what do i do (42)
anneh88: i know people might be wonderin y im gonna ask what i ask cos its a datin site but i just like that on here ppl are honest and nice
anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
the exact same thing happened to me not so long ago. I finally 'copped on' - i thought back on how many times things like this had happened and realized i was being used! Its over. Have a think back, has things like this happened with him before that you let slip by because your too nice to 'rock the boat'? See have you been making excuses for the things he does lik this or is it a once off!
he's some legend 
Godsgift: Look, I'm 50 years of age and single so I would take this advice with a touch of caution but:
I shouldn't have to tell a partner to care for me. It's not a communication issue! If I have to tell them then they wouldn't be with me. If he had feelings for you, then he would have wanted to make your day special and not have needed instructions.
Sorry if that's a bit brutal.
I shouldn't have to tell a partner to care for me. It's not a communication issue! If I have to tell them then they wouldn't be with me. If he had feelings for you, then he would have wanted to make your day special and not have needed instructions.
Sorry if that's a bit brutal.
thanks was kinda thinkin the same thing think ur right best bet is to cut my losses before i get hurt
anneh88: no i wont be seeing him tomorrow he has things to do although dont mind vday at all cos dont really believe in it myself think its all just about retailers gettin more money in
personally i would tell him to take a hike, i know for my birthday(well two birthdays, a christmas and two valentines days)my ex when he was in iraq he sent me a card and even though he wasnt meant to he also sent me a small present from the base he was on yet yours could be bothered putting the effort into getting you a card, i would say your better off without him and you could easy find a man to treat you better 
Blooms: the exact same thing happened to me not so long ago. I finally 'copped on' - i thought back on how many times things like this had happened and realized i was being used! Its over. Have a think back, has things like this happened with him before that you let slip by because your too nice to 'rock the boat'? See have you been making excuses for the things he does lik this or is it a once off!
no this is not the first time somethin happened though this is the biggest other things like forgettin his wallet when we go out sometimes and wen he has it checkin the bill an payin to the cent for wat he had i thought it was just that he didnt have money but the other day he told me wat he earns and wat hes after sayin the last 6 months so its not that
anneh88: no this is not the first time somethin happened though this is the biggest other things like forgettin his wallet when we go out sometimes and wen he has it checkin the bill an payin to the cent for wat he had i thought it was just that he didnt have money but the other day he told me wat he earns and wat hes after sayin the last 6 months so its not that
i'm sorry for being hars but you either have to give em a big kick up his behind nd tell em to get with it or get rid of him 
SereneGreen: Explain to him that that's not good enough and you deserve to be with someone who would like to give/get you something/anything no matter how small it is to show that he cares and put even a thought into your special day (you teach people how to treat you).......small things matter and it would surely make me step back and re-assess (if it were me) Belated Happy Birthday
just seen that one thamks a mill
anneh88: no this is not the first time somethin happened though this is the biggest other things like forgettin his wallet when we go out sometimes and wen he has it checkin the bill an payin to the cent for wat he had i thought it was just that he didnt have money but the other day he told me wat he earns and wat hes after sayin the last 6 months so its not that
are my ears ringing? more alarm bells girl ....
ask yourself how much are you worth?
Blooms: Hey thats a wicked idea, . I'd go with that! And as for him 'having things to do 2moro? Wel how long does it take to lift up a phone and order flowers, hell he should 've done that friday or yesterday- sounds like me- I used to say stuff like you.
i agree sounds like a great idea although my friend was pretty annoyed over it she came up wit the idea of postin a card in my letter box next time hes down from him thought that was good too
Losty: It might bring you laying on my bed showered in rose petals
Goodness, am I bad?
Goodness, am I bad?
LOSTY
Hey!!anneh88: yeah ur right wish i had of done this before last night got chatted up so many times last night but had to let them down
Well I hope yot meet somebody lovely and generous and kind. You come across as a loving generous person and you deserve somd tlc in return. Have a lovely day 2moro. If your not working treat yourself and if you are, well do something nice 4 u after work. You deserve it. Best of luck x!
Blooms: Well I hope yot meet somebody lovely and generous and kind. You come across as a loving generous person and you deserve somd tlc in return. Have a lovely day 2moro. If your not working treat yourself and if you are, well do something nice 4 u after work. You deserve it. Best of luck x!
thanks a mill u too
anneh88: i know people might be wonderin y im gonna ask what i ask cos its a datin site but i just like that on here ppl are honest and nice
anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
He's an idiot, even if you didn't hint at something he should've went out and got you sometime anyway, your right to be mad at him,
sally101: Totally agree - if you don't speak up and change it now then you set the precedent for future behaviour.
I know because I did it - not a card or a gift for years and years, he'd day sure get yourself something or I don't know what to get, it was never about the "what" - I would have loved the effort
- before we split I waited 9 whole months for him to do something for me, anything, any gesture, just a thing that made my day easier and there was nothing ...
Don't do it girl ... had that t-shirt
I know because I did it - not a card or a gift for years and years, he'd day sure get yourself something or I don't know what to get, it was never about the "what" - I would have loved the effort
- before we split I waited 9 whole months for him to do something for me, anything, any gesture, just a thing that made my day easier and there was nothing ...
Don't do it girl ... had that t-shirt
anneh88: i know people might be wonderin y im gonna ask what i ask cos its a datin site but i just like that on here ppl are honest and nice
anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
Dump him quick he's one of those users..I'll wait while u dump him..
Let me know asap wen ur free. If u don't ur in for a very painful heartbreak ride...Trust me.
forestshaks: Hey Mackie79 u seem to be angry but wait a minute she said on her profile she was looking for someone so she already had him and sneaking behind his back...Well,well,well do i see payback time or is it karma..? Well Mackie what do u think?
well i joined this site before i met him havent been on since only every so often to get advice i dont know how to change my profile and i wud never rip anyone off no point in being wit someone if ur goin to do that is there
anneh88: well i joined this site before i met him havent been on since only every so often to get advice i dont know how to change my profile and i wud never rip anyone off no point in being wit someone if ur goin to do that is there
You have every right to feel both disappointed and let down. What Witty and GG have posted earlier would reflect my sentiments wholely....
dump him he is a loser
jimbo79: dump him he is a loser
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no i wont be seeing him tomorrow he has things to do although dont mind vday at all cos dont really believe in it myself think its all just about retailers gettin more money in