do i look or do i wait for serendipity? (73)
Shell225: I think that sometimes people are too busy looking for the one, ticking the boxes and they forget to just enjoy the moment.
Cause that person we may think isnt the one, may actually be the one ... sometimes you just have to enjoy life and people and experiences and let love grow at its own pace. JMO
Cause that person we may think isnt the one, may actually be the one ... sometimes you just have to enjoy life and people and experiences and let love grow at its own pace. JMO
I agree.
jem1964: well I suppose it depends on if you are hell bent on finding "the one" or are happy to settle for "ticks most boxes", and that is something you can only answer for yourself.
but yes it would be great if "the one" lived on the street around the back, but in a small area the likelihood is not huge, it isnt even anymore likely in the city either!
maybe contact that person that is hundreds of kms away, maybe they would like to change lifestyles if it works out, never any harm in trying, you never never know if you dont have a go
good luck in working out the answer for you
Well said jem. If we all sat back and waited life would pass us by. I believe in being proactive not inactive. Life can be short, just do it. but yes it would be great if "the one" lived on the street around the back, but in a small area the likelihood is not huge, it isnt even anymore likely in the city either!
maybe contact that person that is hundreds of kms away, maybe they would like to change lifestyles if it works out, never any harm in trying, you never never know if you dont have a go
good luck in working out the answer for you
Your new to the forums goodbloke.........welcome and goodluck, you are still young. 
bonsai: Your new to the forums goodbloke.........welcome and goodluck, you are still young.
hi ya bonsai
goodbloke27: Some people have told me I look too hard to find someone...and that's why i can't find a partner...
Others say if I don't look too hard, someone will come up out of nowhere...
The right balance...to look..to think about...or...to not look and not think about finding a potential partner...is so so hard...
And, when someone potentially compatible comes along, they live 100s of kilometres away ...and I would just like to be others and find someone who lives relatively close by...
And no...I don't always think about this issue / topic...it's just when i think about it in response to an external stimulus that i ponder about these things...
...I'm 47...not old by any stretch...but as each day passes...it's a day less to spend with someone...
any thoughts? observations?
TC
Others say if I don't look too hard, someone will come up out of nowhere...
The right balance...to look..to think about...or...to not look and not think about finding a potential partner...is so so hard...
And, when someone potentially compatible comes along, they live 100s of kilometres away ...and I would just like to be others and find someone who lives relatively close by...
And no...I don't always think about this issue / topic...it's just when i think about it in response to an external stimulus that i ponder about these things...
...I'm 47...not old by any stretch...but as each day passes...it's a day less to spend with someone...
any thoughts? observations?
TC
I think this is a very good question goodbloke, and you're right about looking for a partner on a dating site .. the ones you like always seem to be anywhere but where you are
My username was meant to be serendipity but it was taken so many times in different variations that I gave up and went for serene (quicker to log in anyway lol). I like to live a life full of serendipity, but as others have suggested, proactive could be the way to go if you want something badly enough.
Probably traditional forms of dating are more likely to be successful, you know whether you hit it off with someone if you meet face-to-face straight up, rather than the inevitable emails, phone calls etc that go with online dating, with the risk of having no spark when you do eventually meet.
Many of us enjoy our single lives though, I know I do, so for me it's a matter of que sera sera, happy if it happens, but equally happy if it doesn't.
Welcome to the forums and good luck
goodbloke27: didn't take much for a serious conversation to go awry...
Welcome to the forums mate. 
Get a big sieve and dont take it to seriously. 
People have stress and jobs in everyday life to deal with so it doesnt take much to go off track in here. 
seems to be the case...
i prefer to walk the dog or run to de stress...
anyways...
i prefer to walk the dog or run to de stress...
anyways...
anynamewilldo: hi ya bonsai
Hi sweetheart where have you been. Are you coming to the city meet on the 6th of march. 
Time and circumstances? You can meet the one of your dreams everyday of the week, but unless you are both at that moment of looking then you will miss your chance,
I don’t think you have to rip out your life from what you have now too look for someone on the other side of the country either to find your match, I know males and females that have done this and it don’t work,
Unless you are prepared too spend the time or have the time now in your life, what chance do you expect having a long distance relationship?
My circumstances are that I am a single dad, that I now am building my first home, where I have too live in for twelve months, LDRs , are not on my mind in the slightest,
When you work out the odds, there are more single women then there are men, I have never been desperate enough to worry about finding a woman, when the time is right she will find me!
I don’t think you have to rip out your life from what you have now too look for someone on the other side of the country either to find your match, I know males and females that have done this and it don’t work,
Unless you are prepared too spend the time or have the time now in your life, what chance do you expect having a long distance relationship?
My circumstances are that I am a single dad, that I now am building my first home, where I have too live in for twelve months, LDRs , are not on my mind in the slightest,
When you work out the odds, there are more single women then there are men, I have never been desperate enough to worry about finding a woman, when the time is right she will find me!
kidmak: Serendipity worked for me. A chance meeting the nite before I left Qld to fly down to Tassie. Hundreds of txt msgs and phone calls later and he is arriving NEXT Friday
All the best kidmak thats great. 
Cat got yer tongue Billy? 
serene56: Cat got yer tongue Billy?
aaargh...hope not!!! it comes in handy....
even 'Normal' has a hot date.....
Billy6456: even 'Normal' has a hot date.....
With a female
Oh c'mon just cos he has a date doesn't mean she's hot
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Cause that person we may think isnt the one, may actually be the one ... sometimes you just have to enjoy life and people and experiences and let love grow at its own pace.
JMO