Friends...who needs em? (35)
shin_25: Just wanted to get peoples advise on this one..
One of my "best" friends and I had a falling out.. To cut a long story short she was emailing me saying how much Ive changed & how I only wanna be a friend when it suits.. Il admit I hadnt reall been in contact with her for a few weeks due to my busy work schedule & my first nephew being born.. Everything she said on the emai I gave her an answer for , then she started to say that when her dad was very sick 2 years ago I wasnt there for her..which is totally a lie.. I was keepin an eye on her all the time cause I know she was vunerable at the time.. I always rang her to see if she was ok, I didnt see her much cause she was always in and out of the hospital.. She seems to have turned 2 other friends off me too.. Now shes gone & deleted me from a social network site which I thought was a bit harsh.. Everyone is telling me that she is over reacting&its not my fault but i just wanted to get peoples oppinion...
One of my "best" friends and I had a falling out.. To cut a long story short she was emailing me saying how much Ive changed & how I only wanna be a friend when it suits.. Il admit I hadnt reall been in contact with her for a few weeks due to my busy work schedule & my first nephew being born.. Everything she said on the emai I gave her an answer for , then she started to say that when her dad was very sick 2 years ago I wasnt there for her..which is totally a lie.. I was keepin an eye on her all the time cause I know she was vunerable at the time.. I always rang her to see if she was ok, I didnt see her much cause she was always in and out of the hospital.. She seems to have turned 2 other friends off me too.. Now shes gone & deleted me from a social network site which I thought was a bit harsh.. Everyone is telling me that she is over reacting&its not my fault but i just wanted to get peoples oppinion...
Thats women for ya
I could go weeks without seeing my mates and I wouldn't bat an eyelid, I know they have lives to live just like I have and we don't have time to talk about stupid things, the convos we have are usually 2 sentences long, are you going to get pissed? Yes I am , and away we go and drink the faces of ourselves, Its great to be 1 of the lads
irish84: so its that easy being a guy then?
I think it is, women are all in touch with their feelings and stuff like that, when your mates with a gang of lads its all light hearted, slagging, drinking too much, Its fun
irish84: i think there comes a time in your life when you want murder the people that causes drama and have people around you that makes you laugh and makes you happy.
@ dr yeah i really wanted to do that 
shin_25: Just wanted to get peoples advise on this one..
One of my "best" friends and I had a falling out.. To cut a long story short she was emailing me saying how much Ive changed & how I only wanna be a friend when it suits.. Il admit I hadnt reall been in contact with her for a few weeks due to my busy work schedule & my first nephew being born.. Everything she said on the emai I gave her an answer for , then she started to say that when her dad was very sick 2 years ago I wasnt there for her..which is totally a lie.. I was keepin an eye on her all the time cause I know she was vunerable at the time.. I always rang her to see if she was ok, I didnt see her much cause she was always in and out of the hospital.. She seems to have turned 2 other friends off me too.. Now shes gone & deleted me from a social network site which I thought was a bit harsh.. Everyone is telling me that she is over reacting&its not my fault but i just wanted to get peoples oppinion...
One of my "best" friends and I had a falling out.. To cut a long story short she was emailing me saying how much Ive changed & how I only wanna be a friend when it suits.. Il admit I hadnt reall been in contact with her for a few weeks due to my busy work schedule & my first nephew being born.. Everything she said on the emai I gave her an answer for , then she started to say that when her dad was very sick 2 years ago I wasnt there for her..which is totally a lie.. I was keepin an eye on her all the time cause I know she was vunerable at the time.. I always rang her to see if she was ok, I didnt see her much cause she was always in and out of the hospital.. She seems to have turned 2 other friends off me too.. Now shes gone & deleted me from a social network site which I thought was a bit harsh.. Everyone is telling me that she is over reacting&its not my fault but i just wanted to get peoples oppinion...
talk to your find find out why she like that maybe she jelous of you
i fell out with my friend over something stupid and when we see each other i just wanted to say sorry we grow up together from age 4 were very close like twins you see one you see the other,
next the yrs went bye we both meet someone had jobs family then she died and now i am sorry i didnt make the first move she gone 7 yrs now and breaks my heart that i didnt, after she died i found out she wanted to say sorry to but tought i didnt want to,
life is to short and its hard to find good friends
Thanks so much to all of ye for ur advise..
One part of me wants to speak to her the other doesnt want anything todo with her for being so childish.. Time will tell I suppose...
One part of me wants to speak to her the other doesnt want anything todo with her for being so childish.. Time will tell I suppose...
People move on, not just to different physical places, but emotionally and spiritually. The friends I had when I was 10, 18 or 30 are all disbursed across the globe, I no longer even know where most of them are. But then again I have lived in 3 different since the age of 11.
It sounds like your friend is living somewhere in the past and can't accept that you now have a different life and priorities from her. She probably expects you to be the person she has always known, and is unable to accept that you are now living a different life, with different aims and goals.
In time she may come around and accept that she has been a bit silly and make it up to you, if she doesn't, then remember the good times you had and move on. Even though it is sad to lose a good friend, there are plenty of good people in the world, and you may soon find another good friend.
It sounds like your friend is living somewhere in the past and can't accept that you now have a different life and priorities from her. She probably expects you to be the person she has always known, and is unable to accept that you are now living a different life, with different aims and goals.
In time she may come around and accept that she has been a bit silly and make it up to you, if she doesn't, then remember the good times you had and move on. Even though it is sad to lose a good friend, there are plenty of good people in the world, and you may soon find another good friend.
holiday11: talk to your find find out why she like that maybe she jelous of you i fell out with my friend over something stupid and when we see each other i just wanted to say sorry we grow up together from age 4 were very close like twins you see one you see the other,
next the yrs went bye we both meet someone had jobs family then she died and now i am sorry i didnt make the first move she gone 7 yrs now and breaks my heart that i didnt, after she died i found out she wanted to say sorry to but tought i didnt want to,
life is to short and its hard to find good friends
next the yrs went bye we both meet someone had jobs family then she died and now i am sorry i didnt make the first move she gone 7 yrs now and breaks my heart that i didnt, after she died i found out she wanted to say sorry to but tought i didnt want to,
life is to short and its hard to find good friends
...sorry to hear about your friend.. me and this girl were good friends with another girl and we fell out , she died in a car accident but we had made ammends the week before she died, dunno what i wudda done if we hadnt
shin_25: ...sorry to hear about your friend.. me and this girl were good friends with another girl and we fell out , she died in a car accident but we had made ammends the week before she died, dunno what i wudda done if we hadnt
I think if you want to keep her as a friend bring her a bunch of flowers and say your sorry if she feels you havent given her enough of your time but you also have other family and friends ..if she doesnt accept that well then Id say its time to cut the dead wood from your life
shin_25: ...sorry to hear about your friend.. me and this girl were good friends with another girl and we fell out , she died in a car accident but we had made ammends the week before she died, dunno what i wudda done if we hadnt
I think if you want to keep her as a friend bring her a bunch of flowers and say your sorry if she feels you havent given her enough of your time but you also have other family and friends ..if she doesnt accept that well then Id say its time to cut the dead wood from your life
shin_25: Just wanted to get peoples advise on this one..
One of my "best" friends and I had a falling out.. To cut a long story short she was emailing me saying how much Ive changed & how I only wanna be a friend when it suits.. Il admit I hadnt reall been in contact with her for a few weeks due to my busy work schedule & my first nephew being born.. Everything she said on the emai I gave her an answer for , then she started to say that when her dad was very sick 2 years ago I wasnt there for her..which is totally a lie.. I was keepin an eye on her all the time cause I know she was vunerable at the time.. I always rang her to see if she was ok, I didnt see her much cause she was always in and out of the hospital.. She seems to have turned 2 other friends off me too.. Now shes gone & deleted me from a social network site which I thought was a bit harsh.. Everyone is telling me that she is over reacting&its not my fault but i just wanted to get peoples oppinion...
One of my "best" friends and I had a falling out.. To cut a long story short she was emailing me saying how much Ive changed & how I only wanna be a friend when it suits.. Il admit I hadnt reall been in contact with her for a few weeks due to my busy work schedule & my first nephew being born.. Everything she said on the emai I gave her an answer for , then she started to say that when her dad was very sick 2 years ago I wasnt there for her..which is totally a lie.. I was keepin an eye on her all the time cause I know she was vunerable at the time.. I always rang her to see if she was ok, I didnt see her much cause she was always in and out of the hospital.. She seems to have turned 2 other friends off me too.. Now shes gone & deleted me from a social network site which I thought was a bit harsh.. Everyone is telling me that she is over reacting&its not my fault but i just wanted to get peoples oppinion...
There is a saying: A friend in need is a friend indeed, good you have admmited your have not been in touch with her.
Some people are just pretenders to be friends, i have loads of them here.
shin_25: ...sorry to hear about your friend.. me and this girl were good friends with another girl and we fell out , she died in a car accident but we had made ammends the week before she died, dunno what i wudda done if we hadnt
sorry to here that ye making friends the week before was ment to be
Mesimarja: Blipper!
Good to see you back rhubarbing again!
Good to see you back rhubarbing again!
hello there
do ya still talk to that ole scoundrel tim
i must arrange a meet soon
shin_25: Just wanted to get peoples advise on this one..
One of my "best" friends and I had a falling out.. To cut a long story short she was emailing me saying how much Ive changed & how I only wanna be a friend when it suits.. Il admit I hadnt reall been in contact with her for a few weeks due to my busy work schedule & my first nephew being born.. Everything she said on the emai I gave her an answer for , then she started to say that when her dad was very sick 2 years ago I wasnt there for her..which is totally a lie.. I was keepin an eye on her all the time cause I know she was vunerable at the time.. I always rang her to see if she was ok, I didnt see her much cause she was always in and out of the hospital.. She seems to have turned 2 other friends off me too.. Now shes gone & deleted me from a social network site which I thought was a bit harsh.. Everyone is telling me that she is over reacting&its not my fault but i just wanted to get peoples oppinion...
One of my "best" friends and I had a falling out.. To cut a long story short she was emailing me saying how much Ive changed & how I only wanna be a friend when it suits.. Il admit I hadnt reall been in contact with her for a few weeks due to my busy work schedule & my first nephew being born.. Everything she said on the emai I gave her an answer for , then she started to say that when her dad was very sick 2 years ago I wasnt there for her..which is totally a lie.. I was keepin an eye on her all the time cause I know she was vunerable at the time.. I always rang her to see if she was ok, I didnt see her much cause she was always in and out of the hospital.. She seems to have turned 2 other friends off me too.. Now shes gone & deleted me from a social network site which I thought was a bit harsh.. Everyone is telling me that she is over reacting&its not my fault but i just wanted to get peoples oppinion...
Just read your thread there i think your friend is over reacting sound like she mite be a bit jealous over something.
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One of my "best" friends and I had a falling out.. To cut a long story short she was emailing me saying how much Ive changed & how I only wanna be a friend when it suits.. Il admit I hadnt reall been in contact with her for a few weeks due to my busy work schedule & my first nephew being born.. Everything she said on the emai I gave her an answer for , then she started to say that when her dad was very sick 2 years ago I wasnt there for her..which is totally a lie.. I was keepin an eye on her all the time cause I know she was vunerable at the time.. I always rang her to see if she was ok, I didnt see her much cause she was always in and out of the hospital.. She seems to have turned 2 other friends off me too.. Now shes gone & deleted me from a social network site which I thought was a bit harsh.. Everyone is telling me that she is over reacting&its not my fault but i just wanted to get peoples oppinion...
first of all I am sorry for you if you are losing someone you count as a friend
If it was me I would meet her face to face with no distractions (kids, phones etc) and talk it out. Only you can decide if the friendship is worth salvaging or letting go of.
best of luck