i'm better than you! ( Archived) (7)

NOT!

as young people, we were hopefully taught right from
wrong, good from bad.
many of us, not all of us,
formed ideals and opinions based on these things.
and while still young,
thought we knew how we would respond in almost every situation.
many of us would judge others on what they did,
and would use these things to feel holier than thou.

as we got older, and were tested ourselves,
many of us found things not quite so black and
white as we once thought they were.
some of us outgrew this behaviour
of judging others to feel better about ourselves,
and some didn't.
some decided to only judge themselves on their own merit,
accomplishment, failings etc.
while others continued to point at other people
in an attempt to draw attention away from themselves.
some of us learned to give other people a break
on making bad decisions, because we have all made mistakes.

while others still point, and go into some kind of denial
with a bunch of explainations and excuses when
confronted with their own crap, and even go so far as to
say,"well thats different!"
even when confronted with taking the exact same
actions that they are judging someone else for.

here is where it gets hairy.
do those of us that outgrew this behaviour let ourselves
feel like we are better than those that didn't?
doesn't that kind of put us back to square one
on a different level?
where do we go from here?

i was very careful to say "some of us"

i have to admit, when i was eighteen,
i was very judgemental.
but when life throws you some of the same
situations you were being judgemental about,
you get knocked off your horse real quick.

even if you do make a better decision than
someone you had previously said something about,
you have a lot more understanding.

you think, "oooh, i can see why he/she might have done
that, i'm sure tempted to"

nothing happened.
just thought bouncing around in my head at work,
thinking about people i have known over the past ten years that do this kind of thing.
even relatives, that i didn't recognize that this was what they were doing until i got older.
i was pretty oblivious.

we are ALL 111