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SUNSHINEB0Y: you're right Nulli, I was instantly annoyed but I'm over it now and I see the funny side, I accept that the op meant no harm and that therefor there is nothing to forgive her for, I don't feel a bit guilty for pulling her up on it though, so I'm not gonna bother forgiving myself either.
If u want to kiss her, you carry on, it won't bother me in the least but I wouldn't do it.
Not kissing her or you for that matter and i always enjoy reading the banter with you Sunshine i was just "hoping" you would BOTH calm down and i KNOW you were hurt by the OP's comments and rightly so but i hate to see ppl getting hurt by STUPID COMMENTS used was all If u want to kiss her, you carry on, it won't bother me in the least but I wouldn't do it.
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almera03: When you make a sweeping statement in your opening post expect to get your fingers burnt.
Put it down to experience
Good luck with your next one and happy hunting
Put it down to experience
Good luck with your next one and happy hunting
I second that and I have made similar mistakes myself so not claiming to be "holier than anybody"
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Well yes I am new to this site, it has only been about 2 1/2 wks I am on. I thought it would be a good way to meet people, but yes this expereince espeically today has been very intense
I wish everyone well in their searches however I will close my account and pray for companionship to find me
I wish everyone well in their searches however I will close my account and pray for companionship to find me
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Nuliiiiiii: Not kissing her or you for that matter and i always enjoy reading the banter with you Sunshine i was just "hoping" you would BOTH calm down and i KNOW you were hurt by the OP's comments and rightly so but i hate to see ppl getting hurt by STUPID COMMENTS used was all
what did I say that you thought was stupid?
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feshta: Well yes I am new to this site, it has only been about 2 1/2 wks I am on. I thought it would be a good way to meet people, but yes this expereince espeically today has been very intense
I wish everyone well in their searches however I will close my account and pray for companionship to find me
Its your choice, however it seems to me its just been a mix up and those here are more than happy to let it drop and move on.I wish everyone well in their searches however I will close my account and pray for companionship to find me
Give them a chance, what ya got to lose!!!
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feshta: Well yes I am new to this site, it has only been about 2 1/2 wks I am on. I thought it would be a good way to meet people, but yes this expereince espeically today has been very intense
I wish everyone well in their searches however I will close my account and pray for companionship to find me
I wish everyone well in their searches however I will close my account and pray for companionship to find me
I hope that you stick around here. I know how daunting this medium of dating and communicating can be after a very long relationship.
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feshta: Well yes I am new to this site, it has only been about 2 1/2 wks I am on. I thought it would be a good way to meet people, but yes this expereince espeically today has been very intense
I wish everyone well in their searches however I will close my account and pray for companionship to find me
I wish everyone well in their searches however I will close my account and pray for companionship to find me
Hun, there's no need to go.
I knew exactly what you meant, as did many.
The scammers who claim certain statuses repeatedly make it very difficult for the genuine people who are in the same position.
To use the widower card is dispicable, as if how the scammers behave isn't dispicable enough.
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feshta: As I stated above, if I have offened you personally in any particular way I apologies for my words.
I am single, almost 2yrs now, felt it was time to start over again...
Dating sites are new to me after 30yrs in a relationship...the ground rules have also changed. I am not one for going to bars or pubs to pick up my next partner
possibly on-line dating sites will not be the best of places for me either
I am single, almost 2yrs now, felt it was time to start over again...
Dating sites are new to me after 30yrs in a relationship...the ground rules have also changed. I am not one for going to bars or pubs to pick up my next partner
possibly on-line dating sites will not be the best of places for me either
It is not what you said it is how you said it
You made it sound like all widowers were scammers
I was graced with a great love that was taken from me and if the world knows - great because she was a great lady
Just try to be friends and enjoy life and have fun
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SUNSHINEB0Y: what did I say that you thought was stupid?
Wrong choice of words maybe Sun sorry My meaning was simply the OP posted something that hurt others and maybe should have thought more before posting as it sounded to you and many other Widowers as "not" being compassionate .
BUT i can see the other side also as many of us recieve mails regular from such !!
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almera03: Its your choice, however it seems to me its just been a mix up and those here are more than happy to let it drop and move on.
Give them a chance, what ya got to lose!!!
Give them a chance, what ya got to lose!!!
He's right again.
The fact is (as I see it)no matter what brings us to this site, at any time of life, we all have baggage, I made the point on another thread earlier today that it's very hard to gain the trust needed for a relationship to thrive with some divorcees (male or female) because they often feel they've been betrayed, widows/ers also have baggage I guess, just different bags, it seems to me that as we go through life we all sustain damage, finding someone who's damage is compatible with our own seems to just get harder as we get older and sustain more
like he said it's your decision but I don't wanna be responsible for you not giving the site a fair go.
Please stay awhile and if you don't feel confident to post another thread for a bit there are some peeps here who are really good at it and will get round to embracing all your fav topics eventually.
I'm sorry for hurting you.
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Nuliiiiiii: Wrong choice of words maybe Sun sorry
My meaning was simply the OP posted something that hurt others and maybe should have thought more before posting as it sounded to you and many other Widowers as "not" being compassionate .
BUT i can see the other side also as many of us recieve mails regular from such !!
My meaning was simply the OP posted something that hurt others and maybe should have thought more before posting as it sounded to you and many other Widowers as "not" being compassionate .
BUT i can see the other side also as many of us recieve mails regular from such !!
l can see her point as l too recieve a lot of those emails. But l also recieve emails from widowers who are being truthfull. I just delete the scammers. Her comment was just too broad. I myself am widowed but l dont have that on my profile as l was getting to many sleezy emails. And the sad thing is if l wrote someone an email telling them my life story they would think l was a scammer as lve had a lot of heartbreak in my life.
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Nuliiiiiii: Wrong choice of words maybe Sun sorry
My meaning was simply the OP posted something that hurt others and maybe should have thought more before posting as it sounded to you and many other Widowers as "not" being compassionate .
BUT i can see the other side also as many of us recieve mails regular from such !!
My meaning was simply the OP posted something that hurt others and maybe should have thought more before posting as it sounded to you and many other Widowers as "not" being compassionate .
BUT i can see the other side also as many of us recieve mails regular from such !!
and how many men do you think DON'T get scam attacks with all sorts of ploys appealing words photo's etc; ?
it's the internet
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Faithe: l can see her point as l too recieve a lot of those emails. But l also recieve emails from widowers who are being truthfull. I just delete the scammers. Her comment was just too broad. I myself am widowed but l dont have that on my profile as l was getting to many sleezy emails. And the sad thing is if l wrote someone an email telling them my life story they would think l was a scammer as lve had a lot of heartbreak in my life.
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SUNSHINEB0Y: He's right again.
The fact is (as I see it)no matter what brings us to this site, at any time of life, we all have baggage, I made the point on another thread earlier today that it's very hard to gain the trust needed for a relationship to thrive with some divorcees (male or female) because they often feel they've been betrayed, widows/ers also have baggage I guess, just different bags, it seems to me that as we go through life we all sustain damage, finding someone who's damage is compatible with our own seems to just get harder as we get older and sustain more
like he said it's your decision but I don't wanna be responsible for you not giving the site a fair go.
Please stay awhile and if you don't feel confident to post another thread for a bit there are some peeps here who are really good at it and will get round to embracing all your fav topics eventually.
I'm sorry for hurting you.
The fact is (as I see it)no matter what brings us to this site, at any time of life, we all have baggage, I made the point on another thread earlier today that it's very hard to gain the trust needed for a relationship to thrive with some divorcees (male or female) because they often feel they've been betrayed, widows/ers also have baggage I guess, just different bags, it seems to me that as we go through life we all sustain damage, finding someone who's damage is compatible with our own seems to just get harder as we get older and sustain more
like he said it's your decision but I don't wanna be responsible for you not giving the site a fair go.
Please stay awhile and if you don't feel confident to post another thread for a bit there are some peeps here who are really good at it and will get round to embracing all your fav topics eventually.
I'm sorry for hurting you.
I think i love u Sunshine
Damm do i sound like a scammer now
but seriously Sun the Lady must feel bad now and i also hope she stays
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SUNSHINEB0Y: and how many men do you think DON'T get scam attacks with all sorts of ploys appealing words photo's etc; ?
it's the internet
yes i KNOW this but maybe just maybe she has not come across this before ??it's the internet
I dont know this nor do u Sun
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SUNSHINEB0Y: and how many men do you think DON'T get scam attacks with all sorts of ploys appealing words photo's etc; ?
it's the internet
it's the internet
About four a day at the moment.
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Thanks Sunshineboy 
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bodleing: About four a day at the moment.
Only 4??hmmmmm
I had a lovelyyyyyyy mail from a YOUNG widower short while back with a young son and hellooooooooo do i "look" like someone that can be Mommy to a young lad??
Eh i cant mind myself let alone a young lad lol
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Nuliiiiiii: yes i KNOW this but maybe just maybe she has not come across this before ??
I dont know this nor do u Sun
I dont know this nor do u Sun
just tried to mail her privately to make sure she saw my post but can't, hope she sees it
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If I had offened you in particular my sincere apologies. However your words have additonally cut deep.
I would like to think I am on here like many of ther other honest participants hoping there is a possiblity to find someone even if it is just for chats. This one of the reasons decided to participate on the forums rather than searching the multitude of photos.
This formun now has left a very sour taste
Well I read your op as soon as you posted it and I immidiately knew Sunshineboy would be affected by the content of it ...
Sometimes when we start threads we have to think about the contents of what we post and how we word things ... It's difficult to get it right and not generelise or sound judgemental ... You get better with practise ...
Put it down to experience and learn from it may be