A day in the life of a romantic fool. (34)
I can so identify Leo!
Why is it that the most decent and well-indented men get all tongue-tied and bashfulled-up when they try to approach a woman they really have strong feelings for. That just makes them appear as a completely fumbling unconfident idiot to the woman and so she rejects them as being 'unstable' and 'insecure'. Both of which are ultimately totally untrue.
And then you'll watch some totally insincere cad comes in and whisks her off her feet and entice her to become involved with him. And then he'll cheat on her and treat her with utter disrespect. She'll come away from the nightmare screaming "Why are all men are jerks!"
And so life goes on.
Why is it that the most decent and well-indented men get all tongue-tied and bashfulled-up when they try to approach a woman they really have strong feelings for. That just makes them appear as a completely fumbling unconfident idiot to the woman and so she rejects them as being 'unstable' and 'insecure'. Both of which are ultimately totally untrue.
And then you'll watch some totally insincere cad comes in and whisks her off her feet and entice her to become involved with him. And then he'll cheat on her and treat her with utter disrespect. She'll come away from the nightmare screaming "Why are all men are jerks!"
And so life goes on.
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I have actually overcome my 'shyness' on several occsassions. So far only two things have come of it.
1. The woman actualy is married (that's like 95% of the time)
2. If she's not married, then either I stutter and fumble around so much trying to overcome my shyness that she quickly finds an excuse to escape the situation. Or, she just ultimately isn't interested.
Shyness is not something you can 'logcially' overcome. I also believe it can be quite different for differnet people. Those who think it *can* be overcome obviously don't experience the same kind of physical shyness that I do. You quite literally lose control. You try to say one thing, but something totally different actualy comes out of your mouth! And you're standing there thinking to yourself where the heck did that come from? That wasn't even what I was trying to say!
1. The woman actualy is married (that's like 95% of the time)
2. If she's not married, then either I stutter and fumble around so much trying to overcome my shyness that she quickly finds an excuse to escape the situation. Or, she just ultimately isn't interested.
Shyness is not something you can 'logcially' overcome. I also believe it can be quite different for differnet people. Those who think it *can* be overcome obviously don't experience the same kind of physical shyness that I do. You quite literally lose control. You try to say one thing, but something totally different actualy comes out of your mouth! And you're standing there thinking to yourself where the heck did that come from? That wasn't even what I was trying to say!
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I'm wondering, from some of the things you've said, if you're only seeking out "exotic, beautiful women." Are you being realistic? Do you want a real woman in your life, who will be good to you and care for you into your approaching senior years, or are you just trying to entertain a fantasy? I don't waste my time looking for GQ type men because a) I figure they wouldn't be interested in me and b) because I find them typically to be too shallow and self-centered.
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Abra, I'll need you to write a script for me, for the day when I get to sit beside her. She has a horse farm and was a community instructor. So I'll need material along those lines. Thanks Abra. Paws
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I did not enroll her in the class. Not all beautiful people are self centred. Paws
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You totally have the WRONG picture Sheila.
When a man is attracted to a woman she is always "exotically beautiful" to him. Even if she looks like a complete toad to other men!
This has absolutely nothing at all to do with any "absolute" idea of beauty.
When a man is attracted to a woman she is always "exotically beautiful" to him. Even if she looks like a complete toad to other men!
This has absolutely nothing at all to do with any "absolute" idea of beauty.
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She has a horse farm. No wonder you're in love. 
Women who love horses are almost always attractive.
Women who love horses are almost always attractive.
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There is beauty in art, music and the human form, all very real to me. Paws
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I didn't say you did, and I didn't say they were.
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Well, excuse me, but there was no clarification of that. Generally, when someone speaks of a woman being beautiful and exotic, unless they elaborate otherwise, they mean it in such a way that everyone would see them that way.
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Sheila, you wrote concerning GQ men,"because I find them typically to be too shallow and self-centered".
"if you're only seeking out "exotic, beautiful women". I did not seek her she showed up at class.
"if you're only seeking out "exotic, beautiful women". I did not seek her she showed up at class.
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I didn't mean that's the reason you went to class. Just from some of the things you've written, I get the impression you are seeking out primarily "beautiful and exotic" women for a mate. And since you didn't clarify you meant "beautiful and exotic" in your eyes, but not necessarily in the eyes of someone else, I assumed you meant "beautiful and exotic" in the generally accepted sense of the word. I'm just wondering if you're seeking (hoping to meet, or however you want to define it) women that are unattainable..hence my reference to the GQ type men. I wouldn't mind having a hot, hard-bodied, dashingly handsome, exotic looking mate myself, but reality tells me I'm not going to get one.
But, having said that, my KISA doesn't have to be all that...the guy I'm seeing now is anything but GQ material...he's not very tall, has a somewhat big nose, but he's nice-looking, has beautiful, sad, soulful brown eyes and a sweet smile, and is very thoughtful and has a heart of gold, and that's why I am crazy about him.
But, having said that, my KISA doesn't have to be all that...the guy I'm seeing now is anything but GQ material...he's not very tall, has a somewhat big nose, but he's nice-looking, has beautiful, sad, soulful brown eyes and a sweet smile, and is very thoughtful and has a heart of gold, and that's why I am crazy about him.
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re: a woman would think a man unstable or insecure if he's bashful. she mite just realise he's a normal human being whose heart's beating slitely too fast becuz he's speaking to her & doesnt wanna blow it & she mite, just mite be flattered & MAYBE, her heart mite flutter a bit too.
both you guys are so smart & good looking & creative, you should have confidence that any sensible woman would take the time to speak to you & enjoy it. i agree w/the above advice -- GO FOR IT!!! (just not for the same woman -- eeks!)
both you guys are so smart & good looking & creative, you should have confidence that any sensible woman would take the time to speak to you & enjoy it. i agree w/the above advice -- GO FOR IT!!! (just not for the same woman -- eeks!)
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Why not just ask her if she is available?
To make the assumption that the little word " we " specifically meant married might let the " one " get away.
To make the assumption that the little word " we " specifically meant married might let the " one " get away.
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We could be anyone, cat, kid, brother, roommate ---maybe later YOU!
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One can be both shy and confident at the same time. I am shy, I'm also confident as a worthy human being with much to offer. Many men are intimidated by beauty initialy. Once I get passed the physical attributes, I see the real person, as who and what they are. At which point I am no longer shy. Very common syndrome for most men that I know. Paws
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When someone says that "we", own a horse farm, seldom are they referring to their cat or brother. Paws
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Not true regarding family, a lot of farms are passed down and having a male family member to take care of the heavier outside tasks.
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This thread was meant to be more in the tongue in cheek manner. Thanks for the input. Paws
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I am a romantic fool and I curse myself for it. The instructor said that we could not sit beside the same person for more than one class. So, sooner or later I'll get to sit beside her. Bummer. I'll try to say something witty and it will come out all wrong. Then in an attempt to recover, say something even more stupid. C'est la vie. I'll live with it. Paws