How did you cope ? (31)
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..... having contact only makes it harder, Ive learned this as Im sure you have.
Heartache is one of the worst feelings on earth, this was my first broken heart and I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy, but it has taught me a few things about myself and love.....
for you my friend from a heart that knows how you feel.....
I had to live with my ex for 2 years before i could pay her the money to get rid of her. It nearly destroyed me. All that contact was horrible and just as you describe. I never give up on a relationship and kept trying to make things work while she went about her merry way, lied to me about her feelings for me - strung me along, and had affair after affair. No wonder i was having anxiety attacks all the time.
Well rid me thinks !
Horrible but i learned a lot about liars and cheats and can spot it a mile off so not all doom and gloom. Looking forward now.
And thanks for the flowers, much appreciated xxxx
..... having contact only makes it harder, Ive learned this as Im sure you have.
Heartache is one of the worst feelings on earth, this was my first broken heart and I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy, but it has taught me a few things about myself and love.....
for you my friend from a heart that knows how you feel.....
I had to live with my ex for 2 years before i could pay her the money to get rid of her. It nearly destroyed me. All that contact was horrible and just as you describe. I never give up on a relationship and kept trying to make things work while she went about her merry way, lied to me about her feelings for me - strung me along, and had affair after affair. No wonder i was having anxiety attacks all the time.
Well rid me thinks !
Horrible but i learned a lot about liars and cheats and can spot it a mile off so not all doom and gloom. Looking forward now.
And thanks for the flowers, much appreciated xxxx
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[quote=sweetlyscented1
..... having contact only makes it harder, Ive learned this as Im sure you have.
Heartache is one of the worst feelings on earth, this was my first broken heart and I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy, but it has taught me a few things about myself and love.....
for you my friend from a heart that knows how you feel.....
I had to live with my ex for 2 years before i could pay her the money to get rid of her. It nearly destroyed me. All that contact was horrible and just as you describe. I never give up on a relationship and kept trying to make things work while she went about her merry way, lied to me about her feelings for me - strung me along, and had affair after affair. No wonder i was having anxiety attacks all the time.
Well rid me thinks !
Horrible but i learned a lot about liars and cheats and can spot it a mile off so not all doom and gloom. Looking forward now.
And thanks for the flowers, much appreciated xxxx
..... having contact only makes it harder, Ive learned this as Im sure you have.
Heartache is one of the worst feelings on earth, this was my first broken heart and I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy, but it has taught me a few things about myself and love.....
for you my friend from a heart that knows how you feel.....
I had to live with my ex for 2 years before i could pay her the money to get rid of her. It nearly destroyed me. All that contact was horrible and just as you describe. I never give up on a relationship and kept trying to make things work while she went about her merry way, lied to me about her feelings for me - strung me along, and had affair after affair. No wonder i was having anxiety attacks all the time.
Well rid me thinks !
Horrible but i learned a lot about liars and cheats and can spot it a mile off so not all doom and gloom. Looking forward now.
And thanks for the flowers, much appreciated xxxx
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don't know what happened there, i only pressed it once honest i did !
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Im 12 months out of a break up, and ready to move on. For so long all I could think of was the good things and the good times.
So I made a list of all the reasons WHY this person wasnt the ONE. Then I stuck it on the bathroom mirror. It helped to bring me back to reality - reprogram me - I guess.
The other thing I did was let myself feel the sadness for no more than 5 minutes in a day. Have my cry, then get up and go on with what I had to do.
Yes ... NO contact is the best way.
Good luck
So I made a list of all the reasons WHY this person wasnt the ONE. Then I stuck it on the bathroom mirror. It helped to bring me back to reality - reprogram me - I guess.
The other thing I did was let myself feel the sadness for no more than 5 minutes in a day. Have my cry, then get up and go on with what I had to do.
Yes ... NO contact is the best way.
Good luck
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Wow... I feel like a cold-blooded heartless pig when reading these threads... 
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Hi, i recently split fom a marriage breakdown and so far i am coping! Everything seems so difficult to begin with not having that special person with you. When and i still do, get the urge to text or ring that person i go and do something else to take my mind off the idea.
All you can really do is keep reminding yourself why the relationship didnt last and why it was ended. Then look to thhe future and tell yourself one day you will meet your soul mate and everything will be so much better. It is hard and i admit that but just be strong and wait patiently, someday the one will come along and you will forget all the hard times you have had with other relationships. Look to the future and not into the past!
Probably not much help, but this is the way i see it and how i remind myself when times are hard. kerp your chin up and be strong, god bless you. x
All you can really do is keep reminding yourself why the relationship didnt last and why it was ended. Then look to thhe future and tell yourself one day you will meet your soul mate and everything will be so much better. It is hard and i admit that but just be strong and wait patiently, someday the one will come along and you will forget all the hard times you have had with other relationships. Look to the future and not into the past!
Probably not much help, but this is the way i see it and how i remind myself when times are hard. kerp your chin up and be strong, god bless you. x
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singlelady21: Hi, i recently split fom a marriage breakdown and so far i am coping! Everything seems so difficult to begin with not having that special person with you. When and i still do, get the urge to text or ring that person i go and do something else to take my mind off the idea.
All you can really do is keep reminding yourself why the relationship didnt last and why it was ended. Then look to thhe future and tell yourself one day you will meet your soul mate and everything will be so much better. It is hard and i admit that but just be strong and wait patiently, someday the one will come along and you will forget all the hard times you have had with other relationships. Look to the future and not into the past!
Probably not much help, but this is the way i see it and how i remind myself when times are hard. kerp your chin up and be strong, god bless you. x
All you can really do is keep reminding yourself why the relationship didnt last and why it was ended. Then look to thhe future and tell yourself one day you will meet your soul mate and everything will be so much better. It is hard and i admit that but just be strong and wait patiently, someday the one will come along and you will forget all the hard times you have had with other relationships. Look to the future and not into the past!
Probably not much help, but this is the way i see it and how i remind myself when times are hard. kerp your chin up and be strong, god bless you. x
Immense help to the ones who are suffering at the minute no doubt, thank you for your contribution xx
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It wasn't easy for me.
I was going thru post surgery depression after my triple by-pass. Considering it limited what I could do during the summer months as the surgery was at the end of June didn't help.
Then shortly after I went back to work at the end of Aug, she told me to get out as she couldn't deal with my having a heart problem. For about the next six months I was mainly on auto-pilot, not doing a whole lot.
When the sheriff delivered the papers for divorce, I hit rock bottom. At some point I had my 357 in hand and I was thinking of ending it all.
It took a picture of my boys within my mind to take the gun away from my temple and climb out of that pit. I refuse to let anyone do that to me again
I was going thru post surgery depression after my triple by-pass. Considering it limited what I could do during the summer months as the surgery was at the end of June didn't help.
Then shortly after I went back to work at the end of Aug, she told me to get out as she couldn't deal with my having a heart problem. For about the next six months I was mainly on auto-pilot, not doing a whole lot.
When the sheriff delivered the papers for divorce, I hit rock bottom. At some point I had my 357 in hand and I was thinking of ending it all.
It took a picture of my boys within my mind to take the gun away from my temple and climb out of that pit. I refuse to let anyone do that to me again
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jeffc320: (Mainly for the guys)
We've all had those kinds of relationships where you can't live with them but cannot live without them. At least, we perceive it that way. We know they are no good for us but somehow cannot keep them from our thoughts and don't want to let go. Your emotional feelings are all over the place and we are so confused as to what to do. How did you cope in this situation? What worked best for you. How difficult was it to move on or find someone better suited to you. What did you do when the thought popped into your head to ring or text them. Love is hard work sometimes. I know i found it extremely hard to break away from my last relationship but knew i had to for my own sanity. Just wondered what others' thoughts were.
We've all had those kinds of relationships where you can't live with them but cannot live without them. At least, we perceive it that way. We know they are no good for us but somehow cannot keep them from our thoughts and don't want to let go. Your emotional feelings are all over the place and we are so confused as to what to do. How did you cope in this situation? What worked best for you. How difficult was it to move on or find someone better suited to you. What did you do when the thought popped into your head to ring or text them. Love is hard work sometimes. I know i found it extremely hard to break away from my last relationship but knew i had to for my own sanity. Just wondered what others' thoughts were.
You are totally right; it's hard. But we must have self control and realize the truth.
I love greasy foods. It's bad for me. If I constantly eat them I will get sick and unhealthy. The same goes for bad relationships and sometimes the damage lasts a very very long time.
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Raynew1959: It wasn't easy for me.
I was going thru post surgery depression after my triple by-pass. Considering it limited what I could do during the summer months as the surgery was at the end of June didn't help.
Then shortly after I went back to work at the end of Aug, she told me to get out as she couldn't deal with my having a heart problem. For about the next six months I was mainly on auto-pilot, not doing a whole lot.
When the sheriff delivered the papers for divorce, I hit rock bottom. At some point I had my 357 in hand and I was thinking of ending it all.
It took a picture of my boys within my mind to take the gun away from my temple and climb out of that pit. I refuse to let anyone do that to me again
I was going thru post surgery depression after my triple by-pass. Considering it limited what I could do during the summer months as the surgery was at the end of June didn't help.
Then shortly after I went back to work at the end of Aug, she told me to get out as she couldn't deal with my having a heart problem. For about the next six months I was mainly on auto-pilot, not doing a whole lot.
When the sheriff delivered the papers for divorce, I hit rock bottom. At some point I had my 357 in hand and I was thinking of ending it all.
It took a picture of my boys within my mind to take the gun away from my temple and climb out of that pit. I refuse to let anyone do that to me again
Another good man comes from the brink of defeat. Well done friend.
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I'm single now and have been for about 10 months, been through the worst and looking forward.
Interesting how people react differently to the same circumstances.
I listen to this :
I just wanna feel real love,
Feel the home that I live in.
’cause I got too much life,
Running through my veins, going to waste.
I don’t wanna die,
But I ain’t keen on living either.
Before I fall in love,
I’m preparing to leave her.
I scare myself to death,
That’s why I keep on running.
Before I’ve arrived, I can see myself coming.
Great song !
I found the hardest part was I kept remembering the good times and tended to not remember the bad ones, when ever I did ponder the hurt he caused me I tended to feel stronger for a while, but then something would trigger a lovely memory and I would find myself crying and aching for him again.....I still occasionally get those moments but I find they are becoming less now, and I do tend to think more of the hurt these days...time does help us move on.....and stopping ourelves from contacting them is the best way, having contact only makes it harder, Ive learned this as Im sure you have.