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SUNSHINEB0Y: just tried to mail her privately to make sure she saw my post but can't, hope she sees it
No more you can do Sun 
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feshta: As I stated above, if I have offened you personally in any particular way I apologies for my words.
I am single, almost 2yrs now, felt it was time to start over again...
Dating sites are new to me after 30yrs in a relationship...the ground rules have also changed. I am not one for going to bars or pubs to pick up my next partner
possibly on-line dating sites will not be the best of places for me either
I am single, almost 2yrs now, felt it was time to start over again...
Dating sites are new to me after 30yrs in a relationship...the ground rules have also changed. I am not one for going to bars or pubs to pick up my next partner
possibly on-line dating sites will not be the best of places for me either
I don't think you meant to offend any of the widowers and you didn't attack them; you just mentioned the number of scammers out there that pose as scammers or widowers. People are blowing your comment out of of proportion which is common on these forums. When I was dating and saw widower; I would automatically think scammer too as it became so common on this site. Yes its unfair to widowers but that is life. I remember guys not wanting to go out with me because I was never married. Widowers, divorcees, and single guys would have nothing to do with me as they thought something was wrong with me. Difference is I am not whining about it. Everyone is entitled to thier opinion.
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cherrybrandy: im sorry you had to go through that Feshta! not the best welcome for a new poster..and no excuse for such a behaviour from some posters..your opening post was very clear for the women,who get scamming mails,all the time and i dont see a reason for such overeaction.probably,there are quite a lot men and women,who have lost a partner,but no real reason for them to be offended.
Absolutely well put.
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feshta: I'm just wonering if there are many women left in the world seeing approx 8 out of 10 men who list on here are WIDOWED?
Scammers all of them
How foolish do they think we are
Scammers all of them
How foolish do they think we are
both you and cb seem to have your selective reading glasses on tonight, what part of "Scammers all of them " did you fail to get?
I'm not going to get into another arguement over this tonight but if the op feels she can't face the world after posting it maybe........
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SUNSHINEB0Y: both you and cb seem to have your selective reading glasses on tonight, what part of "Scammers all of them " did you fail to get?
I'm not going to get into another arguement over this tonight but if the op feels she can't face the world after posting it maybe........
I'm not going to get into another arguement over this tonight but if the op feels she can't face the world after posting it maybe........
Oh for goodness sake; just drop it. Except for a few people; the majority of us knew what she was saying; she just didn't word it correctly.
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single4ever: Oh for goodness sake; just drop it. Except for a few people; the majority of us knew what she was saying; she just didn't word it correctly.
you are right, I reacted to what she did say, then she had plenty of opportunity to say so and did in the end say something like it,
I already had dropped it
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I am a widow , sometimes want to change to "divorced" but decided to keep it honest, I have nothing to hide, why should I.
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swf1950: I see a lot of widowed/divorced men who has kids who live with them and want kids some day. So I know who is being silly/trying to pull a fast one
Yeah a lot of scammers say they are widowed with kids, sad thing to say when not true because some genuine men on here are widowed as woman are too. It would make it hard for the guys who are widowed for us woman to believe. How do we fix that if possible?
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feshta: Well yes I am new to this site, it has only been about 2 1/2 wks I am on. I thought it would be a good way to meet people, but yes this expereince espeically today has been very intense
I wish everyone well in their searches however I will close my account and pray for companionship to find me
I wish everyone well in their searches however I will close my account and pray for companionship to find me
Awww comon Feshta most of us on this site get some grief from another member that doesn't agree with what we say. I myself had guy go full on at me last week I let it go over my head. You will be fine it's just a debate we all see it as that and with no offence directly it didn't come across as you being nasty or sunshine being nasty just a misunderstanding. Shake hands
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SUNSHINEB0Y: you are right, I reacted to what she did say, then she had plenty of opportunity to say so and did in the end say something like it,
I already had dropped it your comment, apart from being superfluious, wasn't original, but I don't mind.....
I already had dropped it your comment, apart from being superfluious, wasn't original, but I don't mind.....
Good on Ya! mate
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SUNSHINEB0Y: He's right again.
The fact is (as I see it)no matter what brings us to this site, at any time of life, we all have baggage, I made the point on another thread earlier today that it's very hard to gain the trust needed for a relationship to thrive with some divorcees (male or female) because they often feel they've been betrayed, widows/ers also have baggage I guess, just different bags, it seems to me that as we go through life we all sustain damage, finding someone who's damage is compatible with our own seems to just get harder as we get older and sustain more
like he said it's your decision but I don't wanna be responsible for you not giving the site a fair go.
Please stay awhile and if you don't feel confident to post another thread for a bit there are some peeps here who are really good at it and will get round to embracing all your fav topics eventually.
I'm sorry for hurting you.
The fact is (as I see it)no matter what brings us to this site, at any time of life, we all have baggage, I made the point on another thread earlier today that it's very hard to gain the trust needed for a relationship to thrive with some divorcees (male or female) because they often feel they've been betrayed, widows/ers also have baggage I guess, just different bags, it seems to me that as we go through life we all sustain damage, finding someone who's damage is compatible with our own seems to just get harder as we get older and sustain more
like he said it's your decision but I don't wanna be responsible for you not giving the site a fair go.
Please stay awhile and if you don't feel confident to post another thread for a bit there are some peeps here who are really good at it and will get round to embracing all your fav topics eventually.
I'm sorry for hurting you.
You are such a sweet man I hope she listens to your kind words.
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cherrybrandy: im sorry you had to go through that Feshta! not the best welcome for a new poster..and no excuse for such a behaviour from some posters..your opening post was very clear for the women,who get scamming mails,all the time and i dont see a reason for such overeaction.probably,there are quite a lot men and women,who have lost a partner,but no real reason for them to be offended.
Kind of scared off someone new for no real reason ....
Think some may have over-reacted to her thread....instead of just pointing out their feelings on the subject in an appropriate manner....
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yabbadabbadont: Kind of scared off someone new for no real reason ....
Think some may have over-reacted to her thread....instead of just pointing out their feelings on the subject in an appropriate manner....
Think some may have over-reacted to her thread....instead of just pointing out their feelings on the subject in an appropriate manner....
maybe so, maybe not, I defo had a bad reaction to being called a scammer and I wasn't the only one. I wonder if you have ever lost the love of your life through death? I also wonder how great your reaction would be if I called you vile for disagreeing with me? and I'm not even going to go into why another Miss isn't with us anymore. guess none of us are perfect huh?
I was hoping for something more positive when I saw the thread had been visited again, oh well
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on a possitive note,i would suggest the mods had a look on the thread..
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SUNSHINEB0Y: you are right, I reacted to what she did say, then she had plenty of opportunity to say so and did in the end say something like it,
I already had dropped it your comment, apart from being superfluious, wasn't original, but I don't mind.....
I already had dropped it your comment, apart from being superfluious, wasn't original, but I don't mind.....
Whatever
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yabbadabbadont: Kind of scared off someone new for no real reason ....
Think some may have over-reacted to her thread....instead of just pointing out their feelings on the subject in an appropriate manner....
Think some may have over-reacted to her thread....instead of just pointing out their feelings on the subject in an appropriate manner....
Yeah that was my thought too.
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cherrybrandy: on a possitive note,i would suggest the mods had a look on the thread..
You are free to suggest whatever you want and you can be sure that I won't call you vile or anything else whether I think it or not either.
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SUNSHINEB0Y: You are free to suggest whatever you want and you can be sure that I won't call you vile or anything else whether I think it or not either.
soz got my either in the wrong place
You are free to suggest whatever you want and you can be sure that I won't call you vile either, or anything else, whether I think it or not.
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SUNSHINEB0Y: You are free to suggest whatever you want and you can be sure that I won't call you vile or anything else whether I think it or not either.
its up to you calling me things and up to me how i will take that,in my opinion you attacked the lady,who started the thread,even if she apologised and explained,what she meant.you didnt stop attacking her,untill she left,that is bullying in my book and i cant just go away.its not a first time as well,you are doing that.and its a last time im talking to you,but i can promise,if i think you are bullying someone again i will report.------ This thread is Archived ------
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Damm do i sound like a scammer now
but seriously Sun the Lady must feel bad now and i also hope she stays
you're lovely too nuli, thank you for being here tonight