is it possible to have both feelings at the same time? (25)
carenza: I was talking to my friend today.
She is in an on and off relationship and she told me she feels separaration anxiety and fear of commitment both, when it comes to her boyfriend.
that is why her relationship is so heavy and she feels confused.
what do you think?
what can I advise her?
She is in an on and off relationship and she told me she feels separaration anxiety and fear of commitment both, when it comes to her boyfriend.
that is why her relationship is so heavy and she feels confused.
what do you think?
what can I advise her?
Hm, it seems to me that the question is: is it her doing that the relationship is on-off all the time, or is her BF keeping her on her toes??
If it's the latter, then it's natural to feel both: afraid to lose the other person, and afraid to commit to that person, because subsequent heartache seems to be unavoidable.
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Something that has to be decided as a couple and not individually. They either 'both' decide to be casual, or have a full on relationship, both commited to each other. Anything else just ain't gonna work.
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carenza: I was talking to my friend today.
She is in an on and off relationship and she told me she feels separaration anxiety and fear of commitment both, when it comes to her boyfriend.
that is why her relationship is so heavy and she feels confused.
what do you think?
what can I advise her?
She is in an on and off relationship and she told me she feels separaration anxiety and fear of commitment both, when it comes to her boyfriend.
that is why her relationship is so heavy and she feels confused.
what do you think?
what can I advise her?
give her my phone number...
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carenza: I was talking to my friend today.
She is in an on and off relationship and she told me she feels separaration anxiety and fear of commitment both, when it comes to her boyfriend.
that is why her relationship is so heavy and she feels confused.
what do you think?
what can I advise her?
She is in an on and off relationship and she told me she feels separaration anxiety and fear of commitment both, when it comes to her boyfriend.
that is why her relationship is so heavy and she feels confused.
what do you think?
what can I advise her?
Who is responsible for the relationship being on and off?Is there much emotional game playing going on?
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carenza: I was talking to my friend today.
She is in an on and off relationship and she told me she feels separaration anxiety and fear of commitment both, when it comes to her boyfriend.
that is why her relationship is so heavy and she feels confused.
what do you think?
what can I advise her?
She is in an on and off relationship and she told me she feels separaration anxiety and fear of commitment both, when it comes to her boyfriend.
that is why her relationship is so heavy and she feels confused.
what do you think?
what can I advise her?
I heard you say
She feels anxiety and fear...but nothing about love
You need love on both sides for it to work.
On and off relationships never seem to work,if you are not willing to commit,give it 100%...then they might not be a match .
Relationships are hard enough with out one of the party's wanting to run when it starts getting serious...
Sounds like your friend is not ready.
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It sounds as if you are not comitted to each other, it's easy to fall into the trap of picking the easy option. I think you must walk away.
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carenza: I was talking to my friend today.
She is in an on and off relationship and she told me she feels separaration anxiety and fear of commitment both, when it comes to her boyfriend.
that is why her relationship is so heavy and she feels confused.
what do you think?
what can I advise her?
IN 9 OUT OF 10 CASES LIKE THIS THE ONLY ANSWER IS FLYING LESSONS !She is in an on and off relationship and she told me she feels separaration anxiety and fear of commitment both, when it comes to her boyfriend.
that is why her relationship is so heavy and she feels confused.
what do you think?
what can I advise her?
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thanks for the given answers.
I am no good when it comes to relationships, so I can't give her a good advice myself.
from what I have seen, they love each other much.
but I also see, the boyfriend feels troubled by her behaviour.
she pushes him away and when he goes away, she draws him back saying he does not care for her as he used to.
when he is around, she does not want him to near because she gets irritated.
(I know, not an easy person to be with but she a nice girl for platonic friends, she only has an issue with intimacy I guess)
Today she told me about her feelings. she really loves him and is thankful he has so much patience with her but at the same time, she feels she is losing him...and to be honest, I think he will leave her soon.
(I would, if I was him.)
I suggested they take time apart from each other but she does not want that, afraid of losing him
djeez.....these are the things why I am glad not to be in a relationship myself....it it goes that way.
I told her I would listen to her but that I do not want to be in the middle of all this. She understands and I am happy with this.
what she does not know, is that I am feeling bothered with this a bit.
they are both nice people.
so, thanks again for the advice. it helps me to stay neutral.
I am no good when it comes to relationships, so I can't give her a good advice myself.
from what I have seen, they love each other much.
but I also see, the boyfriend feels troubled by her behaviour.
she pushes him away and when he goes away, she draws him back saying he does not care for her as he used to.
when he is around, she does not want him to near because she gets irritated.
(I know, not an easy person to be with but she a nice girl for platonic friends, she only has an issue with intimacy I guess)
Today she told me about her feelings. she really loves him and is thankful he has so much patience with her but at the same time, she feels she is losing him...and to be honest, I think he will leave her soon.
(I would, if I was him.)
I suggested they take time apart from each other but she does not want that, afraid of losing him
djeez.....these are the things why I am glad not to be in a relationship myself....it it goes that way.
I told her I would listen to her but that I do not want to be in the middle of all this. She understands and I am happy with this.
what she does not know, is that I am feeling bothered with this a bit.
they are both nice people.
so, thanks again for the advice. it helps me to stay neutral.
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carenza: thanks for the given answers.
I am no good when it comes to relationships, so I can't give her a good advice myself.
from what I have seen, they love each other much.
but I also see, the boyfriend feels troubled by her behaviour.
she pushes him away and when he goes away, she draws him back saying he does not care for her as he used to.
when he is around, she does not want him to near because she gets irritated.
(I know, not an easy person to be with but she a nice girl for platonic friends, she only has an issue with intimacy I guess)
Today she told me about her feelings. she really loves him and is thankful he has so much patience with her but at the same time, she feels she is losing him...and to be honest, I think he will leave her soon.
(I would, if I was him.)
I suggested they take time apart from each other but she does not want that, afraid of losing him
djeez.....these are the things why I am glad not to be in a relationship myself....it it goes that way.
I told her I would listen to her but that I do not want to be in the middle of all this. She understands and I am happy with this.
what she does not know, is that I am feeling bothered with this a bit.
they are both nice people.
so, thanks again for the advice. it helps me to stay neutral.
I am no good when it comes to relationships, so I can't give her a good advice myself.
from what I have seen, they love each other much.
but I also see, the boyfriend feels troubled by her behaviour.
she pushes him away and when he goes away, she draws him back saying he does not care for her as he used to.
when he is around, she does not want him to near because she gets irritated.
(I know, not an easy person to be with but she a nice girl for platonic friends, she only has an issue with intimacy I guess)
Today she told me about her feelings. she really loves him and is thankful he has so much patience with her but at the same time, she feels she is losing him...and to be honest, I think he will leave her soon.
(I would, if I was him.)
I suggested they take time apart from each other but she does not want that, afraid of losing him
djeez.....these are the things why I am glad not to be in a relationship myself....it it goes that way.
I told her I would listen to her but that I do not want to be in the middle of all this. She understands and I am happy with this.
what she does not know, is that I am feeling bothered with this a bit.
they are both nice people.
so, thanks again for the advice. it helps me to stay neutral.
My advice was intended for her not to makeyou feel better.
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tomcatwarne: My advice was intended for her not to makeyou feel better.
mr tomcat...
seeing your picture always make me feel better!
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carenza: mr tomcat...
seeing your picture always make me feel better!
seeing your picture always make me feel better!
Oh, ok, I miss your picky on your broom broom, nothing personal in my comments, gosh you stopped me dead.
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carenza: thanks for the given answers.
I am no good when it comes to relationships, so I can't give her a good advice myself.
from what I have seen, they love each other much.
but I also see, the boyfriend feels troubled by her behaviour.
she pushes him away and when he goes away, she draws him back saying he does not care for her as he used to.
when he is around, she does not want him to near because she gets irritated.
(I know, not an easy person to be with but she a nice girl for platonic friends, she only has an issue with intimacy I guess)
Today she told me about her feelings. she really loves him and is thankful he has so much patience with her but at the same time, she feels she is losing him...and to be honest, I think he will leave her soon.
(I would, if I was him.)
I suggested they take time apart from each other but she does not want that, afraid of losing him
djeez.....these are the things why I am glad not to be in a relationship myself....it it goes that way.
I told her I would listen to her but that I do not want to be in the middle of all this. She understands and I am happy with this.
what she does not know, is that I am feeling bothered with this a bit.
they are both nice people.
so, thanks again for the advice. it helps me to stay neutral.
Perhaps as a good friend you can help her work through her "actions" that you also state that you see her doing that is potentially hurting the relationship or suggest to her that she sits down with him and they work through them together as well. I think any good relationship a couple needs to work things out and help each other grow where they are weak - it doesn't mean its easy or not painful, but its about loving and caring for that person and wanting them to be their best. Its about each being willing to be accountable to the other (and outside others if necessary) for support and encouragement. Sounds like shes got some bad habits that she needs to change and if she's willing its totally possible.I am no good when it comes to relationships, so I can't give her a good advice myself.
from what I have seen, they love each other much.
but I also see, the boyfriend feels troubled by her behaviour.
she pushes him away and when he goes away, she draws him back saying he does not care for her as he used to.
when he is around, she does not want him to near because she gets irritated.
(I know, not an easy person to be with but she a nice girl for platonic friends, she only has an issue with intimacy I guess)
Today she told me about her feelings. she really loves him and is thankful he has so much patience with her but at the same time, she feels she is losing him...and to be honest, I think he will leave her soon.
(I would, if I was him.)
I suggested they take time apart from each other but she does not want that, afraid of losing him
djeez.....these are the things why I am glad not to be in a relationship myself....it it goes that way.
I told her I would listen to her but that I do not want to be in the middle of all this. She understands and I am happy with this.
what she does not know, is that I am feeling bothered with this a bit.
they are both nice people.
so, thanks again for the advice. it helps me to stay neutral.
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carenza: thanks for the given answers.
I am no good when it comes to relationships, so I can't give her a good advice myself.
from what I have seen, they love each other much.
but I also see, the boyfriend feels troubled by her behaviour.
she pushes him away and when he goes away, she draws him back saying he does not care for her as he used to.
when he is around, she does not want him to near because she gets irritated.
(I know, not an easy person to be with but she a nice girl for platonic friends, she only has an issue with intimacy I guess)
Today she told me about her feelings. she really loves him and is thankful he has so much patience with her but at the same time, she feels she is losing him...and to be honest, I think he will leave her soon.
(I would, if I was him.)
I suggested they take time apart from each other but she does not want that, afraid of losing him
djeez.....these are the things why I am glad not to be in a relationship myself....it it goes that way.
I told her I would listen to her but that I do not want to be in the middle of all this. She understands and I am happy with this.
what she does not know, is that I am feeling bothered with this a bit.
they are both nice people.
so, thanks again for the advice. it helps me to stay neutral.
I am no good when it comes to relationships, so I can't give her a good advice myself.
from what I have seen, they love each other much.
but I also see, the boyfriend feels troubled by her behaviour.
she pushes him away and when he goes away, she draws him back saying he does not care for her as he used to.
when he is around, she does not want him to near because she gets irritated.
(I know, not an easy person to be with but she a nice girl for platonic friends, she only has an issue with intimacy I guess)
Today she told me about her feelings. she really loves him and is thankful he has so much patience with her but at the same time, she feels she is losing him...and to be honest, I think he will leave her soon.
(I would, if I was him.)
I suggested they take time apart from each other but she does not want that, afraid of losing him
djeez.....these are the things why I am glad not to be in a relationship myself....it it goes that way.
I told her I would listen to her but that I do not want to be in the middle of all this. She understands and I am happy with this.
what she does not know, is that I am feeling bothered with this a bit.
they are both nice people.
so, thanks again for the advice. it helps me to stay neutral.
well now that I read this, please, don`t give her my phone number ....
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tomcatwarne: Oh, ok, I miss your picky on your broom broom, nothing personal in my comments, gosh you stopped me dead.
well, mr tomcat...
I got a mail from that nice lady from CS, saying my profile needs a genuine pic of myself....or nothing at all...
and my broom was already deleted by them..
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Boban1: well now that I read this, please, don`t give her my phone number ....
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langleygirl: Perhaps as a good friend you can help her work through her "actions" that you also state that you see her doing that is potentially hurting the relationship or suggest to her that she sits down with him and they work through them together as well. I think any good relationship a couple needs to work things out and help each other grow where they are weak - it doesn't mean its easy or not painful, but its about loving and caring for that person and wanting them to be their best. Its about each being willing to be accountable to the other (and outside others if necessary) for support and encouragement. Sounds like shes got some bad habits that she needs to change and if she's willing its totally possible.
thanks for the reply.....it's a good advice
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carenza: well, mr tomcat...
I got a mail from that nice lady from CS, saying my profile needs a genuine pic of myself....or nothing at all...
and my broom was already deleted by them..
I got a mail from that nice lady from CS, saying my profile needs a genuine pic of myself....or nothing at all...
and my broom was already deleted by them..
lol
know what you mean, they adjusted mine to cut out my lear jet ------ This thread is Archived ------
She needs to figure out what she wants before she loses what she has... I have seen it happen and then when she does lose what she has it will break her heart. So being honest she needs to get her life sorted work out what it is she needs and then go after it and not worry too much...
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Slarti: She needs to figure out what she wants before she loses what she has... I have seen it happen and then when she does lose what she has it will break her heart. So being honest she needs to get her life sorted work out what it is she needs and then go after it and not worry too much...
hey slarti! my favorite austria man....
thanks for the good advice
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She is in an on and off relationship and she told me she feels separaration anxiety and fear of commitment both, when it comes to her boyfriend.
that is why her relationship is so heavy and she feels confused.
what do you think?
what can I advise her?