what do i do (42)
anneh88: i know people might be wonderin y im gonna ask what i ask cos its a datin site but i just like that on here ppl are honest and nice
anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
eh? anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
thats da lamest excuse i've heard yet
anneh88: i know people might be wonderin y im gonna ask what i ask cos its a datin site but i just like that on here ppl are honest and nice
anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
Milk it for every thing... guilt is great
baldydude: eh?
thats da lamest excuse i've heard yet
thats da lamest excuse i've heard yet
ha i know but wat do i do do i leave it or say it to him
anneh88: i know people might be wonderin y im gonna ask what i ask cos its a datin site but i just like that on here ppl are honest and nice
anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
A I totally agree with you on this - it doesnt cost much to show a bit of thought especially around a special occasion like a birthday - it doesn't have to cost a penny actually to be treated well - little gestures stay with you - I would mention to him cos i feel that from this point forward you would have to be leaving lists for xmas - birthdays - valentines etc - get the message across nowanyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
anneh88: i know people might be wonderin y im gonna ask what i ask cos its a datin site but i just like that on here ppl are honest and nice
anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
Explain to him that that's not good enough and you deserve to be with someone who would like to give/get you something/anything no matter how small it is to show that he cares and put even a thought into your special day (you teach people how to treat you).......small things matter and it would surely make me step back and re-assess (if it were me) Belated Happy Birthday anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
Wait and see what tomorrow might bring...
anneh88: i know people might be wonderin y im gonna ask what i ask cos its a datin site but i just like that on here ppl are honest and nice
anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
sounds pretty selfish, reminds me of my ex
I would be annoyed 
1FieryRedHead: Wait and see what tomorrow might bring...
It might bring you laying on my bed showered in rose petals
Goodness, am I bad?
wittyone: sounds pretty selfish, reminds me of my ex I would be annoyed
im with witty, you would think after 7 months together he would have some idea of what to get you. sounds like he is only interested in what he can get from you and a relationship is meant to be 50/50. his excuse of you not hinting is bull, the whole idea of a present is that you dont know what it is till you open it isnt it For what it's worth and regardless of what you did for him on his birthday, I would be deeply hurt in your position.
To be treated with total indifference is worse in my mind than being treated badly! It's as if you don't exist.
To be treated with total indifference is worse in my mind than being treated badly! It's as if you don't exist.
Godsgift: For what it's worth and regardless of what you did for him on his birthday, I would be deeply hurt in your position.
To be treated with total indifference is worse in my mind than being treated badly! It's as if you don't exist.
To be treated with total indifference is worse in my mind than being treated badly! It's as if you don't exist.
spot on GG, it's like you don't mean enough to them, and I felt taken for granted also. your a little sweetheart arn't yeh, and to think I never noticed that during all our bumping
anneh88: i know people might be wonderin y im gonna ask what i ask cos its a datin site but i just like that on here ppl are honest and nice
anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
That's awful! I'd be annoyed to. As you said, it's not about the money, it's the thought and effort someone puts into something, shows that they care. If doesn't make up for it tomorrow, I know what I'd be doing...!
Godsgift: For what it's worth and regardless of what you did for him on his birthday, I would be deeply hurt in your position.
To be treated with total indifference is worse in my mind than being treated badly! It's as if you don't exist.
To be treated with total indifference is worse in my mind than being treated badly! It's as if you don't exist.
thanks dont feel to bad really thought i was over reacting thats y i posted but now i just dont know wat to do i feel like i cant just leave it an accept it do i walk away if he feels so little for me or do i fight for our relationship?
anneh88: thanks dont feel to bad really thought i was over reacting thats y i posted but now i just dont know wat to do i feel like i cant just leave it an accept it do i walk away if he feels so little for me or do i fight for our relationship?
is there a relationship worth fighting for if hes not gonna put the effort into your birthday has he said anything about getting you something or doing domething for tomorrow?
Godsgift: For what it's worth and regardless of what you did for him on his birthday, I would be deeply hurt in your position.
To be treated with total indifference is worse in my mind than being treated badly! It's as if you don't exist.
To be treated with total indifference is worse in my mind than being treated badly! It's as if you don't exist.
Totally agree - if you don't speak up and change it now then you set the precedent for future behaviour.I know because I did it - not a card or a gift for years and years, he'd day sure get yourself something or I don't know what to get, it was never about the "what" - I would have loved the effort
- before we split I waited 9 whole months for him to do something for me, anything, any gesture, just a thing that made my day easier and there was nothing ...
Don't do it girl ... had that t-shirt
Losty: A very low chance; you'd probably put rose thorns into my socks instead
LOL!!
Wouldnt quite go that far in fairness!!
anneh88: i know people might be wonderin y im gonna ask what i ask cos its a datin site but i just like that on here ppl are honest and nice
anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
Id be pretty annoyed if it was me. it doesnt take much effort to buy a card. See if he does or gets you something tomorrowanyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?
anneh88: thanks dont feel to bad really thought i was over reacting thats y i posted but now i just dont know wat to do i feel like i cant just leave it an accept it do i walk away if he feels so little for me or do i fight for our relationship?
Look, I'm 50 years of age and single so I would take this advice with a touch of caution but:
I shouldn't have to tell a partner to care for me. It's not a communication issue! If I have to tell them then they wouldn't be with me. If he had feelings for you, then he would have wanted to make your day special and not have needed instructions.
Sorry if that's a bit brutal.
Godsgift: Look, I'm 50 years of age and single so I would take this advice with a touch of caution but:
I shouldn't have to tell a partner to care for me. It's not a communication issue! If I have to tell them then they wouldn't be with me. If he had feelings for you, then he would have wanted to make your day special and not have needed instructions.
Sorry if that's a bit brutal.
I shouldn't have to tell a partner to care for me. It's not a communication issue! If I have to tell them then they wouldn't be with me. If he had feelings for you, then he would have wanted to make your day special and not have needed instructions.
Sorry if that's a bit brutal.
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anyway im with this guy for 7months was his bday a few weeks ago an he was hintin for somethin so i got it for him an he was really happy so then it was my bday the other day and he didnt even get me a card an said it was because i didnt hint for anythin am i bad for being annoyed? i dont care about money its the thought that counts wit me an somethin as simple as a card wud have been nice wat do i do?