What Am I Doing So Wrong? (20)
snglagain2marshfield, Missouri USA2 Threads 5 PostsHello everyone, I am new to this place, I want to get some hopefully helpful advise. I have started dating again since April and honestly I can't seem to find anyone I connect with and when I do they turn out to be a jerk? Why is it that men say they want one thing and when you give them what they want all they do is complain about it? I guess I just do not understand at all. I am simple and will do the same for a man as I would want done for me. So what am I doing wrong. Personally I think I will never find a nice guy that I can relate to or that can relate to me. HELP!!!!
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what you seek you will not find overnight..well you might but it's best to accept it's gonna take a while, any yu'll have to sort thru some real trash plan for a long term hunt
good luck
and make sure you do not starve yourself while hunting for this one in a milion.
good luck
and make sure you do not starve yourself while hunting for this one in a milion.
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Well I think you will find the right person for you here, there are a lot of very good hearted people here.
It is very hard to find the perfect one, do they really exist as we are different in so many ways, but it has to be possible as there are many people out there who don't get on together some of the time but are together because they have learned the importance of individuality.
When it's right it will come to you but it does need to cared for and worked with, I hope you do not give up trying, keep trawling through and have some fun and enjoyment while getting there and one day it will work out.
It is very hard to find the perfect one, do they really exist as we are different in so many ways, but it has to be possible as there are many people out there who don't get on together some of the time but are together because they have learned the importance of individuality.
When it's right it will come to you but it does need to cared for and worked with, I hope you do not give up trying, keep trawling through and have some fun and enjoyment while getting there and one day it will work out.
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I don't understand how you clicked if he is a jerk to you...
What was he complaining about and what would you do for a man that you also would want done to you?? 
What was he complaining about and what would you do for a man that you also would want done to you??
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silly girl..opposites attract
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They can also repel..lol 
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theres something I've expereinced firsthand 
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These days people seem to see relationships as "disposable" just as marriages. It seems that alot of people don't want to put forth any energy to meet in the middle and keep things honest and exciting. It takes work to make a relationship last and unfortunately in this busy world we live in, the relationship doesn't get any "time".
Let's face it, there are still alot of "players" out there too....keep them away from me!!!
Let's face it, there are still alot of "players" out there too....keep them away from me!!!
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Patience is a virtue. I've been on dating sites six years. I haven't found anyone I "connect with," either, and I won't settle for less until I do. I don't NEED a man in my life, I WANT a man in my life. Meantime, I have tons of other things to keep busy with while I'm single, and though, sure, it does get lonely at times, I'm still content with my life.
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Same here jean...I think when ppl feel they NEED someone to complete them is when they make the most mistakes is choosing a partner.
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I'm sorry. Can you point out where I said that? I can't seem to find it anywhere!
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I left my husband in 94'..I found the men I have dated from then to now have only gotten better.
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What do you mean? You give them what they want?
First of all, if you gave them what they want and they complain about it, then that's not what they want or how they want it.
Second, why not just be yourself and not worry about trying to please them by "giving them what they want"? Just be you.
First of all, if you gave them what they want and they complain about it, then that's not what they want or how they want it.
Second, why not just be yourself and not worry about trying to please them by "giving them what they want"? Just be you.
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Well hun, You want me to paint a picture for ya ?
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Thanks... I needed that openness.. You are right why not be me! Well, heres more explaination on what I mean. This guy said he wanted someone to stand beside him, and to treat him right... Well, I thought I did that.... because it was exactly what I wanted as well.... Well, when it came time to stand beside me, forget it... he wanted to turn the other way... So i said forget it n told him where to go n how far he good go... Wasn't really nice about it... But that is just a small piece of it.... I think this guy was just tryin to play me and to an extent he did but not for too long........ obviously.... Well, I do appreciate your boldness... and agree I am not going to let myself disappear into some guys needs anymore... That is why I am divorced now because I gave in to my husband...
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I agree with you so much... I told my Xhusband when we were married that this was for life NO MATTER WHAT, cause I dont believe in giving up on anything that is so important that you would say vows to god to live for ever together... Well, my x found his way out and here i sit alone, cold and much happier about that... yes, as everyone said it gets lonely but in the same sense I am glad, I would choose loneliness over being hurt any day.... but thanks so much....
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First welcome and have fun,
I too have just started dating this year and I too find the women I date as you stated, “Women say they want one thing and when you give them what they want all they do is complain about it”
I have discovered its not them, its me that has changed since I last dated 20 years ago.
Twenty years I was dumber no where near has picky and would except BS in my life. Today none of this is true.
If I see the first signs if game playing, BS or any undesirable personalities flaw i.e. heavy drinking, any drug usage, bad money habits, irresponsibility I am done. 20 years ago I would join in today that is just not an option.
Am I too picky? Don’t know that’s for me and time to decide but one thing is for certain I am the one that has changed not them and it is I that hope to find a nice; normal; responsible; none drug using; easy going; fun loving women. Can so be so hard? There is one guy on this planet, Me and I am sure there is a lot more so I am sure that there are such women too.
Just don’t give up and never surrender I guess.
I too have just started dating this year and I too find the women I date as you stated, “Women say they want one thing and when you give them what they want all they do is complain about it”
I have discovered its not them, its me that has changed since I last dated 20 years ago.
Twenty years I was dumber no where near has picky and would except BS in my life. Today none of this is true.
If I see the first signs if game playing, BS or any undesirable personalities flaw i.e. heavy drinking, any drug usage, bad money habits, irresponsibility I am done. 20 years ago I would join in today that is just not an option.
Am I too picky? Don’t know that’s for me and time to decide but one thing is for certain I am the one that has changed not them and it is I that hope to find a nice; normal; responsible; none drug using; easy going; fun loving women. Can so be so hard? There is one guy on this planet, Me and I am sure there is a lot more so I am sure that there are such women too.
Just don’t give up and never surrender I guess.
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You're not doing anyting "wrong"
You're experiencing life - learning what you want and what you need, good thing you got rid of the "jerks" soon.
Patience, trust your insticts, DON'T SETTLE
Head up, smile.......
You're experiencing life - learning what you want and what you need, good thing you got rid of the "jerks" soon.
Patience, trust your insticts, DON'T SETTLE
Head up, smile.......
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