial.
I remember thinking "my heart will never recover from this"
I remember not wanting to hear "give it time" from those infinitely wiser than me.
I remember wandering the desolate dark plains of loneliness, unconsolable, brooding, uncaring.
I remember my thoughts, dark, evil and with malice.
But then....
I remember thinking "I dont need to live like this"
I remember chastising myself for being so self centered.
I remember feeling embarassed for trying to make others feel my pain, when, if i had taken the time to look outside of myself, i would of seen they also felt the pain of their friend.
I remember thinking "Live, Love, Lose, Learn" for this is how it is with the matters of the heart.
I remember thinking my heart is much stronger than i give it credit for, from the moment it broke, it started healing again...
I remembered to laugh, feel happiness and contentment.
I remembered how to live again, I remembered how to love again.
As long as i live, i will not forget the lesson my heart has taught me.
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DjWabbet: I remember the first time my heart broke.
I remember the phone calls, the pleading, i remember the tears, the anger, the helplessness, the denial.
I remember thinking "my heart will never recover from this"
I remember not wanting to hear "give it time" from those infinitely wiser than me.
I remember wandering the desolate dark plains of loneliness, unconsolable, brooding, uncaring.
I remember my thoughts, dark, evil and with malice.But then....I remember thinking "I dont need to live like this"
I remember chastising myself for being so self centered.
I remember feeling embarassed for trying to make others feel my pain, when, if i had taken the time to look outside of myself, i would of seen they also felt the pain of their friend.
I remember thinking "Live, Love, Lose, Learn" for this is how it is with the matters of the heart.
I remember thinking my heart is much stronger than i give it credit for, from the moment it broke, it started healing again...
I remembered to laugh, feel happiness and contentment.I remembered how to live again, I remembered how to love again.
As long as i live, i will not forget the lesson my heart has taught me.
I remember the phone calls, the pleading, i remember the tears, the anger, the helplessness, the denial.
I remember thinking "my heart will never recover from this"
I remember not wanting to hear "give it time" from those infinitely wiser than me.
I remember wandering the desolate dark plains of loneliness, unconsolable, brooding, uncaring.
I remember my thoughts, dark, evil and with malice.But then....I remember thinking "I dont need to live like this"
I remember chastising myself for being so self centered.
I remember feeling embarassed for trying to make others feel my pain, when, if i had taken the time to look outside of myself, i would of seen they also felt the pain of their friend.
I remember thinking "Live, Love, Lose, Learn" for this is how it is with the matters of the heart.
I remember thinking my heart is much stronger than i give it credit for, from the moment it broke, it started healing again...
I remembered to laugh, feel happiness and contentment.I remembered how to live again, I remembered how to love again.
As long as i live, i will not forget the lesson my heart has taught me.
Feel like that 9 years ago
btw, love your post
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sweet_smile: Feel like that 9 years ago
btw, love your post
btw, love your post
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In an related philosophical view:
A women may recover, but her anger NEVER will!
A women may recover, but her anger NEVER will!
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Yes i think the heart will always try again and barriers removed with hopefully who is the right person at the right time.i know its easier said then done,but it does and has happened for many people.Like to believe there is somebody for everyone out there.