Are you being too picky? ( Archived) (159)

Grandepensees: Dog? I didn't know dogs had feathers!

Grandepensees: I've not come being this way through some temporary whim, I am this way and I have good reasons to be.
Before judging someone, you should learn to know them and maybe you'll see more of the person instead of going by a few lines on a computer screen.
Between the both of us, I don't know who's the bigger jerk.
Go in peace now, knowing that I forgive you.

Ralphy2407: erm...well for me just someone who doesn't have male genetalia or facial hair will do nicely

Grandepensees: From Yahoo's News:
"Me: otherwise easygoing SF, 29, in desirable neighborhood near excellent schools and world-class cheese market. You: 31-36, Ivy League (except Penn), minimum 5’ 10", maximum 180 lbs., pectoral-to-waist ratio .33; fiscal conservative/social liberal; profession: law, medicine, banking (employer must have innovative paternity leave policy); hobbies: pan-Asian cooking, helping the needy, foot rubs; civil to (but not “friends” with) ex-girlfriends (maximum: 2); informed, witty, self-starter: equally comfortable chatting at state dinners and changing tires. Send introductory email along with photo, high school and college transcripts, 3 recommendations (1 academic, 1 professional, 1 non-threatening friend-girl) plus two 750-word essays on the topics: (1) “A Man of Quality is Not Threatened By A Woman For Equality” and (2) “Why I Always Share My Feelings.”

Your online profile may not look exactly like that, but for some people — and you know who you are — it sends out the exact same vibe. According to some dating experts, there’s a “picky” pandemic: women (and men, too, but to a lesser degree) with impossible-to-meet standards who wear their massive checklists on their sleeves. Women who are…well, still inexplicably single. Does this sound even a little bit like you? If so, how do you manage your expectations without selling yourself short? "

Finally an article about dating that doesn't "dream" of the "perfect" match but points out the trouble with dating sites' demanding members... Sure, you'll say why not wait for the One, that rare breed of a "real" man...
Ladies! You've said it yourself a hundred times at least: WE'RE ALL THE SAME! So why be so picky?

And for your info, this thread isn't about me, I'm NOT looking and am actually trying to cope with the demands
I just thought I'd give food for thought...

Alekk2: Grandepensees,

In "your" opinion most women want Prince Charming, Sean Connery, Pierce Brosnon and Brad Pitt rolled up into one! Except for Prince Charming every other person you've mentioned live in the "real" world and are all flawed. I'm not interested in any because I don't know them and if they're really like the persons they portray on screen.Men who've been burned and scarred by women in the past always have something negative to say about women. No man who's not been deeply scarred by a woman would say that a woman seeks perfection in a man. Or that she wants Prince Charming, Sean Connery, Pierce Brosnon and Brad Pitt rolled up into one! Not every single woman seeks perfection. Perfection does not exist!Of course I have to mention I want an honest man. I also think any woman worthy of a relationship should mention that she's seeking a man to treat her right because they're some men out there who won't.

Grandepensees: I think most women want Prince Charming, Sean Connery, Pierce Brosnan and Brad Pitt all rolled up into one!

And "honest" as a criteria kinda jumps at my throat, I mean do you REALLY HAVE to mention you want an honest man???
Same with "treating them right!" What woman worthy of a relationship need to stress on that point? Like an honest and gentle man doesn't already know what is and isn't acceptable in our society!