Getting access to your kids (51)
awesome71Sawtell, New South Wales Australia5 Threads 2,927 Postskizzy27: If the legal aid office is in the same area only 1 person can get the legal aid as It represents a conflict of interest .seems unfair esspecially when the person in the wrong gets the free legals
Any solicitor can apply for legal aid for you.You dont have to go to the legal aid office.I think you can even apply for it online,and legal aid will give you a list of there prefered solicitors in your area.
In most cases I don't think blokes get a fair hearing , I never got to see anything of my kids, haven't seen them since 1992, I didn't find any honesty in the family court. Nor did many others i know.
Probably not good to get the guys hopes up.
Probably not good to get the guys hopes up.
Hi Misty. I have just sent you an e-mail but I am on your blocked list, so it will be in your filter box.
Larf75: Hi Misty. I have just sent you an e-mail but I am on your blocked list, so it will be in your filter box.
sorry bout that Larf!!! i was getting too much mail from women wanting relationships etc even though i said i was into men...not jumping the fence any time soon
Hello Misty,
I've read what everyone has said, and I dont think that there is anything else I can add, except Good Luck and I hope that it will work out. I know from my own experiences that these things can take time, and it can be very disheartening some days, but remember to fight the good fight and keep going
I've read what everyone has said, and I dont think that there is anything else I can add, except Good Luck and I hope that it will work out. I know from my own experiences that these things can take time, and it can be very disheartening some days, but remember to fight the good fight and keep going
Shell225: Hello Misty,
I've read what everyone has said, and I dont think that there is anything else I can add, except Good Luck and I hope that it will work out. I know from my own experiences that these things can take time, and it can be very disheartening some days, but remember to fight the good fight and keep going
I've read what everyone has said, and I dont think that there is anything else I can add, except Good Luck and I hope that it will work out. I know from my own experiences that these things can take time, and it can be very disheartening some days, but remember to fight the good fight and keep going
thanks Shell but Im afraid he has already given up hope...but I will keep at him til he explores all avenues...
awesome71: No that's no correct both parties can get legal aid,it all depends on your income sometimes you may have to pay part of the legal fees.
thats what I thought too
robplum: In most cases I don't think blokes get a fair hearing , I never got to see anything of my kids, haven't seen them since 1992, I didn't find any honesty in the family court. Nor did many others i know.
Probably not good to get the guys hopes up.
Probably not good to get the guys hopes up.
that is terrible rob
Misty1773: A good friend of mine separated from his partner 18mths ago and hasnt seen his kids since. She has left town with no forwarding address and he is desperate to get access. However, money is an issue, so cant afford the legal costs. Does anyone know how he can get access???
tell him to stop paying child support... she will soon rear her ugly head to try and get him to pay...then he should be able to locate her easier
blondeozichick: that is terrible rob
23 years later i am still filing documents, still trying sort through what happened and why...
blondeozichick: tell him to stop paying child support... she will soon rear her ugly head to try and get him to pay...then he should be able to locate her easier
Dont stop paying... they can freeze his bank accounts and he will get a very bad reputation with them. Not to mention they will NOT give him ANY INFORMATION about her. Rather he will accrue interest on over due payments plus late fees.
CSA can be incredibly evil if the mood takes them
Its not fair, its horribly unfair infact, but I've seen it happen to friends who were in genuine financial stress .. its not good.
Misty1773: A good friend of mine separated from his partner 18mths ago and hasnt seen his kids since. She has left town with no forwarding address and he is desperate to get access. However, money is an issue, so cant afford the legal costs. Does anyone know how he can get access???
Tell him to stop paying child support as he is willing to have 50% of child access! (the kids living with him) that way he can afford a good lawyer! I have my kid fulltime now and the government now pay me child support? Go figure! All this time I thought if the kid came lived with me I would be broke! Far from it, I now get more money than I had to pay out? Gave the kid a hundred dollars tonight to go buy shoes! I just got five thousand dollars back pay from family assistance, it took a while but the money is in the bank now!
Shell225: Dont stop paying... they can freeze his bank accounts and he will get a very bad reputation with them. Not to mention they will NOT give him ANY INFORMATION about her. Rather he will accrue interest on over due payments plus late fees.
CSA can be incredibly evil if the mood takes them Its not fair, its horribly unfair infact, but I've seen it happen to friends who were in genuine financial stress .. its not good.
Very wise words Shell.CSA are evil,they can just deduct from or garnish your wages.Keep paying child support as this looks real good in court,especially if she is deliberatly keeping the kids from seeing the father.The rule is parents have responsibilities kids have rights,the right to spend time with both parents.It is the parents responsibility to make this happen.CSA can be incredibly evil if the mood takes them Its not fair, its horribly unfair infact, but I've seen it happen to friends who were in genuine financial stress .. its not good.
awesome71: Very wise words Shell.CSA are evil,they can just deduct from or garnish your wages.Keep paying child support as this looks real good in court,especially if she is deliberatly keeping the kids from seeing the father.The rule is parents have responsibilities kids have rights,the right to spend time with both parents.It is the parents responsibility to make this happen.
Its true, if anything is ever going to land in court, it looks good to be seen to be the parent who has bent over backwards to do the right thing!!!
Until the courts have ruled a 50/50 access, he will have to keep paying. If he is experiencing financial stress, then he need only complete a reassessment under special circumstances and submit that to CSA. 9 times out of 10 they will approve it, not to mention there are avenues available to appeal, and then appeal, and then appeal any CSA decision.
Once a court ruling is in place, then he gets reassessed on the basis of it, regardless of if he sees the kids or not. CSA generally will reduce the payment, sometimes they are a/holes about it, and thats when the appeals come into play.
Sadly CSA do not always follow their legislation, and at times need to be reminded of it
I think Im one of the only people you will ever meet who can quote legislation and rulings 
... A friend of mine, actually took CSA to the human rights commission!!!!! Now that was funny !!!!
Shell225: Its true, if anything is ever going to land in court, it looks good to be seen to be the parent who has bent over backwards to do the right thing!!!
Until the courts have ruled a 50/50 access, he will have to keep paying. If he is experiencing financial stress, then he need only complete a reassessment under special circumstances and submit that to CSA. 9 times out of 10 they will approve it, not to mention there are avenues available to appeal, and then appeal, and then appeal any CSA decision.
Once a court ruling is in place, then he gets reassessed on the basis of it, regardless of if he sees the kids or not. CSA generally will reduce the payment, sometimes they are a/holes about it, and thats when the appeals come into play.
Sadly CSA do not always follow their legislation, and at times need to be reminded of it I think Im one of the only people you will ever meet who can quote legislation and rulings ...
A friend of mine, actually took CSA to the human rights commission!!!!! Now that was funny !!!!
Until the courts have ruled a 50/50 access, he will have to keep paying. If he is experiencing financial stress, then he need only complete a reassessment under special circumstances and submit that to CSA. 9 times out of 10 they will approve it, not to mention there are avenues available to appeal, and then appeal, and then appeal any CSA decision.
Once a court ruling is in place, then he gets reassessed on the basis of it, regardless of if he sees the kids or not. CSA generally will reduce the payment, sometimes they are a/holes about it, and thats when the appeals come into play.
Sadly CSA do not always follow their legislation, and at times need to be reminded of it I think Im one of the only people you will ever meet who can quote legislation and rulings ...
A friend of mine, actually took CSA to the human rights commission!!!!! Now that was funny !!!!
wow!!! your one very knowledgeable woman!!! i'll be asking for advice more often
between you and Awesome, light is seen at the end of the tunnel! Thank you both sooooo much and to all the others as well
Misty1773: wow!!! your one very knowledgeable woman!!! i'll be asking for advice more often
between you and Awesome, light is seen at the end of the tunnel! Thank you both sooooo much and to all the others as well
between you and Awesome, light is seen at the end of the tunnel! Thank you both sooooo much and to all the others as well
thanks Misty, but (Im sure Awesome will agree with me) its knowledge we wish we never had to have
Shell225: thanks Misty, but (Im sure Awesome will agree with me) its knowledge we wish we never had to have
Totally!!!robplum: In most cases I don't think blokes get a fair hearing , I never got to see anything of my kids, haven't seen them since 1992, I didn't find any honesty in the family court. Nor did many others i know.
Probably not good to get the guys hopes up.
Probably not good to get the guys hopes up.
Been there, etc., etc., many years ago. Eventually managed to catch up with and develop a wonderful relationship with eldest daughter, and later, a son-in-law when he came along. I've not seen others for a very long time.
It's NOT fair, but let me tell ya - deal with it in some way, get past it, or the hurt and hate will destroy you, and any chance of happiness you might have in the future.
It's utterly horrible to lose contact with an off-spring in this way. It nearly brought me to the point of ending it all.
But now, looking back, I'm glad I didn't.
Good luck to your friend, Misty. Can relate!
Fred60: Been there, etc., etc., many years ago. Eventually managed to catch up with and develop a wonderful relationship with eldest daughter, and later, a son-in-law when he came along. I've not seen others for a very long time.
It's NOT fair, but let me tell ya - deal with it in some way, get past it, or the hurt and hate will destroy you, and any chance of happiness you might have in the future.
It's utterly horrible to lose contact with an off-spring in this way. It nearly brought me to the point of ending it all.
But now, looking back, I'm glad I didn't.
Good luck to your friend, Misty. Can relate!
It's NOT fair, but let me tell ya - deal with it in some way, get past it, or the hurt and hate will destroy you, and any chance of happiness you might have in the future.
It's utterly horrible to lose contact with an off-spring in this way. It nearly brought me to the point of ending it all.
But now, looking back, I'm glad I didn't.
Good luck to your friend, Misty. Can relate!
thank you Fred...unfortunately that is the point he is at. He cant or wont see past this and see that life has to go on. There will come time, as with you, when he will be with his kids again, so ending it all wont help them.
Im so glad you have a relationship with your daughter now, as for the rest, hopefully they will come around too...good luck
Fred60: Been there, etc., etc., many years ago. Eventually managed to catch up with and develop a wonderful relationship with eldest daughter, and later, a son-in-law when he came along. I've not seen others for a very long time.
It's NOT fair, but let me tell ya - deal with it in some way, get past it, or the hurt and hate will destroy you, and any chance of happiness you might have in the future.
It's utterly horrible to lose contact with an off-spring in this way. It nearly brought me to the point of ending it all.
But now, looking back, I'm glad I didn't.
Good luck to your friend, Misty. Can relate!
It's NOT fair, but let me tell ya - deal with it in some way, get past it, or the hurt and hate will destroy you, and any chance of happiness you might have in the future.
It's utterly horrible to lose contact with an off-spring in this way. It nearly brought me to the point of ending it all.
But now, looking back, I'm glad I didn't.
Good luck to your friend, Misty. Can relate!
glad to hear you didn't end it all
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