Never been in a relationship (29)
Relationships are "Over -rated" ......and after a few they all seem the same ........
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p0laris: Firstly, I'm new here. Hi. Thus far I've just been a lurker to the forums, but I've been thinking about posting this for awhile. I held back, figuring I'm the only weirdo on here.
I've never been in a relationship. I've never even been on something that I would call a real date.
Yes, I have had the chance to get into relationships. But I've always had an excuse, too. The first one was fear. It was unfounded- I had no reason to be scared of it, except for it being something new, I guess. The next was independence. "I don't need a boyfriend"/ yadda yadda. But there was still some of that fear there.
Then there were the typical dealios: Don't want to ruin the friendship/ not 'in-love' / moving soon, so no point in starting one now...
Then it became "I'm waaay too busy for a relationship," which was the truth. Except now I am busier than ever- and yet I finally feel ready to be in one. Yes, I am independent and busy, AND planning on moving soon. It led me to believe that all my excuses simply meant I wasn't ready to open myself up or to commit to anyone else. I realize that I've missed out on a couple great guys.
Anyway, I could rant on for awhile about this. So I was just wondering- is there anyone else here who has never been in a relationship? Or who started later in life?
Or am I the only weirdo?
I've never been in a relationship. I've never even been on something that I would call a real date.
Yes, I have had the chance to get into relationships. But I've always had an excuse, too. The first one was fear. It was unfounded- I had no reason to be scared of it, except for it being something new, I guess. The next was independence. "I don't need a boyfriend"/ yadda yadda. But there was still some of that fear there.
Then there were the typical dealios: Don't want to ruin the friendship/ not 'in-love' / moving soon, so no point in starting one now...
Then it became "I'm waaay too busy for a relationship," which was the truth. Except now I am busier than ever- and yet I finally feel ready to be in one. Yes, I am independent and busy, AND planning on moving soon. It led me to believe that all my excuses simply meant I wasn't ready to open myself up or to commit to anyone else. I realize that I've missed out on a couple great guys.
Anyway, I could rant on for awhile about this. So I was just wondering- is there anyone else here who has never been in a relationship? Or who started later in life?
Or am I the only weirdo?
Im 26 and havent really been in a relationship....unless of course you call friends with benefits a relationship lol but unlike you i dont have anyone evn willing to date me so u are very lucky and if u think u are ready for one u should do it make the time for it u dont wanna miss out on mr right
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I was in two, and the way they turned out makes me wish I never was.
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StillOfTheNight: I was in two, and the way they turned out makes me wish I never was.
hahaha ya unfortunatly it goes that way to
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I was in two, and the way they turned out makes me wish I never was.
come on, I dont believe that. Even if a relationship wasnt good at the end, I guess it was good at the beginning. Just think about it, when a relationship starts and you get all the nice feelings in your stomache. I guess you know what I mean (butterflies)
come on, I dont believe that. Even if a relationship wasnt good at the end, I guess it was good at the beginning. Just think about it, when a relationship starts and you get all the nice feelings in your stomache. I guess you know what I mean (butterflies)
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Stephels- Unfortunately, the chances I had are now in the past. But I've come to terms with that. :)
I know a lot of people in good relationships, so I guess I look towards those for models in my optimism for them. But what do I know? ;)
I know a lot of people in good relationships, so I guess I look towards those for models in my optimism for them. But what do I know? ;)
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p0laris: Stephels- Unfortunately, the chances I had are now in the past. But I've come to terms with that. :)
I know a lot of people in good relationships, so I guess I look towards those for models in my optimism for them. But what do I know? ;)
I know a lot of people in good relationships, so I guess I look towards those for models in my optimism for them. But what do I know? ;)
you know more than u think lol but hey dont give up there is bound to be someone for you out there somewhere but when u find him ask him if he has a relative for me :)
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Hello and welcome. Good luck on your quest 
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Welcome to CS, I see 3 new faces, 
Nothing to be embarrassed about not being in a Relationship, tho I think If I cud give one piece of advice, would be take Your time, and find the RIGHT ONE, not just someone.....
The Right pick Now is Crucial: to the rest of Your Life,
Think on this, and welcome to all,
Hotrod
and hello Venus
Nothing to be embarrassed about not being in a Relationship, tho I think If I cud give one piece of advice, would be take Your time, and find the RIGHT ONE, not just someone.....
The Right pick Now is Crucial: to the rest of Your Life,
Think on this, and welcome to all,
Hotrod
and hello Venus
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HotrodLarrys: Welcome to CS, I see 3 new faces,
Nothing to be embarrassed about not being in a Relationship, tho I think If I cud give one piece of advice, would be take Your time, and find the RIGHT ONE, not just someone.....
The Right pick Now is Crucial: to the rest of Your Life,
Think on this, and welcome to all,
Hotrod
and hello Venus
Nothing to be embarrassed about not being in a Relationship, tho I think If I cud give one piece of advice, would be take Your time, and find the RIGHT ONE, not just someone.....
The Right pick Now is Crucial: to the rest of Your Life,
Think on this, and welcome to all,
Hotrod
and hello Venus
Hey Lar
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StillOfTheNight: I was in two, and the way they turned out makes me wish I never was.
Ok, that was maybe a little harsh. I should have said that the relationships I was in was not the right match's for me and I probably not being right for them either.
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I find it sad that you consider being single "weird" although you seem to have a good grasp on the reasons why you have chosen to be single thus far in your life. If someone else told you the same story would you consider it rather normal? and that the person may simply be discovering who they are and what is important to them in their own life? Treat yourself to some kindness for after all you are simply human.
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StillOfTheNight: Ok, that was maybe a little harsh. I should have said that the relationships I was in was not the right match's for me and I probably not being right for them either.
Now, nicely put.....
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hello polaris,
nice nick...it's a name of a star, if i'm not wrong...
i was only in two relationships and i'm 48...
and the first one started when i was 23 yrs old...
how weird is that?
i have never been particulary interested in being in a relationship...
and i'm fond of weirdos...
nice nick...it's a name of a star, if i'm not wrong...
i was only in two relationships and i'm 48...
and the first one started when i was 23 yrs old...
how weird is that?
i have never been particulary interested in being in a relationship...
and i'm fond of weirdos...
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langleygirl: I find it sad that you consider being single "weird" although you seem to have a good grasp on the reasons why you have chosen to be single thus far in your life. If someone else told you the same story would you consider it rather normal? and that the person may simply be discovering who they are and what is important to them in their own life? Treat yourself to some kindness for after all you are simply human.
I guess i call it weird to play down my general unease of the subject, not to mention knowing how people on here would react (heh). Though I do wonder if I'm odd, sometimes, because of how I've been so unable or unwilling to open up to people. But you're right, maybe I should drop the term. I wouldn't call anyone else weird for being in the same situation.
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langleygirl: I find it sad that you consider being single "weird" although you seem to have a good grasp on the reasons why you have chosen to be single thus far in your life. If someone else told you the same story would you consider it rather normal? and that the person may simply be discovering who they are and what is important to them in their own life? Treat yourself to some kindness for after all you are simply human.
I think it's better to be single (for whatever reasons) then to be in a relationship of convenience, which is quite fashionable these days.
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You're really not the only "weirdo" in here. 
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I've never been in a relationship. I've never even been on something that I would call a real date.
Yes, I have had the chance to get into relationships. But I've always had an excuse, too. The first one was fear. It was unfounded- I had no reason to be scared of it, except for it being something new, I guess. The next was independence. "I don't need a boyfriend"/ yadda yadda. But there was still some of that fear there.
Then there were the typical dealios: Don't want to ruin the friendship/ not 'in-love' / moving soon, so no point in starting one now...
Then it became "I'm waaay too busy for a relationship," which was the truth. Except now I am busier than ever- and yet I finally feel ready to be in one. Yes, I am independent and busy, AND planning on moving soon. It led me to believe that all my excuses simply meant I wasn't ready to open myself up or to commit to anyone else. I realize that I've missed out on a couple great guys.
Anyway, I could rant on for awhile about this. So I was just wondering- is there anyone else here who has never been in a relationship? Or who started later in life?
Or am I the only weirdo?