being nice does not work (203)
LegsEleven8Melbourne, Victoria Australia11 Threads 253 PostsBeing nice is the best way to be. But it has to be a genuine niceness. Two faced people are not welcome. If all were genuinely nice and had a gold heart, then this world would be paradise...
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demonfairy: No woman wants someone abusive.talk more in the forums it helps a person in so many different ways to grow as a person.if you don't learn to love yourself as you are,how do you expect to fine someone to love you back...love begins at home...good luck my friend,try reading some books on interacting with people,learn to smile and nod to strangers,we want bite you.
Lol .... we just nibble! Sorry I couldn't resist!
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langleygirl: Lol .... we just nibble! Sorry I couldn't resist!
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langleygirl: Lol .... we just nibble! Sorry I couldn't resist!
Thank God for women!
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scoutmaster: If abusive and rude men are such a turn off then why is it that every girl I have been truely atracted to and had genuine feelings for wanted to be just friends and ended up with rude lying a**hole.
Maybe you are attracted to the wrong type.
Try looking for a different type of woman,because all woman are not rude lying a**hole.
with a attitude like that,why would any woman want to be with someone with such a negative attitude towards woman?
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scoutmaster: If abusive and rude men are such a turn off then why is it that every girl I have been truely atracted to and had genuine feelings for wanted to be just friends and ended up with rude lying a**hole.
Many people hide their true evil self till they catch their mate. Then the true bad self shows. Sad but true...
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scoutmaster: If abusive and rude men are such a turn off then why is it that every girl I have been truely atracted to and had genuine feelings for wanted to be just friends and ended up with rude lying a**hole.
Maybe because they were codependents....something you might not want and are better off without imo
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scoutmaster: If abusive and rude men are such a turn off then why is it that every girl I have been truely atracted to and had genuine feelings for wanted to be just friends and ended up with rude lying a**hole.
Perhaps you need to ask yourself what attracts you to the same type of woman over and over? Are you more confidant around them, feel needed more? There could be a number of different reasons.
I think sometimes you like to be the rescuer - just from some of the things that you've said. Perhaps you need a woman who doesn't need so much rescuing.
If you want a good partner, be the best that you can be yourself and then you'll realize more easily who to avoid before being emotionally involved. There will always be issues with people for no one is perfect, but its also about finding someone who wants to share their life with you, and you can learn to love them despite their faults.
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demonfairy: Maybe you are attracted to the wrong type.
Try looking for a different type of woman,because all woman are not rude lying a**hole.
with a attitude like that,why would any woman want to be with someone with such a negative attitude towards woman?
Try looking for a different type of woman,because all woman are not rude lying a**hole.
with a attitude like that,why would any woman want to be with someone with such a negative attitude towards woman?
I did not say women where rude and lying, ( anthough some are ). I said the men they went after where.
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jac379: Aaah...this maybe why I am unsure of you...I must have seen some meaness, but you seem like an ok bloke. Nah, if you've been rude as in mean, rather than rude as in cheeky humour, then that would make me very wary.
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langleygirl: Perhaps you need to ask yourself what attracts you to the same type of woman over and over? Are you more confidant around them, feel needed more? There could be a number of different reasons.
I think sometimes you like to be the rescuer - just from some of the things that you've said. Perhaps you need a woman who doesn't need so much rescuing.
If you want a good partner, be the best that you can be yourself and then you'll realize more easily who to avoid before being emotionally involved. There will always be issues with people for no one is perfect, but its also about finding someone who wants to share their life with you, and you can learn to love them despite their faults.
I think sometimes you like to be the rescuer - just from some of the things that you've said. Perhaps you need a woman who doesn't need so much rescuing.
If you want a good partner, be the best that you can be yourself and then you'll realize more easily who to avoid before being emotionally involved. There will always be issues with people for no one is perfect, but its also about finding someone who wants to share their life with you, and you can learn to love them despite their faults.
you are right, I use to be the rescuer type but I have changed. I currently have two ladies after me and I have told them that when there divorce is final and they are setteld let me know but I am not being a part of there issues again. I have had enough of that. those are not the ladis Im talking about though when I say the ones I have been truely attracted to.
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hellosailor: Agree with that, and if men really think that way, they are totally Wrong.
If we are so wrong then why is it that vertualy every truely nice guy in the world feels the same way.
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Okay, for starters, you cannot even begin to realize the potential you possess, and you never will as long as you continue to limit yourself by letting your loneliness control you. You are your own bully, your own despair has you in a choke hold, and you are letting it take you over.
First off, decide to change. It's obvious women aren't falling for you "as you are". Despite what some people say, and no matter what they want to believe, if they do not push themselves to become better, no one will ever accept them for "who they are". It's a silly misconception that people use who do not want to put forth the effort to better themselves, and make themselves more desirable. I know I am going to catch flack about this from people that want to stick to their guns on the "just be yourself and everything will work out in time" note, but it doesn't matter, I have a point and I am driving it home, walk with me, this is your crash course to a better future.
Secondly, from the dawn of time, the female species in nearly every instance is won, drawn to, or chosen by either the strongest, or most able male. So this being said, if they sense you are weak, even if they aren't actively thinking it, they are going to pass you over no matter how cute they think you are, or how great your personality is, etc. Women need strength in a man, strength of understanding, strength of will, strength of heart, and strength to not only stand on your own but also strength to hold her above all else. Nice guys finish last, because nice guys are usually weak in some form or another. No you do not have to be a bodybuilding meat-head, or some Tapout gear wearing MMA wannabe- muscles do not make you a man. But break yourself down, and reinvent yourself. Strength is defined as: the ability to withstand or exert great force, stress, or pressure. And furthermore, to survive, to survive everything. Self reliance and emotional fortification are at the core of great strength. Knowledge is power, but understanding is strength. If you can understand that strength is not a quality that will make your life easier, but harder, and if you can accept this, and still strive for it while life laughs at you through its yellow twisted teeth, you will carve out a path that would make Thor of Norse mythology himself jealous. Life will rest at your feet like a dog and you will be a man like no other.
Thirdly, being alone is NOT a bad thing. You can accomplish so much more when you are alone than you can when you have others around you. You can focus better, distractions are limited, other people's opinions and misunderstanding will not matter because they aren't around. Use that time to transform yourself into someone you can be proud of, someone that doesn't have to just hope that someday, someone will accept you for whom you are. Someone that will shatter the mold of the ordinary man and captivate women in ways they only read about in sensual novels.
First off, decide to change. It's obvious women aren't falling for you "as you are". Despite what some people say, and no matter what they want to believe, if they do not push themselves to become better, no one will ever accept them for "who they are". It's a silly misconception that people use who do not want to put forth the effort to better themselves, and make themselves more desirable. I know I am going to catch flack about this from people that want to stick to their guns on the "just be yourself and everything will work out in time" note, but it doesn't matter, I have a point and I am driving it home, walk with me, this is your crash course to a better future.
Secondly, from the dawn of time, the female species in nearly every instance is won, drawn to, or chosen by either the strongest, or most able male. So this being said, if they sense you are weak, even if they aren't actively thinking it, they are going to pass you over no matter how cute they think you are, or how great your personality is, etc. Women need strength in a man, strength of understanding, strength of will, strength of heart, and strength to not only stand on your own but also strength to hold her above all else. Nice guys finish last, because nice guys are usually weak in some form or another. No you do not have to be a bodybuilding meat-head, or some Tapout gear wearing MMA wannabe- muscles do not make you a man. But break yourself down, and reinvent yourself. Strength is defined as: the ability to withstand or exert great force, stress, or pressure. And furthermore, to survive, to survive everything. Self reliance and emotional fortification are at the core of great strength. Knowledge is power, but understanding is strength. If you can understand that strength is not a quality that will make your life easier, but harder, and if you can accept this, and still strive for it while life laughs at you through its yellow twisted teeth, you will carve out a path that would make Thor of Norse mythology himself jealous. Life will rest at your feet like a dog and you will be a man like no other.
Thirdly, being alone is NOT a bad thing. You can accomplish so much more when you are alone than you can when you have others around you. You can focus better, distractions are limited, other people's opinions and misunderstanding will not matter because they aren't around. Use that time to transform yourself into someone you can be proud of, someone that doesn't have to just hope that someday, someone will accept you for whom you are. Someone that will shatter the mold of the ordinary man and captivate women in ways they only read about in sensual novels.
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scoutmaster: you are right, I use to be the rescuer type but I have changed. I currently have two ladies after me and I have told them that when there divorce is final and they are setteld let me know but I am not being a part of there issues again. I have had enough of that. those are not the ladis Im talking about though when I say the ones I have been truely attracted to.
Well I personally think its wise to steer clear of people who are separated - nothing good has come of it in my experience. They are sometimes simply too messed up. As for the others - well they are responsible for their choices - doesn't mean that you'll ever understand the why behind their choices, but you do have the choice of whether to continue to involve yourself with them or move on.------ This thread is Archived ------
langleygirl: Well I personally think its wise to steer clear of people who are separated - nothing good has come of it in my experience. They are sometimes simply too messed up. As for the others - well they are responsible for their choices - doesn't mean that you'll ever understand the why behind their choices, but you do have the choice of whether to continue to involve yourself with them or move on.
yup and moving on is just what I am trying to do, sometimes it is not easy when feelings go deep but here I go..
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ambient_sounds: Okay, for starters, you cannot even begin to realize the potential you possess, and you never will as long as you continue to limit yourself by letting your loneliness control you. You are your own bully, your own despair has you in a choke hold, and you are letting it take you over.
First off, decide to change. It's obvious women aren't falling for you "as you are". Despite what some people say, and no matter what they want to believe, if they do not push themselves to become better, no one will ever accept them for "who they are". It's a silly misconception that people use who do not want to put forth the effort to better themselves, and make themselves more desirable. I know I am going to catch flack about this from people that want to stick to their guns on the "just be yourself and everything will work out in time" note, but it doesn't matter, I have a point and I am driving it home, walk with me, this is your crash course to a better future.
Secondly, from the dawn of time, the female species in nearly every instance is won, drawn to, or chosen by either the strongest, or most able male. So this being said, if they sense you are weak, even if they aren't actively thinking it, they are going to pass you over no matter how cute they think you are, or how great your personality is, etc. Women need strength in a man, strength of understanding, strength of will, strength of heart, and strength to not only stand on your own but also strength to hold her above all else. Nice guys finish last, because nice guys are usually weak in some form or another. No you do not have to be a bodybuilding meat-head, or some Tapout gear wearing MMA wannabe- muscles do not make you a man. But break yourself down, and reinvent yourself. Strength is defined as: the ability to withstand or exert great force, stress, or pressure. And furthermore, to survive, to survive everything. Self reliance and emotional fortification are at the core of great strength. Knowledge is power, but understanding is strength. If you can understand that strength is not a quality that will make your life easier, but harder, and if you can accept this, and still strive for it while life laughs at you through its yellow twisted teeth, you will carve out a path that would make Thor of Norse mythology himself jealous. Life will rest at your feet like a dog and you will be a man like no other.
Thirdly, being alone is NOT a bad thing. You can accomplish so much more when you are alone than you can when you have others around you. You can focus better, distractions are limited, other people's opinions and misunderstanding will not matter because they aren't around. Use that time to transform yourself into someone you can be proud of, someone that doesn't have to just hope that someday, someone will accept you for whom you are. Someone that will shatter the mold of the ordinary man and captivate women in ways they only read about in sensual novels.
First off, decide to change. It's obvious women aren't falling for you "as you are". Despite what some people say, and no matter what they want to believe, if they do not push themselves to become better, no one will ever accept them for "who they are". It's a silly misconception that people use who do not want to put forth the effort to better themselves, and make themselves more desirable. I know I am going to catch flack about this from people that want to stick to their guns on the "just be yourself and everything will work out in time" note, but it doesn't matter, I have a point and I am driving it home, walk with me, this is your crash course to a better future.
Secondly, from the dawn of time, the female species in nearly every instance is won, drawn to, or chosen by either the strongest, or most able male. So this being said, if they sense you are weak, even if they aren't actively thinking it, they are going to pass you over no matter how cute they think you are, or how great your personality is, etc. Women need strength in a man, strength of understanding, strength of will, strength of heart, and strength to not only stand on your own but also strength to hold her above all else. Nice guys finish last, because nice guys are usually weak in some form or another. No you do not have to be a bodybuilding meat-head, or some Tapout gear wearing MMA wannabe- muscles do not make you a man. But break yourself down, and reinvent yourself. Strength is defined as: the ability to withstand or exert great force, stress, or pressure. And furthermore, to survive, to survive everything. Self reliance and emotional fortification are at the core of great strength. Knowledge is power, but understanding is strength. If you can understand that strength is not a quality that will make your life easier, but harder, and if you can accept this, and still strive for it while life laughs at you through its yellow twisted teeth, you will carve out a path that would make Thor of Norse mythology himself jealous. Life will rest at your feet like a dog and you will be a man like no other.
Thirdly, being alone is NOT a bad thing. You can accomplish so much more when you are alone than you can when you have others around you. You can focus better, distractions are limited, other people's opinions and misunderstanding will not matter because they aren't around. Use that time to transform yourself into someone you can be proud of, someone that doesn't have to just hope that someday, someone will accept you for whom you are. Someone that will shatter the mold of the ordinary man and captivate women in ways they only read about in sensual novels.
I like this...well put, especially the part about being alone not being a bad thing.
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woodzchick: I like this...well put, especially the part about being alone not being a bad thing.
Being alone is not a bad thing except when your glands are pumping great volums of testostrone into your blood
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scoutmaster: Being alone is not a bad thing except when your glands are pumping great volums of testostrone into your blood
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woodzchick: That will get you into trouble every time!
Hay woods good to see you again.
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