ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X (46)

Jan 8, 2011 4:05 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
lassie806
lassie806lassie806kilkenny, Kilkenny Ireland84 Threads 486 Posts
Went ice skating last night and of course as it was my first time on the ice it would have to happen to me to run in to the x boyfriend on the ice and his new girlfriend watching from the seating area .frustrated , i said a quick hello got up and skated of dieing of pure embarassment .Would you still be friends with the x if they did the dirt on you and decided to let you go .dunno
Jan 8, 2011 4:06 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
lassie806: Went ice skating last night and of course as it was my first time on the ice it would have to happen to me to run in to the x boyfriend on the ice and his new girlfriend watching from the seating area . , i said a quick hello got up and skated of dieing of pure embarassment .Would you still be friends with the x if they did the dirt on you and decided to let you go .


Not in the short term but there may come a time when you'd thank him for it.
Jan 8, 2011 4:10 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
jazzyleopar
jazzyleoparjazzyleoparcork city, Cork Ireland6 Threads 99 Posts
lassie806: Went ice skating last night and of course as it was my first time on the ice it would have to happen to me to run in to the x boyfriend on the ice and his new girlfriend watching from the seating area . , i said a quick hello got up and skated of dieing of pure embarassment .Would you still be friends with the x if they did the dirt on you and decided to let you go .
i am still friends with my ex and she cheated on me, didnt talk for a few months but its fine now, you get over it sxxt happenslaugh
Jan 8, 2011 4:20 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
jimbo79
jimbo79jimbo79carlow, Carlow Ireland85 Threads 8 Polls 4,259 Posts
lassie806: Went ice skating last night and of course as it was my first time on the ice it would have to happen to me to run in to the x boyfriend on the ice and his new girlfriend watching from the seating area . , i said a quick hello got up and skated of dieing of pure embarassment .Would you still be friends with the x if they did the dirt on you and decided to let you go .
well i cant talk for been cheated on to the best of my knowledge that hasn't happened, but ive had things end bitter very bitter, but in time things normalize and you move on from whatever hurt was caused, i talk to a couple of exes of mine now
Jan 8, 2011 4:25 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
Kenwood
KenwoodKenwoodlimerick cork, Limerick Ireland3 Posts
it really depends on 2 things if you were narried like i was the answer is a bib no 2 if it happened g/f b/f yes it could be possible
Jan 8, 2011 4:54 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
wazzaaaa
wazzaaaawazzaaaaWicklow, Ireland14 Threads 45 Posts
are yous serious
you s would talk to ur ex afetr her or she was with some one else
while there were with u
lets not mention what they would of being getting up 2
yous have to be messing
serious frustrated
Jan 8, 2011 6:08 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
Taureanmale
TaureanmaleTaureanmaleRoscommon, Ireland86 Threads 5 Polls 1,672 Posts
lassie806: Went ice skating last night and of course as it was my first time on the ice it would have to happen to me to run in to the x boyfriend on the ice and his new girlfriend watching from the seating area . , i said a quick hello got up and skated of dieing of pure embarassment . Would you still be friends with the x if they did the dirt on you and decided to let you go .


Hiya why were you dying of embarrassment? Wasnt it him did the dirt on you? He s the one should ve been ashamed! Hold that head high girl! hug
Jan 8, 2011 6:09 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
sugar77
sugar77sugar77bray, Wicklow Ireland13 Threads 3,902 Posts
wazzaaaa: are yous serious
you s would talk to ur ex afetr her or she was with some one else
while there were with u
lets not mention what they would of being getting up 2
yous have to be messing
serious


thumbs up Have to agree
Jan 8, 2011 6:18 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
craized
craizedcraizedEnnis, Clare Ireland5 Threads 1 Polls 1,473 Posts
lassie806: Went ice skating last night and of course as it was my first time on the ice it would have to happen to me to run in to the x boyfriend on the ice and his new girlfriend watching from the seating area . , i said a quick hello got up and skated of dieing of pure embarassment .Would you still be friends with the x if they did the dirt on you and decided to let you go .


Yes but it will take a long time!! I am still friendly with my ex but its a quick text or quick phone once or twice a year, we don't meet on a soical level but after so many years it was hard to say goodbye not the romance!! but the good elements friends, family etc my family are also in contact in fact much more so then myself!!
Jan 8, 2011 6:21 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
craized
craizedcraizedEnnis, Clare Ireland5 Threads 1 Polls 1,473 Posts
craized: Yes but it will take a long time!! I am still friendly with my ex but its a quick text or quick phone once or twice a year, we don't meet on a soical level but after so many years it was hard to say goodbye not the romance!! but the good elements friends, family etc my family are also in contact in fact much more so then myself!!


AWWWW just reading other post!! well if he didn't treat you with the respect you deserve while dating then no I wouldn't be ''friendly'' now
Jan 8, 2011 6:54 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
JustLittleMe
JustLittleMeJustLittleMeDublin, Wicklow Ireland115 Threads 7 Polls 2,280 Posts
lassie806: Went ice skating last night and of course as it was my first time on the ice it would have to happen to me to run in to the x boyfriend on the ice and his new girlfriend watching from the seating area . , i said a quick hello got up and skated of dieing of pure embarassment .Would you still be friends with the x if they did the dirt on you and decided to let you go .



No, I am not friends with the ex who cheated, I am not even civil.
Jan 8, 2011 7:07 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
wittyone
wittyonewittyoneDerry, Ireland9 Threads 8,815 Posts
lassie806: Went ice skating last night and of course as it was my first time on the ice it would have to happen to me to run in to the x boyfriend on the ice and his new girlfriend watching from the seating area . , i said a quick hello got up and skated of dieing of pure embarassment .Would you still be friends with the x if they did the dirt on you and decided to let you go .


If he cheated on me NO chance, ultimate betrayal if in a committed relationship with someone, wouldn't do it so would not except it. You can hold your head high hug
Jan 8, 2011 7:17 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
Godsgift
GodsgiftGodsgiftEnnis, Clare Ireland251 Threads 13 Polls 10,040 Posts
There's a couple of sayings come to mind!

1. You'll be judged by the company you keep!

2. If you fly with the crows, you'll be shot down with the crows!


I choose not to assosciate with backstabbers, liars, and cheats. If Bertie Ahern lived next door to me, I would not talk to him!

I like to think I treat people the way I would like them to treat me. So if they cheat on me once. That's it! They're a non person as far as I'm concerned!


If it's a case we've broken up amicably and things were just not working out for one of us it's different.

An ex of mine that I was crazy about actually dumped me. She had replaced me within 6 weeks which stung, espescially when I saw them together soon afterwards on a weekend away in Bantry!

Now that hurt, but that was down to pride and genuine loss! That's human enough and was something I had to work through. So if I saw her today, I'd like to think I'd be polite and civil!
Jan 8, 2011 7:25 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
wittyone
wittyonewittyoneDerry, Ireland9 Threads 8,815 Posts
Godsgift: There's a couple of sayings come to mind!

1. You'll be judged by the company you keep!

2. If you fly with the crows, you'll be shot down with the crows!I choose not to assosciate with backstabbers, liars, and cheats. If Bertie Ahern lived next door to me, I would not talk to him!

I like to think I treat people the way I would like them to treat me. So if they cheat on me once. That's it! They're a non person as far as I'm concerned!If it's a case we've broken up amicably and things were just not working out for one of us it's different.

An ex of mine that I was crazy about actually dumped me. She had replaced me within 6 weeks which stung, espescially when I saw them together soon afterwards on a weekend away in Bantry!

Now that hurt, but that was down to pride and genuine loss! That's human enough and was something I had to work through. So if I saw her today, I'd like to think I'd be polite and civil!


This is a saying I stand by and have passed on to my children and those young people I have worked with during the years, treat others as you would like to be treated yourself or would like your loved ones to be treated. I use this to make my kids and young people think about the impact of their actions, it teaches them empathy. thumbs up
Jan 8, 2011 7:52 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
JustLittleMe
JustLittleMeJustLittleMeDublin, Wicklow Ireland115 Threads 7 Polls 2,280 Posts
wittyone: This is a saying I stand by and have passed on to my children and those young people I have worked with during the years, treat others as you would like to be treated yourself or would like your loved ones to be treated. I use this to make my kids and young people think about the impact of their actions, it teaches them empathy.


Me too, and I know we are taking about relationships here but I have the same attitude to friendship, once the trust is gone its gone and I removed people from my life
Jan 8, 2011 8:11 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
blipper2000
blipper2000blipper2000dublin, Dublin Ireland69 Threads 9 Polls 6,900 Posts
whiteontop: Gives a whole new meaning to brown envelopes.

How you doin G

im tip top whiteywave
Jan 8, 2011 8:21 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
wittyone
wittyonewittyoneDerry, Ireland9 Threads 8,815 Posts
Actually maybe it's ok for the woman to have two lovers




This guy is happy enough sharing dunno grin
Jan 8, 2011 8:22 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
wittyone
wittyonewittyoneDerry, Ireland9 Threads 8,815 Posts
wittyone: Actually maybe it's ok for the woman to have two lovers

This guy is happy enough sharing



wrong song here it is doh


Jan 8, 2011 8:22 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
CAITLIN765
CAITLIN765CAITLIN765DERRY, Derry Ireland12 Threads 4,637 Posts
JustLittleMe: Me too, and I know we are taking about relationships here but I have the same attitude to friendship, once the trust is gone its gone and I removed people from my life


Absolutely agree JLM - trust is one of the hardest things to build,easiest to destroy and dont think it can ever really be built up a second time - once its gone its gone

My ex still rings me often - we ended things very amicably - he had to move away for work and long distance just didnt work for either of us. I sometimes feel that this contact confuses me a bit ....it makes me think of the good times and what we passed up even though I know it was the right decision. If he cheated on me however and we ended things bitterly - contact wouldnt be a consideration at all.
Jan 8, 2011 8:25 AM CST ARE YOU STILL FRIENDS WITH THE X
craized
craizedcraizedEnnis, Clare Ireland5 Threads 1 Polls 1,473 Posts
wittyone: This is a saying I stand by and have passed on to my children and those young people I have worked with during the years, treat others as you would like to be treated yourself or would like your loved ones to be treated. I use this to make my kids and young people think about the impact of their actions, it teaches them empathy.
thumbs up

So true I'm still slightly bitter after an experience whereby someone caused me unbearable hurt & disappointment by there actions towards me crying Someday I may forgive but I will never have a friendship with this person again... I had the uttermost respect/loyalty towards our friendship which is why I'm still upset today I still can't bear to think about it really!
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