Many Ended Relationships (132)
venusenvy: Me either Burby
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kidatheart: You might, but I don't. I tend to see the good things in people first, and try to overlook all the "defects" as you put it, and do the same for myself as well.
I don't understand why some people seem to focus on the negatives in people, and in life, before the good things.
Nobody's perfect, and if that's what you're looking for, you'll always be unhappy.
I don't understand why some people seem to focus on the negatives in people, and in life, before the good things.
Nobody's perfect, and if that's what you're looking for, you'll always be unhappy.
I am Happier than I have ever been....
and Maybe Have gained a little bit of Wisdom along the way, to TRY to make better choices than Before....
and at least I can admit that I Play a part too...
and it usually starts with MY CHOICES....
If I Make a Bad Choice in a Mate, Is it still their fault?
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HotrodLarrys: I am Happier than I have ever been....
and Maybe Have gained a little bit of Wisdom along the way, to TRY to make better choices than Before....
and at least I can admit that I Play a part too...
and it usually starts with MY CHOICES....
If I Make a Bad Choice in a Mate, Is it still their fault?
and Maybe Have gained a little bit of Wisdom along the way, to TRY to make better choices than Before....
and at least I can admit that I Play a part too...
and it usually starts with MY CHOICES....
If I Make a Bad Choice in a Mate, Is it still their fault?
Sorry Larry, I have to disagree for reasons I won't say in the thread because I'm not going to bust you out, but you are obviously not happier than you were before.
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HotrodLarrys: I am Happier than I have ever been....
and Maybe Have gained a little bit of Wisdom along the way, to TRY to make better choices than Before....
and at least I can admit that I Play a part too...
and it usually starts with MY CHOICES....
If I Make a Bad Choice in a Mate, Is it still their fault?
and Maybe Have gained a little bit of Wisdom along the way, to TRY to make better choices than Before....
and at least I can admit that I Play a part too...
and it usually starts with MY CHOICES....
If I Make a Bad Choice in a Mate, Is it still their fault?
Why look to assess blame, it's always two people and their choices that start and end a relationship.
Did you ever stop to think maybe it's not your choices that are the problem, but rather your expectations?
I find that accepting people for who they are works better than trying to make them conform to your perception of who they are, or should be.
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kidatheart: Why look to assess blame, it's always two people and their choices that start and end a relationship.
Did you ever stop to think maybe it's not your choices that are the problem, but rather your expectations?
I find that accepting people for who they are works better than trying to make them conform to your perception of who they are, or should be.
Did you ever stop to think maybe it's not your choices that are the problem, but rather your expectations?
I find that accepting people for who they are works better than trying to make them conform to your perception of who they are, or should be.
True, our expectations can certainly play a huge factor, instead of simply accepting who someone is. When we can let go of that, its amazing how much freedom is within that relationship. Perhaps it comes down to our issues of control - and how we can feel the noose around our necks when we are around people like that.
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JSuburbia: Sorry Larry, I have to disagree for reasons I won't say in the thread because I'm not going to bust you out, but you are obviously not happier than you were before.
You have no concept of My Life,
No Clue of My Goods or Bad, You only have an Opinion,
of things that you do not know,
and so your answer to the Thread, is you have no personal preference to look at your Own Errors in Life,
I will refer to that as Denial...
at least I can own up to Mistakes in My life, and can accept that I have made Mistakes...and Bad Choices
Saying everyone points to the other person, but cannot take responsibility for their own actions...
Tho I dont see it make much sence to waste time with closed minded people....
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HotrodLarrys: You have no concept of My Life,
No Clue of My Goods or Bad, You only have an Opinion,
of things that you do not know,
and so your answer to the Thread, is you have no personal preference to look at your Own Errors in Life,
I will refer to that as Denial...
at least I can own up to Mistakes in My life, and can accept that I have made Mistakes...and Bad Choices
Saying everyone points to the other person, but cannot take responsibility for their own actions...
Tho I dont see it make much sence to waste time with closed minded people....
Perhaps you are not giving another the benefit of their own experience who may differ greatly from yours. I get the feeling that you think that you are right and everyone else is wrong simply because they have a different viewpoint and experience of life. How closed minded is that?No Clue of My Goods or Bad, You only have an Opinion,
of things that you do not know,
and so your answer to the Thread, is you have no personal preference to look at your Own Errors in Life,
I will refer to that as Denial...
at least I can own up to Mistakes in My life, and can accept that I have made Mistakes...and Bad Choices
Saying everyone points to the other person, but cannot take responsibility for their own actions...
Tho I dont see it make much sence to waste time with closed minded people....
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HotrodLarrys: You have no concept of My Life,
No Clue of My Goods or Bad, You only have an Opinion,
of things that you do not know,
and so your answer to the Thread, is you have no personal preference to look at your Own Errors in Life,
I will refer to that as Denial...
at least I can own up to Mistakes in My life, and can accept that I have made Mistakes...and Bad Choices
Saying everyone points to the other person, but cannot take responsibility for their own actions...
Tho I dont see it make much sence to waste time with closed minded people....
No Clue of My Goods or Bad, You only have an Opinion,
of things that you do not know,
and so your answer to the Thread, is you have no personal preference to look at your Own Errors in Life,
I will refer to that as Denial...
at least I can own up to Mistakes in My life, and can accept that I have made Mistakes...and Bad Choices
Saying everyone points to the other person, but cannot take responsibility for their own actions...
Tho I dont see it make much sence to waste time with closed minded people....
Sorry Larry, but I have read enough of your sob stories in the past 2 years to have a great idea.
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JSuburbia: Sorry Larry, but I have read enough of your sob stories in the past 2 years to have a great idea.
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I can see both sides.. His & Hers!! 
Seriously, I'd say Larry is looking to see if there is anything different he could possibly have done to ensure that said relationship did not go sour..
However, I can also see JS's, as being aware that he done everything he could to keep everything sweet, the other person still let them down no matter how hard they tried to work things out..
I agree with Kid that one should never expect too much, rather just be truthful with the other and if its not working out, let them know so that they can resolved or go your separate ways..
Unfortunately, some like their cake and then some more..
Though as with most things in life, it is by learning from our errors which makes us better next time round, or even more cautious .. but again, this does not apply to all.. 
Now where's that twister game??
Seriously, I'd say Larry is looking to see if there is anything different he could possibly have done to ensure that said relationship did not go sour..
However, I can also see JS's, as being aware that he done everything he could to keep everything sweet, the other person still let them down no matter how hard they tried to work things out..
I agree with Kid that one should never expect too much, rather just be truthful with the other and if its not working out, let them know so that they can resolved or go your separate ways..
Unfortunately, some like their cake and then some more..
Though as with most things in life, it is by learning from our errors which makes us better next time round, or even more cautious .. but again, this does not apply to all.. Now where's that twister game??
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langleygirl: Perhaps you are not giving another the benefit of their own experience who may differ greatly from yours. I get the feeling that you think that you are right and everyone else is wrong simply because they have a different viewpoint and experience of life. How closed minded is that?
I was widely open to others Viewpoints, but seems Most are perfect and have no Errors of their own, It appears that it is all pointing away from Self, Its like it ALL, Everyone else that has the problem, and only Two on here have acknowledged that they play a part in relationships...
Pointing to everyone else, does not show any type of Growth or Maturity...
At least I can see Mistakes that I have made along the way,
and have taken at least some Responsibily to change what I can about Myself, My Choices in Mates, and would be nice to see if others have even come to this point in Life...
I realise if we change nothing, Nothing Changes.
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Yash124g: I can see both sides.. His & Hers!!
Seriously, I'd say Larry is looking to see if there is anything different he could possibly have done to ensure that said relationship did not go sour..
However, I can also see JS's, as being aware that he done everything he could to keep everything sweet, the other person still let them down no matter how hard they tried to work things out..
I agree with Kid that one should never expect too much, rather just be truthful with the other and if its not working out, let them know so that they can resolved or go your separate ways..
Unfortunately, some like their cake and then some more.. Though as with most things in life, it is by learning from our errors which makes us better next time round, or even more cautious .. but again, this does not apply to all..
Now where's that twister game??
Think it simply comes down to be honest and real ... about yourself, your partner and the relationship. Can you take a step back and see things clearly and make the appropriate changes if necessary.Seriously, I'd say Larry is looking to see if there is anything different he could possibly have done to ensure that said relationship did not go sour..
However, I can also see JS's, as being aware that he done everything he could to keep everything sweet, the other person still let them down no matter how hard they tried to work things out..
I agree with Kid that one should never expect too much, rather just be truthful with the other and if its not working out, let them know so that they can resolved or go your separate ways..
Unfortunately, some like their cake and then some more.. Though as with most things in life, it is by learning from our errors which makes us better next time round, or even more cautious .. but again, this does not apply to all..
Now where's that twister game??
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HotrodLarrys: I was widely open to others Viewpoints, but seems Most are perfect and have no Errors of their own, It appears that it is all pointing away from Self, Its like it ALL, Everyone else that has the problem, and only Two on here have acknowledged that they play a part in relationships...
Pointing to everyone else, does not show any type of Growth or Maturity...
At least I can see Mistakes that I have made along the way,
and have taken at least some Responsibily to change what I can about Myself, My Choices in Mates, and would be nice to see if others have even come to this point in Life...
I realise if we change nothing, Nothing Changes.
Not every action that someone else takes is our responsibility, nor does it imply that we contribute to their actions. ie. cheatingPointing to everyone else, does not show any type of Growth or Maturity...
At least I can see Mistakes that I have made along the way,
and have taken at least some Responsibily to change what I can about Myself, My Choices in Mates, and would be nice to see if others have even come to this point in Life...
I realise if we change nothing, Nothing Changes.
It is simply their choice. So why do you feel the need to cast blame at the other person who didn't cheat? Implying that they are also responsible to some degree? Cast the blame where it belongs and stop burdening others with garbage that doesn't belong to them.
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langleygirl: Not every action that someone else takes is our responsibility, nor does it imply that we contribute to their actions. ie. cheating
It is simply their choice. So why do you feel the need to cast blame at the other person who didn't cheat? Implying that they are also responsible to some degree? Cast the blame where it belongs and stop burdening others with garbage that doesn't belong to them.
Exactly....It is simply their choice. So why do you feel the need to cast blame at the other person who didn't cheat? Implying that they are also responsible to some degree? Cast the blame where it belongs and stop burdening others with garbage that doesn't belong to them.
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langleygirl: Think it simply comes down to be honest and real ... about yourself, your partner and the relationship. Can you take a step back and see things clearly and make the appropriate changes if necessary.
To thine own self be true
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langleygirl: Think it simply comes down to be honest and real ... about yourself, your partner and the relationship. Can you take a step back and see things clearly and make the appropriate changes if necessary.
This was the Original Question of the thread,
What Changes have You made in your own Life, to Better future relationships...
It isnt a hard Question.
The main answer I have got, is it is allways the other person..
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HotrodLarrys: This was the Original Question of the thread,
What Changes have You made in your own Life, to Better future relationships...
It isnt a hard Question.
The main answer I have got, is it is allways the other person..
What Changes have You made in your own Life, to Better future relationships...
It isnt a hard Question.
The main answer I have got, is it is allways the other person..
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langleygirl: Think it simply comes down to be honest and real ... about yourself, your partner and the relationship. Can you take a step back and see things clearly and make the appropriate changes if necessary.
You make excellent points and I'd say trust and honesty play the major parts..
As for stepping back, yes I can, but whether I see things more clearly, I'm not so sure.. but I'd go with my instinct and be willing to take a chance to make it work.. though that only works if both have the same instincts and convictions.. 
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HotrodLarrys: I feel we all have room to grow, and we all made mistakes along the way, so sometimes Soulsearching does good for us, as we all fall far short of Perfect...
I just feel it a Growing Process, No Mater what our age, their is much to learn about ourselves, and past experiences, and the Mistakes we all have made along the way.
I just feel it a Growing Process, No Mater what our age, their is much to learn about ourselves, and past experiences, and the Mistakes we all have made along the way.
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I don't understand why some people seem to focus on the negatives in people, and in life, before the good things.
Nobody's perfect, and if that's what you're looking for, you'll always be unhappy.