advice (10)

Mar 17, 2011 1:23 PM CST advice
scarwolve
scarwolvescarwolvescarwolfs den, Carlow Ireland313 Threads 18 Polls 3,060 Posts
ive havent been properly single for a long time and now i feel like i am outdated on how to proceed for another person i know these type of threads come up to much but i honestly dont know were to start..

to start off i was with my ex for nearly four years.. i decided to break it off because of people not wanting us together and making lies about me but i wont say it here as its to serious..

now that im single i actully feel like im stuck im not asking for pity here..just i feel i dont know how to actully approch women cause at times i think there just gona insult me if i do i did try at times and was insulted alot but i just walked away but i dont know now how to proceed..i actully feel like im learning all over again to even talk to a girl.. i know its strange for a guy my age

but how can i tell if i have a chance with a girl that i actully like? or how do i even get them to at least show it? i tried being myself and being nice but all it done for me is being walked over

i also have the problem of being patranised of my age they ask of my previous relationship and when they do hear it they make out as if im incapable of love for my age there are times that i wish i can click my fingers so i can age ten years so i can actually be talked to as a equal rather than be looked down at and thought to be clueless

i knew it wasnt going to be easy but my question here is how do i actully know if a woman even is remotely intrested in me and how do i even approach her for a date? how do i make myself be seen for who i am rather than what others say

this advice is for both women and men
Mar 17, 2011 1:27 PM CST advice
salanky
salankysalankydublin, Dublin Ireland90 Threads 1 Polls 9,888 Posts
just be you scar, you will find someone that wants you as you are. it takes time and to be honest the rejection sucks but maybe just maybe you might find that one girl that is looking for someone just like you. whatever you do dont change who you are for anyone, you are a very mature, kind and well spoken fella and you deserve to be happy with someone hug
Mar 17, 2011 1:39 PM CST advice
scarwolve
scarwolvescarwolvescarwolfs den, Carlow Ireland313 Threads 18 Polls 3,060 Posts
salanky: just be you scar, you will find someone that wants you as you are. it takes time and to be honest the rejection sucks but maybe just maybe you might find that one girl that is looking for someone just like you. whatever you do dont change who you are for anyone, you are a very mature, kind and well spoken fella and you deserve to be happy with someone
thank you salanky hug waiting is the problem :( hopefully i do its just the confidence i have in approching women. is low
Mar 17, 2011 1:42 PM CST advice
tallman51
tallman51tallman51Limerick, Ireland9 Threads 1 Polls 3,327 Posts
scarwolve: ive havent been properly single for a long time and now i feel like i am outdated on how to proceed for another person i know these type of threads come up to much but i honestly dont know were to start..

to start off i was with my ex for nearly four years.. i decided to break it off because of people not wanting us together and making lies about me but i wont say it here as its to serious..

now that im single i actully feel like im stuck im not asking for pity here..just i feel i dont know how to actully approch women cause at times i think there just gona insult me if i do i did try at times and was insulted alot but i just walked away but i dont know now how to proceed..i actully feel like im learning all over again to even talk to a girl.. i know its strange for a guy my age

but how can i tell if i have a chance with a girl that i actully like? or how do i even get them to at least show it? i tried being myself and being nice but all it done for me is being walked over

i also have the problem of being patranised of my age they ask of my previous relationship and when they do hear it they make out as if im incapable of love for my age there are times that i wish i can click my fingers so i can age ten years so i can actually be talked to as a equal rather than be looked down at and thought to be clueless

i knew it wasnt going to be easy but my question here is how do i actully know if a woman even is remotely intrested in me and how do i even approach her for a date? how do i make myself be seen for who i am rather than what others say

this advice is for both women and men


Great verses again young man !!
This comes to mind. "" Pease do not advise me, I would rather make my own mistakes "".....Andres Segovia (Spanish Guitarist)
Mar 17, 2011 1:43 PM CST advice
salanky
salankysalankydublin, Dublin Ireland90 Threads 1 Polls 9,888 Posts
scarwolve: thank you salanky waiting is the problem :( hopefully i do its just the confidence i have in approching women. is low
ah scar you know well iv got hardly any confidence but if i can find someone im sure you can too, just be patient and it will come
Mar 17, 2011 1:57 PM CST advice
larsvegas
larsvegaslarsvegasDublin, Ireland33 Threads 1 Polls 286 Posts
Rejection sucks. But having been more or less single since more than a year (with some unsuccessful attempts to start a relationship) I can say you'll grow a thinker skin. Actually I haven't been single for this long since 5 years and somehow handling the issues that come with being single helped me grow. Sounds strang but it's true.
Mar 17, 2011 4:31 PM CST advice
scarwolve
scarwolvescarwolvescarwolfs den, Carlow Ireland313 Threads 18 Polls 3,060 Posts
larsvegas: Rejection sucks. But having been more or less single since more than a year (with some unsuccessful attempts to start a relationship) I can say you'll grow a thinker skin. Actually I haven't been single for this long since 5 years and somehow handling the issues that come with being single helped me grow. Sounds strang but it's true.
i will take this into account especially the "you'll grow a thinker skin." and "handling the issues that come with being single helped me grow." i will think about these and see how i feel thanks man
Mar 17, 2011 4:32 PM CST advice
scarwolve
scarwolvescarwolvescarwolfs den, Carlow Ireland313 Threads 18 Polls 3,060 Posts
salanky: ah scar you know well iv got hardly any confidence but if i can find someone im sure you can too, just be patient and it will come
i will try my best hug
Mar 17, 2011 4:33 PM CST advice
irish84
irish84irish84monaghan, Monaghan Ireland72 Threads 3 Polls 8,745 Posts
In response to: ive havent been properly single for a long time and now i feel like i am outdated on how to proceed for another person i know these type of threads come up to much but i honestly dont know were to start..

to start off i was with my ex for nearly four years.. i decided to break it off because of people not wanting us together and making lies about me but i wont say it here as its to serious..

now that im single i actully feel like im stuck im not asking for pity here..just i feel i dont know how to actully approch women cause at times i think there just gona insult me if i do i did try at times and was insulted alot but i just walked away but i dont know now how to proceed..i actully feel like im learning all over again to even talk to a girl.. i know its strange for a guy my age

but how can i tell if i have a chance with a girl that i actully like? or how do i even get them to at least show it? i tried being myself and being nice but all it done for me is being walked over

i also have the problem of being patranised of my age they ask of my previous relationship and when they do hear it they make out as if im incapable of love for my age there are times that i wish i can click my fingers so i can age ten years so i can actually be talked to as a equal rather than be looked down at and thought to be clueless

i knew it wasnt going to be easy but my question here is how do i actully know if a woman even is remotely intrested in me and how do i even approach her for a date? how do i make myself be seen for who i am rather than what others say

this advice is for both women and men
your a nice guy hope you do find someone
Mar 18, 2011 6:09 AM CST advice
Crazylegs
CrazylegsCrazylegsDublin, Ireland71 Threads 6,737 Posts
scarwolve: ive havent been properly single for a long time and now i feel like i am outdated on how to proceed for another person i know these type of threads come up to much but i honestly dont know were to start..

to start off i was with my ex for nearly four years.. i decided to break it off because of people not wanting us together and making lies about me but i wont say it here as its to serious..

now that im single i actully feel like im stuck im not asking for pity here..just i feel i dont know how to actully approch women cause at times i think there just gona insult me if i do i did try at times and was insulted alot but i just walked away but i dont know now how to proceed..i actully feel like im learning all over again to even talk to a girl.. i know its strange for a guy my age

but how can i tell if i have a chance with a girl that i actully like? or how do i even get them to at least show it? i tried being myself and being nice but all it done for me is being walked over

i also have the problem of being patranised of my age they ask of my previous relationship and when they do hear it they make out as if im incapable of love for my age there are times that i wish i can click my fingers so i can age ten years so i can actually be talked to as a equal rather than be looked down at and thought to be clueless

i knew it wasnt going to be easy but my question here is how do i actully know if a woman even is remotely intrested in me and how do i even approach her for a date? how do i make myself be seen for who i am rather than what others say

this advice is for both women and men



Hey Scar, I have to agree with Salanky do not change yourself for anyone. And to be honest coming out of a 4 yr relationship will be hard and there is no point saying "all just move on". you would be much better to stay single for a while and make sure you are over your ex and you will find alot more about yourself too and you will also figure out what you do and do not want in a person.

You are a great guy and just have fun now and if you want to get straight back into the dating game then start with simply talking to a girl and it will grow from there and if you get a rejection just brush it off and move on.

hope you find someone bouquet
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