how to meet and talk to a girl. thanks. (56)
DtormalaGwinn, Michigan USA2 Threads 7 PostsI am a single, 28 y/o, white somewhat smart, somewhat attractive guy. little of my life is filled with success, except for one HUGE gap. I have never had a girlfriend, or a relationship that has gone beyond two dates (usually my decision or something weird happens). I never went to a school dance or prom so kind of feel that I missed out my chance #1 - I cannot build up enough energy to go out and meet women. Internet dating has not gone very well for me. I am not shy in normal social situations, but just going up to a woman and talking to her is not a skill of mine. If I do, I act like a dork. #2 - I am in the "nice guys finish last" club. I am too nice, and not aggressive in making things happen. I am not the type to sweep a woman off her feet but I want to just that I have a fear of intimacy. I have never kissed a woman, or really put myself in a situation where I could kiss someone. I am much more comfortable not expressing intimacy to anyone. Lately I have become depressed about all of this. I would consider myself over 10 years "behind the curve" and I really feel like a loser. If I go out with someone my own age, I am going to be light-years behind in experience. Dating someone 18 and inexperienced like me is also quickly becoming, if not already, not possible. Help! If I end up becoming a "40 Year Old Virgin" I probably just have to give up the thoughts about having a family because at that point I will have lost my window of opportunity to have a normal family with anyone.
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Hey Dtormala, If you feel like a loser it's because you keep telling that to yourself and at the end it's gonna become a fact.
I can give you good and highly effective advise but it's long to explain, plus it's consist of some well kept secrets
I can give you good and highly effective advise but it's long to explain, plus it's consist of some well kept secrets
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Send me a message so I can reply
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cherrygc: Hey Dtormala, If you feel like a loser it's because you keep telling that to yourself and at the end it's gonna become a fact.
I can give you good and highly effective advise but it's long to explain, plus it's consist of some well kept secrets
I can give you good and highly effective advise but it's long to explain, plus it's consist of some well kept secrets
try to inbox him and give him the advise
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manroe23: try to inbox him and give him the advise
He is a guy 
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ali110: He is a guy
Hi Ali
i know that's why i suggest him to give him an advise not try to date him
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Dtormala: I am a single, 28 y/o, white somewhat smart, somewhat attractive guy. little of my life is filled with success, except for one HUGE gap. I have never had a girlfriend, or a relationship that has gone beyond two dates (usually my decision or something weird happens). I never went to a school dance or prom so kind of feel that I missed out my chance #1 - I cannot build up enough energy to go out and meet women. Internet dating has not gone very well for me. I am not shy in normal social situations, but just going up to a woman and talking to her is not a skill of mine. If I do, I act like a dork. #2 - I am in the "nice guys finish last" club. I am too nice, and not aggressive in making things happen. I am not the type to sweep a woman off her feet but I want to just that I have a fear of intimacy. I have never kissed a woman, or really put myself in a situation where I could kiss someone. I am much more comfortable not expressing intimacy to anyone. Lately I have become depressed about all of this. I would consider myself over 10 years "behind the curve" and I really feel like a loser. If I go out with someone my own age, I am going to be light-years behind in experience. Dating someone 18 and inexperienced like me is also quickly becoming, if not already, not possible. Help! If I end up becoming a "40 Year Old Virgin" I probably just have to give up the thoughts about having a family because at that point I will have lost my window of opportunity to have a normal family with anyone.
Having low self esteem is not putting yourself in a good place why don't you try to join a social group Like for example 10 pin bowling as it usually is a club with members if you don't like that sort of thing go to your local Shire ( not sure what you call it over your way) like council they run the activities in the area's where you live anyhow they usually have a list of things you can do and join throughout the year I am sure this kind of thing would apply all over the world. It is a good way to meet people and form friendships and possible to meet your future lady love.
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Ok, you seriously want advice? Or is this one of those poor-poor-pitiful-me posts? 'Cause I can give ya advice, if ya want, and it will work: you'll meet women, starting right here and now on CS, as well as out on the street in your daily life. That doesn't guarantee that any of them will like you, but the more you meet, the greater the chances that one will...and one is all you're looking for, right? (First bit of advice: Say "yes.")
I know two key bits of advice.
Here's the first: the most attractive trait in both men and women is self-confidence. It doesn't matter if the self-confidence is merited or not. You need to appear self-confident; you don't have to actually be so. You want to meet women, just introduce yourself. Don't worry about how they're going to react or what will happen. Remember, the world revolves around you (your world, anyway). Just walk right up to any cute woman you see and say, My, you're cute. My name's Dtormala, what's yours? Those eight words will work wonders.
And here's the crucial second bit: Sincerity rules. If you don't actually believe she's cute, for Pete's sake don't say so. Don't lie. Don't deceive. If she's homely as home-grown sin, but she's wearing really cute boots, say "My, those are cute boots!" or whatever instead. As long as you are honest, no one can question your self-confidence.
Maybe I'm about to get lambasted by multiple female readers of these Forums for posting this advice. But what can I say? I sincerely believe it is so.
I know two key bits of advice.
Here's the first: the most attractive trait in both men and women is self-confidence. It doesn't matter if the self-confidence is merited or not. You need to appear self-confident; you don't have to actually be so. You want to meet women, just introduce yourself. Don't worry about how they're going to react or what will happen. Remember, the world revolves around you (your world, anyway). Just walk right up to any cute woman you see and say, My, you're cute. My name's Dtormala, what's yours? Those eight words will work wonders.
And here's the crucial second bit: Sincerity rules. If you don't actually believe she's cute, for Pete's sake don't say so. Don't lie. Don't deceive. If she's homely as home-grown sin, but she's wearing really cute boots, say "My, those are cute boots!" or whatever instead. As long as you are honest, no one can question your self-confidence.
Maybe I'm about to get lambasted by multiple female readers of these Forums for posting this advice. But what can I say? I sincerely believe
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manroe23: try to inbox him and give him the advise
I tried but his setting are just like yours, don't allow mails outside their preferences
manroe23: Hi Ali
i know that's why i suggest him to give him an advise not try to date him
i know that's why i suggest him to give him an advise not try to date him
Thanks
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Dagosto: Ok, you seriously want advice? Or is this one of those poor-poor-pitiful-me posts? 'Cause I can give ya advice, if ya want, and it will work: you'll meet women, starting right here and now on CS, as well as out on the street in your daily life. That doesn't guarantee that any of them will like you, but the more you meet, the greater the chances that one will...and one is all you're looking for, right? (First bit of advice: Say "yes.")
I know two key bits of advice.
Here's the first: the most attractive trait in both men and women is self-confidence. It doesn't matter if the self-confidence is merited or not. You need to appear self-confident; you don't have to actually be so. You want to meet women, just introduce yourself. Don't worry about how they're going to react or what will happen. Remember, the world revolves around you (your world, anyway). Just walk right up to any cute woman you see and say, My, you're cute. My name's Dtormala, what's yours? Those eight words will work wonders.
And here's the crucial second bit: Sincerity rules. If you don't actually believe she's cute, for Pete's sake don't say so. Don't lie. Don't deceive. If she's homely as home-grown sin, but she's wearing really cute boots, say "My, those are cute boots!" or whatever instead. As long as you are honest, no one can question your self-confidence.
Maybe I'm about to get lambasted by multiple female readers of these Forums for posting this advice. But what can I say? I sincerely believe it is so.
I know two key bits of advice.
Here's the first: the most attractive trait in both men and women is self-confidence. It doesn't matter if the self-confidence is merited or not. You need to appear self-confident; you don't have to actually be so. You want to meet women, just introduce yourself. Don't worry about how they're going to react or what will happen. Remember, the world revolves around you (your world, anyway). Just walk right up to any cute woman you see and say, My, you're cute. My name's Dtormala, what's yours? Those eight words will work wonders.
And here's the crucial second bit: Sincerity rules. If you don't actually believe she's cute, for Pete's sake don't say so. Don't lie. Don't deceive. If she's homely as home-grown sin, but she's wearing really cute boots, say "My, those are cute boots!" or whatever instead. As long as you are honest, no one can question your self-confidence.
Maybe I'm about to get lambasted by multiple female readers of these Forums for posting this advice. But what can I say? I sincerely believe it is so.
well said dagosto
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OP..it is easy..
Just wink at her
Just wink at her
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Ladefoss23: OP..it is easy..
Just wink at her
Just wink at her
Or send her a flower first
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Or commit suicide!!
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cherrygc: I tried but his setting are just like yours, don't allow mails outside their preferences Thanks
maybe you should try a little harder
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manroe23: maybe you should try a little harder
Thanks for the advise!
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Dagosto: Ok, you seriously want advice? Or is this one of those poor-poor-pitiful-me posts? 'Cause I can give ya advice, if ya want, and it will work: you'll meet women, starting right here and now on CS, as well as out on the street in your daily life. That doesn't guarantee that any of them will like you, but the more you meet, the greater the chances that one will...and one is all you're looking for, right? (First bit of advice: Say "yes.")
I know two key bits of advice.
Here's the first: the most attractive trait in both men and women is self-confidence. It doesn't matter if the self-confidence is merited or not. You need to appear self-confident; you don't have to actually be so. You want to meet women, just introduce yourself. Don't worry about how they're going to react or what will happen. Remember, the world revolves around you (your world, anyway). Just walk right up to any cute woman you see and say, My, you're cute. My name's Dtormala, what's yours? Those eight words will work wonders.
And here's the crucial second bit: Sincerity rules. If you don't actually believe she's cute, for Pete's sake don't say so. Don't lie. Don't deceive. If she's homely as home-grown sin, but she's wearing really cute boots, say "My, those are cute boots!" or whatever instead. As long as you are honest, no one can question your self-confidence.
Maybe I'm about to get lambasted by multiple female readers of these Forums for posting this advice. But what can I say? I sincerely believe it is so.
I know two key bits of advice.
Here's the first: the most attractive trait in both men and women is self-confidence. It doesn't matter if the self-confidence is merited or not. You need to appear self-confident; you don't have to actually be so. You want to meet women, just introduce yourself. Don't worry about how they're going to react or what will happen. Remember, the world revolves around you (your world, anyway). Just walk right up to any cute woman you see and say, My, you're cute. My name's Dtormala, what's yours? Those eight words will work wonders.
And here's the crucial second bit: Sincerity rules. If you don't actually believe she's cute, for Pete's sake don't say so. Don't lie. Don't deceive. If she's homely as home-grown sin, but she's wearing really cute boots, say "My, those are cute boots!" or whatever instead. As long as you are honest, no one can question your self-confidence.
Maybe I'm about to get lambasted by multiple female readers of these Forums for posting this advice. But what can I say? I sincerely believe it is so.
Number two is definitely a right one !
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Why does this thread seem like a clandestine pitch to sell books about how to pick up women? I always wanted to read some of those books to find out what bull crap they tell men to pull. 
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its hard to help online.but i could help u to get a gf in 2 weeks.the only tip i can give u is be confident,urself and try to find a girl like urself.dont go for the megan fox likes cos she doesnt need u.i m sure there r plenty women with ur type who would be happy be with u and it could work good.
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How about this? If you want to meet a pretty girl and chat her up you really have to get her attention. This may take a bit of manipulation. Find an outdoor cafe surrounded by a low wall or bushes and wait ducked behind the bushes with a handfull of raw hamburger. Slip the host a couple of 20s to seat any single pretty girls near your hiding place. When a pretty girl sits down, wait until the waiter is gone and yell boom and fling the meat in her lap. Then whisk her away claiming that there was a terrible explosion with human guts raining everywhere. On second thought, nah, that still wouldn't work.
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Witchaywoman: How about this? If you want to meet a pretty girl and chat her up you really have to get her attention. This may take a bit of manipulation. Find an outdoor cafe surrounded by a low wall or bushes and wait ducked behind the bushes with a handfull of raw hamburger. Slip the host a couple of 20s to seat any single pretty girls near your hiding place. When a pretty girl sits down, wait until the waiter is gone and yell boom and fling the meat in her lap. Then whisk her away claiming that there was a terrible explosion with human guts raining everywhere. On second thought, nah, that still wouldn't work.
Yeah....helpful.
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