What to think and do.... ( Archived) (22)

As of late I have been going through alot, and people that I care about have been getting dragged into it though I have been trying to keep that from happening. I thought that leaving for awhile would help things but it seems that it only made it worse do to the over-reaction of some. After I left the police contacted me because of people in the town I left. I explained that I was fine, that I had moved because I was tired of the drama and that I just wanted to get my life straight so that when I went back things would be better. Now instead of backing off a few are just acting worse, I already feel bad as it is but they feel the need to make me feel worse. They keep telling me that I should be putting them first and that they don't care about how I feel or what was going on with me. I thought that stepping back away from those I love would be better for them - they don't need this drama and stress and I didn't think it fair that they have to deal with it. I know that I'm not perfect and I never have and never will claim to be, but with everything that was going on and still is I just needed to get away. It's like having a rope tied around each ankle and wrist with the other ends tied to four horses and then someone pulls the starter gun trigger. I just want everyone to be ok and happy but nothing I do is working, right now it just seems that no matter what I do it's wrong and I don't know what to do.

Windsong

cannot be responsible for everyone. i dunno what else to say because i have no idea what you are talking about. sorry.

We have to love ourselves, too. From reading your post it seems you need a break from them. Relax and enjoy the forums if you can. You can only give so much and you can't make everyone happy but you can be happy.

The forums tend to be very helpful in giving some perspective when it's needed. I hear all the time that people have to love themselves and that you can never make everyone happy but I feel really bad when I some how disapoint those that I care about which no matter what I do seems to happen all the time.

talk to someone. a professional if need be. sometimes guilt can eat you alive.
when we become so much about what other think...we lose ourselves, and become that persons life, not ours.

luck to you, and light...

I come from a small town in oklahoma, Chickasha and so I know how they can be and while the people care some times we just need to figure out things on our own. I think your looking out for them is the right thing to do.

the priorities of relationships in mt life today are

1. God.......with him all thing are good
2. myself.....If I am not ok I can have not have a healthy relationship with anyone
3. My family.....Now my children only
4. Friends.......if I am ok and my family is ok my friends willl be ok

Sometimes we must take care of ourselfs and if our family and freinds don't understand that right now they will.

Ron

I hope you are right and they do realize that I stepped back not only for them but myself, because if I didn't step back I would've been lost, but right now the ones who should know it are acting like anything but which is frusterating and hurtful because of the things they are saying and doing.

Any ideas on how to destress after family fights???

Humor...watch, listen to, or read something that will makes you laugh,

or...do something you will be proud of.