Mandatory semi-annual performance evaluations (13)
Excellent idea. Should also be mandatory for every CS member... 
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yes! proper communication is proven to be an effective tool in the workplace and so with our daily life...
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Absolutely! (In fact, in my last relationship we did something very similar every 3 months or so...)
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I hated those things. It depended on how much of a raise we got and we were always told that no one is perfect and has room for improvement so therefore you can't have a 10, always a 9.5 just to please management.
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Used to have that at my previous job, i had to do it myself with all the people under me and my boss would do mine. As you say it's an effective tool to take stock of where you are and where you're going wrong but even in an office environment at times it became more of a formality as bad reviews usually created lots of bad blood and hurt feelings.
To be honest i think it is too much of a formal approach in relationship and i doubt that partners would be truly honest with their ratings without risking a major argument if not a break up! Still its an idea...
To be honest i think it is too much of a formal approach in relationship and i doubt that partners would be truly honest with their ratings without risking a major argument if not a break up! Still its an idea...
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1111Awakening: Absolutely! (In fact, in my last relationship we did something very similar every 3 months or so...)
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Hi Zeus,
Sure!
My former spiritual partner (aka boyfriend - together 3 years and great friends since parting) and I are both into spirituality and self awareness, conscious relationship, openness and honesty. Of course we "talked" all the time, but we also made time to write deep letters to each other as well as have these periodic meetings (usually in conjunction with a romantic evening in, a home-cooked meal, and a glass of red wine!).
It was our time to be 100% real about what was and wasn't working for each of us, and to discuss what, if anything, to do about things that needed tweaking. We both found it useful and enlightening. Without it, things can fester because when life is busy, you may not have or make the time to bring up the deeper issues until someone's cork blows. With our method, things rarely festered long enough to make a needed discussion unpleasant. Drama free, for the most part.
When our romantic relationship ended, we both hugged and cried, feeling the loss and yet knowing it was time to move on. Unusual I know, but doesn't it beat the nastiness and revenge so many couples get into?
Sure!
My former spiritual partner (aka boyfriend - together 3 years and great friends since parting) and I are both into spirituality and self awareness, conscious relationship, openness and honesty. Of course we "talked" all the time, but we also made time to write deep letters to each other as well as have these periodic meetings (usually in conjunction with a romantic evening in, a home-cooked meal, and a glass of red wine!).
It was our time to be 100% real about what was and wasn't working for each of us, and to discuss what, if anything, to do about things that needed tweaking. We both found it useful and enlightening. Without it, things can fester because when life is busy, you may not have or make the time to bring up the deeper issues until someone's cork blows. With our method, things rarely festered long enough to make a needed discussion unpleasant. Drama free, for the most part.
When our romantic relationship ended, we both hugged and cried, feeling the loss and yet knowing it was time to move on. Unusual I know, but doesn't it beat the nastiness and revenge so many couples get into?
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1111Awakening: Hi Zeus,
Sure!
My former spiritual partner (aka boyfriend - together 3 years and great friends since parting) and I are both into spirituality and self awareness, conscious relationship, openness and honesty. Of course we "talked" all the time, but we also made time to write deep letters to each other as well as have these periodic meetings (usually in conjunction with a romantic evening in, a home-cooked meal, and a glass of red wine!).
It was our time to be 100% real about what was and wasn't working for each of us, and to discuss what, if anything, to do about things that needed tweaking. We both found it useful and enlightening. Without it, things can fester because when life is busy, you may not have or make the time to bring up the deeper issues until someone's cork blows. With our method, things rarely festered long enough to make a needed discussion unpleasant. Drama free, for the most part.
When our romantic relationship ended, we both hugged and cried, feeling the loss and yet knowing it was time to move on. Unusual I know, but doesn't it beat the nastiness and revenge so many couples get into?
Sure!
My former spiritual partner (aka boyfriend - together 3 years and great friends since parting) and I are both into spirituality and self awareness, conscious relationship, openness and honesty. Of course we "talked" all the time, but we also made time to write deep letters to each other as well as have these periodic meetings (usually in conjunction with a romantic evening in, a home-cooked meal, and a glass of red wine!).
It was our time to be 100% real about what was and wasn't working for each of us, and to discuss what, if anything, to do about things that needed tweaking. We both found it useful and enlightening. Without it, things can fester because when life is busy, you may not have or make the time to bring up the deeper issues until someone's cork blows. With our method, things rarely festered long enough to make a needed discussion unpleasant. Drama free, for the most part.
When our romantic relationship ended, we both hugged and cried, feeling the loss and yet knowing it was time to move on. Unusual I know, but doesn't it beat the nastiness and revenge so many couples get into?
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1111Awakening: Hi Zeus,
Sure!
My former spiritual partner (aka boyfriend - together 3 years and great friends since parting) and I are both into spirituality and self awareness, conscious relationship, openness and honesty. Of course we "talked" all the time, but we also made time to write deep letters to each other as well as have these periodic meetings (usually in conjunction with a romantic evening in, a home-cooked meal, and a glass of red wine!).
It was our time to be 100% real about what was and wasn't working for each of us, and to discuss what, if anything, to do about things that needed tweaking. We both found it useful and enlightening. Without it, things can fester because when life is busy, you may not have or make the time to bring up the deeper issues until someone's cork blows. With our method, things rarely festered long enough to make a needed discussion unpleasant. Drama free, for the most part.
When our romantic relationship ended, we both hugged and cried, feeling the loss and yet knowing it was time to move on. Unusual I know, but doesn't it beat the nastiness and revenge so many couples get into?
Sure!
My former spiritual partner (aka boyfriend - together 3 years and great friends since parting) and I are both into spirituality and self awareness, conscious relationship, openness and honesty. Of course we "talked" all the time, but we also made time to write deep letters to each other as well as have these periodic meetings (usually in conjunction with a romantic evening in, a home-cooked meal, and a glass of red wine!).
It was our time to be 100% real about what was and wasn't working for each of us, and to discuss what, if anything, to do about things that needed tweaking. We both found it useful and enlightening. Without it, things can fester because when life is busy, you may not have or make the time to bring up the deeper issues until someone's cork blows. With our method, things rarely festered long enough to make a needed discussion unpleasant. Drama free, for the most part.
When our romantic relationship ended, we both hugged and cried, feeling the loss and yet knowing it was time to move on. Unusual I know, but doesn't it beat the nastiness and revenge so many couples get into?
Hi Awakining...That's a great and unusual story and i suppose explains the choice of your nic. Seems like you had a great 3 years together. Pity it came to an end, but its cool that you're still friends! I imagine after that it will be difficult to have a 'normal' relationship not up to that level?
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gardenhackle: At my job we have semi-annual and year-end performance evaluations. They're mandatory and they carry a lot of weight. Mid year is "calibration" and the end of the year is the actual full review.
Do you think relationships would benefit from both partners engaging in a formal review process and following a form to provide feedback on goals, expectations, strengths, weaknesses, accomplishments and overall performance evaluation along with coordination of plans for growth and improvement? Would it be good if we could give honest feedback and work together with our partners so that both partners get a chance to openly engage in frank discussion about the wins, losses, faults, strengths, aspirations, goals and plans for achieving them?
It's said that relationships take work. And this is a very effective tool in the workplace that is designed to aid in growth and understanding with feedback and introspection.
Do you think relationships would benefit from both partners engaging in a formal review process and following a form to provide feedback on goals, expectations, strengths, weaknesses, accomplishments and overall performance evaluation along with coordination of plans for growth and improvement? Would it be good if we could give honest feedback and work together with our partners so that both partners get a chance to openly engage in frank discussion about the wins, losses, faults, strengths, aspirations, goals and plans for achieving them?
It's said that relationships take work. And this is a very effective tool in the workplace that is designed to aid in growth and understanding with feedback and introspection.
Nah, if it works it works, and if it doesn't, you move on... in reltionships...
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zeus911: Hi Awakining...That's a great and unusual story and i suppose explains the choice of your nic. Seems like you had a great 3 years together. Pity it came to an end, but its cool that you're still friends! I imagine after that it will be difficult to have a 'normal' relationship not up to that level?
Hi Zeus, yeah after experiencing that relationship I don't think I could settle for someone who's not on a similar wavelength. I know my ideals are pretty high but I'd rather be by myself than in an unhappy relationship. If it's meant to be it will happen ...
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Do you think relationships would benefit from both partners engaging in a formal review process and following a form to provide feedback on goals, expectations, strengths, weaknesses, accomplishments and overall performance evaluation along with coordination of plans for growth and improvement? Would it be good if we could give honest feedback and work together with our partners so that both partners get a chance to openly engage in frank discussion about the wins, losses, faults, strengths, aspirations, goals and plans for achieving them?
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