How to make the first move? (83)
If we find you attractive, it really is as simple as saying hello. Be confident its a turn-on. If we are interested, we wont let you slip away 
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Why be afraid? The worst anyone can say is "no"..Words cant really hurt you..Just go over to her and smile, say hi and tell her your name.. Then ask what her name is..If she continues to talk to you then most likely you made a friend..If she acts like she isnt interested then just exit stage left..lol
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If I'm already checking him out, a smile and anything even remotely humorous will open the door to further conversation and interaction... what follows the opening remark is easier because there is some "flow" then... but what happens after the opening remark is also much more important.
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just say hi back with a hand shake and smile would you like to dance
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misscherylxo: just say hi back with a hand shake and smile would you like to dance
i personally wouldnt be at a bar, they are mostly alcholics , but if that is you then yeah ask her to dance name first or buy her a drink drinks aren't that much 400 dollars------ This thread is Archived ------
misscherylxo: i personally wouldnt be at a bar, they are mostly alcholics , but if that is you then yeah ask her to dance name first or buy her a drink drinks aren't that much 400 dollars
I was a non-drinker from age 20-40, but went to bars like everyone else and had a lovely time. Be careful about the assumptions you make.
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opentuit: I was a non-drinker from age 20-40, but went to bars like everyone else and had a lovely time. Be careful about the assumptions you make.
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you know i may end up quiting this site it's finding me trouble with the females on here , why some have a problem with me, dont understand i am in south california, i said mostly some ... you all give advice i dont knock you all down for your words.....
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sammymac: OK, first up I'm not a player, nor am I loser etc but as I got into my mid-20's Ive found its a whole different ball game to late teens/ early 20's. I never used to have problems meeting woman, but these days I just don't seem to be able to do it.
Ive been in a few situations recently when ive been in a pub with my friends and a girl is eyeing me up, but I just seem to freeze and never make the move.
So ladies, your at the other end of the bar, how would you like to be approached considering your checking a guy out? Is it as simple as hello, because its not that simple for us poor guys. Moreover i'm talking about every day life, not just in pubs. In my mind its so simple, but damn girls are scary!
Ive been in a few situations recently when ive been in a pub with my friends and a girl is eyeing me up, but I just seem to freeze and never make the move.
So ladies, your at the other end of the bar, how would you like to be approached considering your checking a guy out? Is it as simple as hello, because its not that simple for us poor guys. Moreover i'm talking about every day life, not just in pubs. In my mind its so simple, but damn girls are scary!
Yes I can sympathise! It can't be easy being expected to make the first approach. In my opinion, the best thing to do is to think of something you like about the woman you want to approach first, and then smile, make eye contact, walk up to her, and say to her: Forgive me for interrupting but..... then something sincere like.... "I couldn't help but notice your beautiful smile - it just lights up the room"... or "I just wanted to say that you are looking gorgeous tonight!"... something like that. If she is worth pursuing, she will smile back at you and graciously accept your compliment. You can then ask if you can buy her a drink, or just start chatting in an easy way... like... "excuse the cliche but do you come here often?" or "so are you girls enjoying your evening?" etc etc.
Well, that would work for me anyway.... if I felt a mutual attraction!
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i knew you start trouble at some point i was just waiting. then that why you havnt had a date cause you drink lol
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i knew you cause chaos,, for me i can handle chaos usually it the drinkrs who cause drama 
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sammymac: OK, first up I'm not a player, nor am I loser etc but as I got into my mid-20's Ive found its a whole different ball game to late teens/ early 20's. I never used to have problems meeting woman, but these days I just don't seem to be able to do it.
Ive been in a few situations recently when ive been in a pub with my friends and a girl is eyeing me up, but I just seem to freeze and never make the move.
So ladies, your at the other end of the bar, how would you like to be approached considering your checking a guy out? Is it as simple as hello, because its not that simple for us poor guys. Moreover i'm talking about every day life, not just in pubs. In my mind its so simple, but damn girls are scary!
Ive been in a few situations recently when ive been in a pub with my friends and a girl is eyeing me up, but I just seem to freeze and never make the move.
So ladies, your at the other end of the bar, how would you like to be approached considering your checking a guy out? Is it as simple as hello, because its not that simple for us poor guys. Moreover i'm talking about every day life, not just in pubs. In my mind its so simple, but damn girls are scary!
Its a mans perogative!
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opentuit: I was a non-drinker from age 20-40, but went to bars like everyone else and had a lovely time. Be careful about the assumptions you make.
my assumpios when do you ever stop ragging on me are you bi? cause i am not bi
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misscherylxo: i knew you cause chaos,, for me i can handle chaos usually it the drinkrs who cause drama
Wow...K
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misscherylxo: my assumpios when do you ever stop ragging on me are you bi? cause i am not bi
you and swiss an few other's who are on here all day rag on me is that all you know how to do is rag.?
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misscherylxo: my assumpios when do you ever stop ragging on me are you bi? cause i am not bi
:I wasn't offended by the first statement I responded to: it clearly did not apply to me. I'm not even offended by this one.
I am, however, a little confused as to why you think I'm targeting you.... or why my presence here makes you so defensive.
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misscherylxo: you and swiss an few other's who are on here all day rag on me is that all you know how to do is rag.?
Im not on here 24/7 and I have a JOB which includes using the computer and can "multi task" Im not a sit at home mom like you are I earn my keep..I also have men who ask me out on dates..Im tired of your nasty remarks and ASSUMPTIONS. You pre judge everyone who has a "occasional drink" or who goes online..Yet you yourself go online flirting with guys too even though you claim to have a so called boyfriend..lol..------ This thread is Archived ------
opentuit: :I wasn't offended by the first statement I responded to: it clearly did not apply to me. I'm not even offended by this one.
I am, however, a little confused as to why you think I'm targeting you.... or why my presence here makes you so defensive.
my guess is she feels threatened by any female on here who looks attractive and has some intelligence..sorry if i sound mean but shes been attacking me from the get go..assuming stuff and now any other female who has the nerve to disagree with her.I am, however, a little confused as to why you think I'm targeting you.... or why my presence here makes you so defensive.
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Swissblueeyes: my guess is she feels threatened by any female on here who looks attractive and has some intelligence..sorry if i sound mean but shes been attacking me from the get go..assuming stuff and now any other female who has the nerve to disagree with her.
wow is all i can say i have moved on ever since i been on this site you been knocking me down , starting with me, it 's not me who is knocking you down i am not offensive with females who are pretty there are alot of them, there you go again assuming what i think i am house mother who takes good care of my kids you shhouldnt even say that about me none your bussiness what i do with my life these are forums for people who need a advice all you thiink of is trying to start with me i am not a jealous person there few female who like me on here, very few who dont those are the drama type one's have been on few dates , it not about popularity who had more date's un like you it's a popularity contest..if you dont like me why just ignore me why throw in offensive words to start drama
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Ive been in a few situations recently when ive been in a pub with my friends and a girl is eyeing me up, but I just seem to freeze and never make the move.
So ladies, your at the other end of the bar, how would you like to be approached considering your checking a guy out? Is it as simple as hello, because its not that simple for us poor guys. Moreover i'm talking about every day life, not just in pubs. In my mind its so simple, but damn girls are scary!