do i look or do i wait for serendipity? (73)
well I suppose it depends on if you are hell bent on finding "the one" or are happy to settle for "ticks most boxes", and that is something you can only answer for yourself.
but yes it would be great if "the one" lived on the street around the back, but in a small area the likelihood is not huge, it isnt even anymore likely in the city either!
maybe contact that person that is hundreds of kms away, maybe they would like to change lifestyles if it works out, never any harm in trying, you never never know if you dont have a go
good luck in working out the answer for you
but yes it would be great if "the one" lived on the street around the back, but in a small area the likelihood is not huge, it isnt even anymore likely in the city either!
maybe contact that person that is hundreds of kms away, maybe they would like to change lifestyles if it works out, never any harm in trying, you never never know if you dont have a go
good luck in working out the answer for you
Sara 'n Dipidy got together last week. There is talk of marriage. In any case I wouldn't be waiting for them. They've already left.
thank you...x
most occasions...it's the other half who wants me to move to where they are...and they reject the idea of them moving over here...funny that x
most occasions...it's the other half who wants me to move to where they are...and they reject the idea of them moving over here...funny that x
goodbloke27: thank you...x
most occasions...it's the other half who wants me to move to where they are...and they reject the idea of them moving over here...funny that x
most occasions...it's the other half who wants me to move to where they are...and they reject the idea of them moving over here...funny that x
WEEEEEEEllllllllll ... It's Warnaboooool
I think with all the resources we have now, we think we should be able to find it but in reality, finding someone using this medium often leads to long distance relationships that can probably never last without real devotion. I think it is fun in the short term but then the realisation hits that someone is going to have to uproot their lives to accommodate the other. When a lot of people are single parents, the thought of packing up and uprooting from everything your kids have ever known, your work & often other family it is a damn scary thought, especially if you have spent limited time with that person. I think sometimes we are better off to get out locally, go out on some blind dates with friends of friends who are single and lead an active social life to increase the chances of meeting someone closer.
Just kidding ...
goodbloke27: thank you...x
most occasions...it's the other half who wants me to move to where they are...and they reject the idea of them moving over here...funny that x
most occasions...it's the other half who wants me to move to where they are...and they reject the idea of them moving over here...funny that x
And welcome to the forums
akaRALF: I think with all the resources we have now, we think we should be able to find it but in reality, finding someone using this medium often leads to long distance relationships that can probably never last without real devotion. I think it is fun in the short term but then the realisation hits that someone is going to have to uproot their lives to accommodate the other. When a lot of people are single parents, the thought of packing up and uprooting from everything your kids have ever known, your work & often other family it is a damn scary thought, especially if you have spent limited time with that person. I think sometimes we are better off to get out locally, go out on some blind dates with friends of friends who are single and lead an active social life to increase the chances of meeting someone closer.
There's a lot of "uprooting" going on there Ralf! But you're right.
Not many families or couples can get along on one income nowadays ... and it's not going to get any better.
Darkhorseman: There's a lot of "uprooting" going on there Ralf! But you're right.
Not many families or couples can get along on one income nowadays ... and it's not going to get any better.
Not many families or couples can get along on one income nowadays ... and it's not going to get any better.
Well you know me and rooting, i don't care if it is up or down, inside out, or back to front.
you dont wait for serendipity- you live your life, grow and things will happen - unless you live in a bubble
akaRALF: Well you know me and rooting, i don't care if it is up or down, inside out, or back to front.
There you go Goodbloke ... Ralf is brimming with serendipidy ...or at least 'dipidy!
Still kidding.
Darkhorseman: There you go Goodbloke ... Ralf is brimming with serendipidy ...or at least 'dipidy!
Still kidding.
Still kidding.
goodbloke might know that already.
goodbloke27: didn't take much for a serious conversation to go awry...
It never does around here 
goodbloke27: Some people have told me I look too hard to find someone...and that's why i can't find a partner...
Others say if I don't look too hard, someone will come up out of nowhere...
The right balance...to look..to think about...or...to not look and not think about finding a potential partner...is so so hard...
And, when someone potentially compatible comes along, they live 100s of kilometres away ...and I would just like to be others and find someone who lives relatively close by...
And no...I don't always think about this issue / topic...it's just when i think about it in response to an external stimulus that i ponder about these things...
...I'm 47...not old by any stretch...but as each day passes...it's a day less to spend with someone...
any thoughts? observations?
TC
Others say if I don't look too hard, someone will come up out of nowhere...
The right balance...to look..to think about...or...to not look and not think about finding a potential partner...is so so hard...
And, when someone potentially compatible comes along, they live 100s of kilometres away ...and I would just like to be others and find someone who lives relatively close by...
And no...I don't always think about this issue / topic...it's just when i think about it in response to an external stimulus that i ponder about these things...
...I'm 47...not old by any stretch...but as each day passes...it's a day less to spend with someone...
any thoughts? observations?
TC
A friend of the family told me that he and his wife found each other when they both quit looking. Neither R or I were looking for a life partner when we found each other. Anything but.
I think to an extent it is true that if you look to hard you will never find someone.
If nothing else the look of great intent will scare them away.
goodbloke27: didn't take much for a serious conversation to go awry...
One of the first things you learn is that MORE foreplay not less is the nemisis to over-eager taddies. The second thing you learn is that the way to a woman's heart is through her funny bone.
Some never learn that the way to the way out of a woman's heart is to start making whinning sounds.
I'm not trying to be mean ... that's just the way it is. Or as one woman told me, "If Iwant to hear any whinning, I'll do it."
katt1017: A friend of the family told me that he and his wife found each other when they both quit looking. Neither R or I were looking for a life partner when we found each other. Anything but.
I think to an extent it is true that if you look to hard you will never find someone.
If nothing else the look of great intent will scare them away.
I think to an extent it is true that if you look to hard you will never find someone.
If nothing else the look of great intent will scare them away.
Yes the smell of desperation is not good. I don't really think you should presume you will live a life of singledom either but be open to accepting what comes along and take it for what it is rather than thinking every person you are attracted to is a potential life partner. I think there is too much emphasis and pressure on going through the processes of what we consider we should be doing to find that person. What suits one will not suit another, do what feels comfortable to you. And if potential partners find you doing what you love to do rather than sitting on edge at the other side of a dinner table, you may seem more appealing.
I used to look this way but even though I would like to meet someone, this way just doesn't seem right to me which is why I'm just in the forums. I'm not saying I wouldn't date someone off the site but I do like the old fashioned way. Just need to get out there more.
Darkhorseman: One of the first things you learn is that MORE foreplay not less is the nemisis to over-eager taddies. The second thing you learn is that the way to a woman's heart is through her funny bone.
Some never learn that the way to the way out of a woman's heart is to start making whinning sounds.
I'm not trying to be mean ... that's just the way it is. Or as one woman told me, "If Iwant to hear any whinning, I'll do it."
Some never learn that the way to the way out of a woman's heart is to start making whinning sounds.
I'm not trying to be mean ... that's just the way it is. Or as one woman told me, "If Iwant to hear any whinning, I'll do it."
very true DH, and I reakon it goes both ways .. men dont want to hear whinning women either
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Others say if I don't look too hard, someone will come up out of nowhere...
The right balance...to look..to think about...or...to not look and not think about finding a potential partner...is so so hard...
And, when someone potentially compatible comes along, they live 100s of kilometres away ...and I would just like to be others and find someone who lives relatively close by...
And no...I don't always think about this issue / topic...it's just when i think about it in response to an external stimulus that i ponder about these things...
...I'm 47...not old by any stretch...but as each day passes...it's a day less to spend with someone...
any thoughts? observations?
TC