Loss and coming to terms with it. (25)
SueByAnotherName: Sometime ago I met someone here who I ended up meeting. He was on this site for some time and was really good fun, I was only a member for a few weeks. We got on very well and ended up getting very close. We become close to the extent that I lived with him at the weekends and when we could. A real nice guy, someone who become my soulmate. He had health issues, he never thought it serious but ended up having intense medical problems and unfortunately he passed away mid March.
I miss him so much, I feel lost, I no longer work, I cannot concentrate and I am at a juncture in my life where I dont know where to turn or where to go. I want to go away, I need to go somewhere completely distant from here, the feeling is intensely strong to do so. I have applied for a visa for Australia but friends think I am having a knee-jerk reaction to what has happened. Maybe I am, I really dont know anymore, all I do know that he has left one void in my life that I cannot fill.
Can someone suggest a group or self help association that can help me come to terms with this, sometimes I feel like I'm loosing it and even have had suicidal thoughts.
I miss him so much, I feel lost, I no longer work, I cannot concentrate and I am at a juncture in my life where I dont know where to turn or where to go. I want to go away, I need to go somewhere completely distant from here, the feeling is intensely strong to do so. I have applied for a visa for Australia but friends think I am having a knee-jerk reaction to what has happened. Maybe I am, I really dont know anymore, all I do know that he has left one void in my life that I cannot fill.
Can someone suggest a group or self help association that can help me come to terms with this, sometimes I feel like I'm loosing it and even have had suicidal thoughts.
so very sorry to hear this
im sure someone will give better advice than me but have you talked to friends and family, a doctor or nurse
counseling will help this i know from experience
try not to be alone to much if possibleThat's terrible. I'm sorry to hear that, time is the best healer.
There might be some groups mentioned here.
Suicide should never be an option, there is nothing that doesn't get better in time.
Just talk to someone, there's always someone there weather you realise it or not.
There might be some groups mentioned here.
Suicide should never be an option, there is nothing that doesn't get better in time.
Just talk to someone, there's always someone there weather you realise it or not.
SueByAnotherName: Sometime ago I met someone here who I ended up meeting. He was on this site for some time and was really good fun, I was only a member for a few weeks. We got on very well and ended up getting very close. We become close to the extent that I lived with him at the weekends and when we could. A real nice guy, someone who become my soulmate. He had health issues, he never thought it serious but ended up having intense medical problems and unfortunately he passed away mid March.
I miss him so much, I feel lost, I no longer work, I cannot concentrate and I am at a juncture in my life where I dont know where to turn or where to go. I want to go away, I need to go somewhere completely distant from here, the feeling is intensely strong to do so. I have applied for a visa for Australia but friends think I am having a knee-jerk reaction to what has happened. Maybe I am, I really dont know anymore, all I do know that he has left one void in my life that I cannot fill.
Can someone suggest a group or self help association that can help me come to terms with this, sometimes I feel like I'm loosing it and even have had suicidal thoughts.
I miss him so much, I feel lost, I no longer work, I cannot concentrate and I am at a juncture in my life where I dont know where to turn or where to go. I want to go away, I need to go somewhere completely distant from here, the feeling is intensely strong to do so. I have applied for a visa for Australia but friends think I am having a knee-jerk reaction to what has happened. Maybe I am, I really dont know anymore, all I do know that he has left one void in my life that I cannot fill.
Can someone suggest a group or self help association that can help me come to terms with this, sometimes I feel like I'm loosing it and even have had suicidal thoughts.
If you are having suicidal thoughts you really need to go speak to your GP.
Im so sorry for your loss
SueByAnotherName: Sometime ago I met someone here who I ended up meeting. He was on this site for some time and was really good fun, I was only a member for a few weeks. We got on very well and ended up getting very close. We become close to the extent that I lived with him at the weekends and when we could. A real nice guy, someone who become my soulmate. He had health issues, he never thought it serious but ended up having intense medical problems and unfortunately he passed away mid March.
I miss him so much, I feel lost, I no longer work, I cannot concentrate and I am at a juncture in my life where I dont know where to turn or where to go. I want to go away, I need to go somewhere completely distant from here, the feeling is intensely strong to do so. I have applied for a visa for Australia but friends think I am having a knee-jerk reaction to what has happened. Maybe I am, I really dont know anymore, all I do know that he has left one void in my life that I cannot fill.
Can someone suggest a group or self help association that can help me come to terms with this, sometimes I feel like I'm loosing it and even have had suicidal thoughts.
so sorry to hear of your loss i don't know of any groups but im sure someone here will have good advice for you and send you in the right direction,I miss him so much, I feel lost, I no longer work, I cannot concentrate and I am at a juncture in my life where I dont know where to turn or where to go. I want to go away, I need to go somewhere completely distant from here, the feeling is intensely strong to do so. I have applied for a visa for Australia but friends think I am having a knee-jerk reaction to what has happened. Maybe I am, I really dont know anymore, all I do know that he has left one void in my life that I cannot fill.
Can someone suggest a group or self help association that can help me come to terms with this, sometimes I feel like I'm loosing it and even have had suicidal thoughts.
Hi Sue !!
There is no need to suffer alone !!
Talk to a friend or family member or even your doctor.
I am very sorry for your loss but there is light at the end of the tunnel. Grief is a natural human emotion but if you have suicidal thought then you must do something about it.
I hope everything works out well for you.
I hope someone else here can give you better advice.
There is no need to suffer alone !!
Talk to a friend or family member or even your doctor.
I am very sorry for your loss but there is light at the end of the tunnel. Grief is a natural human emotion but if you have suicidal thought then you must do something about it.
I hope everything works out well for you.
I hope someone else here can give you better advice.
You need to talk to your GP he can prescribe you something to help take the edge off the way you are feeling. And see a psychiatrist who would specialise in depression and mood disorders. They are the top of the chain for people who are suicidal or self harm. 
Hello Sue .
There is only one way through it and that is through it.
My heart goes out to you on your sad loss.xx
There is only one way through it and that is through it.
My heart goes out to you on your sad loss.xx
Hi, I too lost my soulmate and I know how you are feeling,, it is like a half your very soul has been ripped out, you feel like half a person without the will to go on and all hopes and dreams of the life you had hoped for have been shattered and broken,,
Best advice i can give is to think of what your loved one would want for you,I think he would want you to be happy and he wouldn't want you to give up. I know it is hard but you have to take one day at a time. If you want to talk send me a mail,
all the best,, Stan..
Best advice i can give is to think of what your loved one would want for you,I think he would want you to be happy and he wouldn't want you to give up. I know it is hard but you have to take one day at a time. If you want to talk send me a mail,
all the best,, Stan..
SueByAnotherName: Sometime ago I met someone here who I ended up meeting. He was on this site for some time and was really good fun, I was only a member for a few weeks. We got on very well and ended up getting very close. We become close to the extent that I lived with him at the weekends and when we could. A real nice guy, someone who become my soulmate. He had health issues, he never thought it serious but ended up having intense medical problems and unfortunately he passed away mid March.
I miss him so much, I feel lost, I no longer work, I cannot concentrate and I am at a juncture in my life where I dont know where to turn or where to go. I want to go away, I need to go somewhere completely distant from here, the feeling is intensely strong to do so. I have applied for a visa for Australia but friends think I am having a knee-jerk reaction to what has happened. Maybe I am, I really dont know anymore, all I do know that he has left one void in my life that I cannot fill.
Can someone suggest a group or self help association that can help me come to terms with this, sometimes I feel like I'm loosing it and even have had suicidal thoughts.
time will sort it ,,,trust meI miss him so much, I feel lost, I no longer work, I cannot concentrate and I am at a juncture in my life where I dont know where to turn or where to go. I want to go away, I need to go somewhere completely distant from here, the feeling is intensely strong to do so. I have applied for a visa for Australia but friends think I am having a knee-jerk reaction to what has happened. Maybe I am, I really dont know anymore, all I do know that he has left one void in my life that I cannot fill.
Can someone suggest a group or self help association that can help me come to terms with this, sometimes I feel like I'm loosing it and even have had suicidal thoughts.
SueByAnotherName: Sometime ago I met someone here who I ended up meeting. He was on this site for some time and was really good fun, I was only a member for a few weeks. We got on very well and ended up getting very close. We become close to the extent that I lived with him at the weekends and when we could. A real nice guy, someone who become my soulmate. He had health issues, he never thought it serious but ended up having intense medical problems and unfortunately he passed away mid March.
I miss him so much, I feel lost, I no longer work, I cannot concentrate and I am at a juncture in my life where I dont know where to turn or where to go. I want to go away, I need to go somewhere completely distant from here, the feeling is intensely strong to do so. I have applied for a visa for Australia but friends think I am having a knee-jerk reaction to what has happened. Maybe I am, I really dont know anymore, all I do know that he has left one void in my life that I cannot fill.
Can someone suggest a group or self help association that can help me come to terms with this, sometimes I feel like I'm loosing it and even have had suicidal thoughts.
ah you poor thing, sorry to hear thatI miss him so much, I feel lost, I no longer work, I cannot concentrate and I am at a juncture in my life where I dont know where to turn or where to go. I want to go away, I need to go somewhere completely distant from here, the feeling is intensely strong to do so. I have applied for a visa for Australia but friends think I am having a knee-jerk reaction to what has happened. Maybe I am, I really dont know anymore, all I do know that he has left one void in my life that I cannot fill.
Can someone suggest a group or self help association that can help me come to terms with this, sometimes I feel like I'm loosing it and even have had suicidal thoughts.
I'm finding it hard to put my thoughts into words with this. I went through something quite similar and 12 years on, I still find it hard to think about.
Unfortunately, the old chesnut of "time heals" is the only thing that works. You have to will yourself to get up in the morning and go on living. If not for you, then for him.
No one else in this world carries the memories that you have of him and it's up to you to make sure he will always be remembered and loved.
I would recommend talking to people about him but I know after a while, you feel like you're inflicting yourself on them. So, as libra said, maybe you should chat to your GP if you're feeling suicidal.
But don't deny the memories, let them wash over you and make you strong cause it shows that you had something special and he deserves to not let them be forgotten.
I promise you things will get easier. You will think about him a little less every day and although that's probably not what you want. Let me assure you, the memories never go away, they just become a part of you.
Unfortunately, the old chesnut of "time heals" is the only thing that works. You have to will yourself to get up in the morning and go on living. If not for you, then for him.
No one else in this world carries the memories that you have of him and it's up to you to make sure he will always be remembered and loved.
I would recommend talking to people about him but I know after a while, you feel like you're inflicting yourself on them. So, as libra said, maybe you should chat to your GP if you're feeling suicidal.
But don't deny the memories, let them wash over you and make you strong cause it shows that you had something special and he deserves to not let them be forgotten.
I promise you things will get easier. You will think about him a little less every day and although that's probably not what you want. Let me assure you, the memories never go away, they just become a part of you.
SueByAnotherName: Sometime ago I met someone here who I ended up meeting. He was on this site for some time and was really good fun, I was only a member for a few weeks. We got on very well and ended up getting very close. We become close to the extent that I lived with him at the weekends and when we could. A real nice guy, someone who become my soulmate. He had health issues, he never thought it serious but ended up having intense medical problems and unfortunately he passed away mid March.
I miss him so much, I feel lost, I no longer work, I cannot concentrate and I am at a juncture in my life where I dont know where to turn or where to go. I want to go away, I need to go somewhere completely distant from here, the feeling is intensely strong to do so. I have applied for a visa for Australia but friends think I am having a knee-jerk reaction to what has happened. Maybe I am, I really dont know anymore, all I do know that he has left one void in my life that I cannot fill.
Can someone suggest a group or self help association that can help me come to terms with this, sometimes I feel like I'm loosing it and even have had suicidal thoughts.
Hi Sue , you're in good company here . We're all here for you to offer you whatever moral support we can . Like the others have said , do please seek help as suicide is never the answer . I wish you the very best , you can conquer this . I miss him so much, I feel lost, I no longer work, I cannot concentrate and I am at a juncture in my life where I dont know where to turn or where to go. I want to go away, I need to go somewhere completely distant from here, the feeling is intensely strong to do so. I have applied for a visa for Australia but friends think I am having a knee-jerk reaction to what has happened. Maybe I am, I really dont know anymore, all I do know that he has left one void in my life that I cannot fill.
Can someone suggest a group or self help association that can help me come to terms with this, sometimes I feel like I'm loosing it and even have had suicidal thoughts.
Alpha01: I'm finding it hard to put my thoughts into words with this. I went through something quite similar and 12 years on, I still find it hard to think about.
Unfortunately, the old chesnut of "time heals" is the only thing that works. You have to will yourself to get up in the morning and go on living. If not for you, then for him.
No one else in this world carries the memories that you have of him and it's up to you to make sure he will always be remembered and loved.
I would recommend talking to people about him but I know after a while, you feel like you're inflicting yourself on them. So, as libra said, maybe you should chat to your GP if you're feeling suicidal.
But don't deny the memories, let them wash over you and make you strong cause it shows that you had something special and he deserves to not let them be forgotten.
I promise you things will get easier. You will think about him a little less every day and although that's probably not what you want. Let me assure you, the memories never go away, they just become a part of you.
yes darling,,time now seems very lonley,,but people are still were their are,,ur love 1s,,waiting 4 the person they know which is u,,time ,,,time,,is the answer love be good,Unfortunately, the old chesnut of "time heals" is the only thing that works. You have to will yourself to get up in the morning and go on living. If not for you, then for him.
No one else in this world carries the memories that you have of him and it's up to you to make sure he will always be remembered and loved.
I would recommend talking to people about him but I know after a while, you feel like you're inflicting yourself on them. So, as libra said, maybe you should chat to your GP if you're feeling suicidal.
But don't deny the memories, let them wash over you and make you strong cause it shows that you had something special and he deserves to not let them be forgotten.
I promise you things will get easier. You will think about him a little less every day and although that's probably not what you want. Let me assure you, the memories never go away, they just become a part of you.
Sorry for your loss. Have had an experience that left me feeling similar and didnt know what to do. Friends are great and supportive but only give you the answers that friends do. A chat with the doctor after a long period of agony put me on the right track. The good thing is they have no emotional involvement and give you proper advice. It appears most of the posts have something to offer.
I'm very sorry for your loss Sue
I think everyone copes in their own way, but the most important thing is to talk. Talk through about your feelings, loss, anger, pain. Don't hold these emotions inside as they tend to mafnify...
As some have said, its will take time and you will find that the loss will become easier...
If you go abroad on a whim, you may find that there is no one there to listen, you need that at the moment...
My heart goes out to you
I think everyone copes in their own way, but the most important thing is to talk. Talk through about your feelings, loss, anger, pain. Don't hold these emotions inside as they tend to mafnify...
As some have said, its will take time and you will find that the loss will become easier...
If you go abroad on a whim, you may find that there is no one there to listen, you need that at the moment...
My heart goes out to you
SueByAnotherName: Sometime ago I met someone here who I ended up meeting. He was on this site for some time and was really good fun, I was only a member for a few weeks. We got on very well and ended up getting very close. We become close to the extent that I lived with him at the weekends and when we could. A real nice guy, someone who become my soulmate. He had health issues, he never thought it serious but ended up having intense medical problems and unfortunately he passed away mid March.
I miss him so much, I feel lost, I no longer work, I cannot concentrate and I am at a juncture in my life where I dont know where to turn or where to go. I want to go away, I need to go somewhere completely distant from here, the feeling is intensely strong to do so. I have applied for a visa for Australia but friends think I am having a knee-jerk reaction to what has happened. Maybe I am, I really dont know anymore, all I do know that he has left one void in my life that I cannot fill.
Can someone suggest a group or self help association that can help me come to terms with this, sometimes I feel like I'm loosing it and even have had suicidal thoughts.
I know where you're coming from and I have experienced those feelings in the past, the only advice I can give you is to go and see your GP and they can point you in the right direction, Im not being smart but I think you need proffessional help and the fact you have come on to a website stating that you have problems coping I think you realise that as well I miss him so much, I feel lost, I no longer work, I cannot concentrate and I am at a juncture in my life where I dont know where to turn or where to go. I want to go away, I need to go somewhere completely distant from here, the feeling is intensely strong to do so. I have applied for a visa for Australia but friends think I am having a knee-jerk reaction to what has happened. Maybe I am, I really dont know anymore, all I do know that he has left one void in my life that I cannot fill.
Can someone suggest a group or self help association that can help me come to terms with this, sometimes I feel like I'm loosing it and even have had suicidal thoughts.
SueByAnotherName: thanks everyone, I will seek advice from my GP.
There are some great grief counselling services available, also Aware offer great support in their local meetings......SueByAnotherName: Sometime ago I met someone here who I ended up meeting. He was on this site for some time and was really good fun, I was only a member for a few weeks. We got on very well and ended up getting very close. We become close to the extent that I lived with him at the weekends and when we could. A real nice guy, someone who become my soulmate. He had health issues, he never thought it serious but ended up having intense medical problems and unfortunately he passed away mid March.
I miss him so much, I feel lost, I no longer work, I cannot concentrate and I am at a juncture in my life where I dont know where to turn or where to go. I want to go away, I need to go somewhere completely distant from here, the feeling is intensely strong to do so. I have applied for a visa for Australia but friends think I am having a knee-jerk reaction to what has happened. Maybe I am, I really dont know anymore, all I do know that he has left one void in my life that I cannot fill.
Can someone suggest a group or self help association that can help me come to terms with this, sometimes I feel like I'm loosing it and even have had suicidal thoughts.
I miss him so much, I feel lost, I no longer work, I cannot concentrate and I am at a juncture in my life where I dont know where to turn or where to go. I want to go away, I need to go somewhere completely distant from here, the feeling is intensely strong to do so. I have applied for a visa for Australia but friends think I am having a knee-jerk reaction to what has happened. Maybe I am, I really dont know anymore, all I do know that he has left one void in my life that I cannot fill.
Can someone suggest a group or self help association that can help me come to terms with this, sometimes I feel like I'm loosing it and even have had suicidal thoughts.
Put things into perspective and it wont seem so bad, I have lost people close to me and although I felt sad and depressed I knew things would get back to normal soon enough, Death is a part of life, You'll get over it
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I miss him so much, I feel lost, I no longer work, I cannot concentrate and I am at a juncture in my life where I dont know where to turn or where to go. I want to go away, I need to go somewhere completely distant from here, the feeling is intensely strong to do so. I have applied for a visa for Australia but friends think I am having a knee-jerk reaction to what has happened. Maybe I am, I really dont know anymore, all I do know that he has left one void in my life that I cannot fill.
Can someone suggest a group or self help association that can help me come to terms with this, sometimes I feel like I'm loosing it and even have had suicidal thoughts.