Are you an open book? (61)
langleygirlWestlock, Alberta Canada70 Threads 8,202 PostsWhen first getting to know someone do you generally find that you are a "spill the beans" kinda person or are you somewhat reserved in what you share with another about your life/love etc.?
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langleygirl: When first getting to know someone do you generally find that you are a "spill the beans" kinda person or are you somewhat reserved in what you share with another about your life/love etc.?
It depends on the girl.
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Definitely reserved. It takes me a rather long time to share many details. Might be trust issues, I'm not sure. Also, my world is a little different than most people's and we are trained not to talk too much. Helps to avoid security breaches.
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not the "spill the beans"kind...guess,kind of self protection..
but,when i get to know the person,and trust them im completely honest about everything..
but,when i get to know the person,and trust them im completely honest about everything..
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cherrybrandy: where is my chokolate egg?
Santa told me you were a naughty girl, so you dont get one..
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Seatraveler: Definitely reserved. It takes me a rather long time to share many details. Might be trust issues, I'm not sure. Also, my world is a little different than most people's and we are trained not to talk too much. Helps to avoid security breaches.
Security breaches I can understand, but just in general to share about your life and experiences I would imagine would not jeopardize your job.
Sometimes I feel reserved as well as I think that sometimes people can form judgments that may not necessarily be applicable to the person that is before them today.
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DjWabbet: Santa told me you were a naughty girl, so you dont get one..
come on man..
everybody knows 
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langleygirl: Security breaches I can understand, but just in general to share about your life and experiences I would imagine would not jeopardize your job.
Sometimes I feel reserved as well as I think that sometimes people can form judgments that may not necessarily be applicable to the person that is before them today.
I understand and agree with you on that point, but what I was referring to wasn't my job but the organization I belong to. I hope everything is going your way and that you are having a great day. Sometimes I feel reserved as well as I think that sometimes people can form judgments that may not necessarily be applicable to the person that is before them today.
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langleygirl: When first getting to know someone do you generally find that you are a "spill the beans" kinda person or are you somewhat reserved in what you share with another about your life/love etc.?
I have to spill the beans or else the poor guy is in for some shocks down the road.
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Well I won't spill em ALL, but I am pretty much an open book... I think retaining a hint of mystery is not amiss though! Keeps a spark of interest... 
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Tell em noffin ,,and frisk them ..
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langleygirl: When first getting to know someone do you generally find that you are a "spill the beans" kinda person or are you somewhat reserved in what you share with another about your life/love etc.?
I used to be an open book-as I saw it as a form of deceit to hide anything(with the exception of other's secrets).
I've come to realise that it can feel like a burden on the receiver to be very open,as people naturally feel they should comfort or fix or judge.These days I hold back a lot,and try to gauge how much they really want to know/can handle knowing about my life/thoughts etc,but this doesn't come naturally to me,and I have been accused of being too emotionally/verbally reserved.Of course being reserved becomes an emotional selfprotection too,which can be frustrating,when someone is trying to get close.
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It really depends on how much of an open book he is. I have some massive pain in my past and some massive dreams that can change a mans` life. If he`s an open book usually it`s easier to be the same way. But still, there are some things that make me uncomfortable talking about, however, blogging has been a great wound opener for me and an ability to share what I haven`t been able to share as easily before.
Oh...and rabbits rule. I used to raise them for show, had at most 54. I even had 3 males who were clueless on how to do the deed;) I think some of the most unique named ones I had, were Just So, Yep, That`s It, Shadow Creeper, and Insignia.
Oh...and rabbits rule. I used to raise them for show, had at most 54. I even had 3 males who were clueless on how to do the deed;) I think some of the most unique named ones I had, were Just So, Yep, That`s It, Shadow Creeper, and Insignia.
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Seatraveler: I understand and agree with you on that point, but what I was referring to wasn't my job but the organization I belong to. I hope everything is going your way and that you are having a great day.
That can make for awkward moments for sure, since our jobs seen to be such a focal point of our lives. I remember when I worked at a retail store and was completing a credit application for a guy who was an undercover cop .... he didn't need to say that, but simply law enforcement. He made a big deal about me not saying anything - I wouldn't have known unless he told me.
As for things going my way, hhm, that is up for debate. I'm saying a prayer that I get some positive news and a few green lights along my path.
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Witchaywoman: I have to spill the beans or else the poor guy is in for some shocks down the road.
Lol .... I understand that concept too. Mostly I was thinking of past relationships/love that didn't work out. How much of that do we really need to discuss? Personally I'd rather leave it where it belongs - behind me.
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cherrybrandy: come on man.. everybody knows is an old perve..
Well if you had flashed him, you would be getting a chocolate egg now wouldnt you?
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langleygirl: When first getting to know someone do you generally find that you are a "spill the beans" kinda person or are you somewhat reserved in what you share with another about your life/love etc.?
an open book?? ... yep!
stupid?? ... nope!
let each day unfold naturally?? ... absolutely!
TRUST myself to deal with it?? ... priceless!
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Seatraveler: I understand and agree with you on that point, but what I was referring to wasn't my job but the organization I belong to. I hope everything is going your way and that you are having a great day.
I'm not sure many would understand, at least not fully. It's not always an easy road to travel.
As for me, it all depends on who it is. Some people don't need to know everything, but I won't lie, or hide things if I feel it's relevent.
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tomboygirl: I used to be an open book-as I saw it as a form of deceit to hide anything(with the exception of other's secrets).
I've come to realise that it can feel like a burden on the receiver to be very open,as people naturally feel they should comfort or fix or judge.These days I hold back a lot,and try to gauge how much they really want to know/can handle knowing about my life/thoughts etc,but this doesn't come naturally to me,and I have been accused of being too emotionally/verbally reserved.Of course being reserved becomes an emotional selfprotection too,which can be frustrating,when someone is trying to get close.
I've come to realise that it can feel like a burden on the receiver to be very open,as people naturally feel they should comfort or fix or judge.These days I hold back a lot,and try to gauge how much they really want to know/can handle knowing about my life/thoughts etc,but this doesn't come naturally to me,and I have been accused of being too emotionally/verbally reserved.Of course being reserved becomes an emotional selfprotection too,which can be frustrating,when someone is trying to get close.
I guess what gets me about these types of conversations is that I rarely dwell on the issues/things I've gone through and survived. Its been a crap load of things and I've weathered many a storm - but in saying all that - that's a small portion.
I think that its natural to be self-protective and to guard our hearts within reason.
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