It's not what you say! (174)
jono7: hiya almera
weell...my profile is a work in progress, that i have changed a few times.
as for photos..not really sure about that. a few of the folks i have gotten closest to on here, don't have photos up, or sometimes they do...and sometimes they don't.
i've said it before on here...i get 'starry eyed' over brilliance more than looks.
for me, it's usually something said in the forums that catches my attention...can be insights, often combined with a particular kind of wittiness or humor...and then i will look to see what their profile says.
(yup, i've perved yours before... ..and ya know it... )
it was your cleverness, but also your sense of fairness and insights within your posts that had me look at your profile.
i also think that what one says, and how they say it, in their profile does give some indication to the person's interests and personality. but i think watching someone, over time, interacting with them in the forums, is an even better indicator.
another good thread almera
I'm scratching my head, and I'm not doubting your word at all, I do know we can get attracted to someone, not first by their looks but something about them that causes us to see them in a new light.weell...my profile is a work in progress, that i have changed a few times.
as for photos..not really sure about that. a few of the folks i have gotten closest to on here, don't have photos up, or sometimes they do...and sometimes they don't.
i've said it before on here...i get 'starry eyed' over brilliance more than looks.
for me, it's usually something said in the forums that catches my attention...can be insights, often combined with a particular kind of wittiness or humor...and then i will look to see what their profile says.
(yup, i've perved yours before... ..and ya know it... )
it was your cleverness, but also your sense of fairness and insights within your posts that had me look at your profile.
i also think that what one says, and how they say it, in their profile does give some indication to the person's interests and personality. but i think watching someone, over time, interacting with them in the forums, is an even better indicator.
another good thread almera
The scatching is, that if physical attraction wasn't part of that, Steven Hawkins would possibly be the most sought after man for those who like intelligent guys. He has a dry sense of humour too.
I'm wondering how much our subconscience plays in this, does it say, "he/she looks good, what can I find to be attracted by".
I've had more (non scammer) mail enquiring about me since I made a fun profile, then I did when it was "normal"
Perhaps less is more after all!
Such dreamy eyes
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hoolet: Most of the people that I know have been visually attracted to the men they have developed relationships with. May I just add that many have lasted over 40 years. Only a few that I know have developed relationships which started as purely friendships.
You are never too old to learn. In my short time here I appreciate the wittyness & candidness of fellow forum posters here & have learnt a lot.
There is still nothing like the spark of the initial physical attraction but I agree a personality can grow on you, but I will still not interact with a person without a photo on principle.
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hoolet: Most of the people that I know have been visually attracted to the men they have developed relationships with. May I just add that many have lasted over 40 years. Only a few that I know have developed relationships which started as purely friendships.
That is fascinating.... Question then......if you find the person physically attractive still after a lenght of time, does that help patch up, or help over look any cracks that may be developing in the relationship?
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SingleGuyInDurbs: You are never too old to learn. In my short time here I appreciate the wittyness & candidness of fellow forum posters here & have learnt a lot.
There is still nothing like the spark of the initial physical attraction but I agree a personality can grow on you, but I will still not interact with a person without a photo on principle.
isn't that also true though the other way around, his/her physical appearance can grow on you if their personality is beautiful?There is still nothing like the spark of the initial physical attraction but I agree a personality can grow on you, but I will still not interact with a person without a photo on principle.
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almera03: I'm scratching my head, and I'm not doubting your word at all, I do know we can get attracted to someone, not first by their looks but something about them that causes us to see them in a new light.
The scatching is, that if physical attraction wasn't part of that, Steven Hawkins would possibly be the most sought after man for those who like intelligent guys. He has a dry sense of humour too.
I'm wondering how much our subconscience plays in this, does it say, "he/she looks good, what can I find to be attracted by".
I've had more (non scammer) mail enquiring about me since I made a fun profile, then I did when it was "normal"
Perhaps less is more after all!
Such dreamy eyes
The scatching is, that if physical attraction wasn't part of that, Steven Hawkins would possibly be the most sought after man for those who like intelligent guys. He has a dry sense of humour too.
I'm wondering how much our subconscience plays in this, does it say, "he/she looks good, what can I find to be attracted by".
I've had more (non scammer) mail enquiring about me since I made a fun profile, then I did when it was "normal"
Perhaps less is more after all!
Such dreamy eyes
well, i must admit...
with each of these folks that i have met from cs (some male, some female) who did not have pic posted, but later sent me a photo..were all very attractive folks.
sizzle hot actually....
each had their photo hidden for different reasons.
now had they not been attractive....?...not sure how that would of effected things. i'd like to think it wouldn't matter.
but i know there are certain physical characteristics that i do find unattractive, as there are also certain personality traits i find unattractive... so looks do make a difference to me. good news is...there's someone for everyone.. grin.
but the reality for me, is that the man i was interested in, and got to know better, is hot, very handsome, and that was just icing on an already delicious cake..
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jono7: but the reality for me, is that the man i was interested in, and got to know better, is hot, very handsome, and that was just icing on an already delicious cake..
How could you not say that, that isn't a fair point of argument now is it
Oh I'd rather have my photo on display, gives them the chance to get over the shock, and me a chance to work some charm, its all I have
All those things you mentioned, likes and dislikes, surely though you can't pick them up from the words in a profile, which is the point of the thread
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almera03: That is fascinating....
Question then......if you find the person physically attractive still after a lenght of time, does that help patch up, or help over look any cracks that may be developing in the relationship?
Question then......if you find the person physically attractive still after a lenght of time, does that help patch up, or help over look any cracks that may be developing in the relationship?
now that´s when the rose tinted glasses come in handy.......when ur in love, it´s unconditional!!!!!!
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hoolet: now that´s when the rose tinted glasses come in handy.......when ur in love, it´s unconditional!!!!!!
hmmmmm shouldn't that be when you still find her/him hot, love is unconditional if he/she loses that attractiveness, all the relationship faults would come boiling to the surface, surely?
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almera03: How could you not say that, that isn't a fair point of argument now is it
Oh I'd rather have my photo on display, gives them the chance to get over the shock, and me a chance to work some charm, its all I have All those things you mentioned, likes and dislikes, surely though you can't pick them up from the words in a profile, which is the point of the thread
Oh I'd rather have my photo on display, gives them the chance to get over the shock, and me a chance to work some charm, its all I have All those things you mentioned, likes and dislikes, surely though you can't pick them up from the words in a profile, which is the point of the thread
i do wonder...
if handsome is as handsome does???
or....
beauty is in the eye of the beholder...?
ok...most likely again, not the argument, as i imagine most folks would find this person very attractive.
but just sayin'...yanno....
re their profiles:
yes...each had something in common in their profiles that i could pick up on.
the common thread as best i can describe it...intelligent, bratty, charm with an indication of open mindedness and respectful nature..was evident in each of their profiles.
(but had already been demonstrated in the forums as well)
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almera03: How could you not say that, that isn't a fair point of argument now is it
Oh I'd rather have my photo on display, gives them the chance to get over the shock, and me a chance to work some charm, its all I have All those things you mentioned, likes and dislikes, surely though you can't pick them up from the words in a profile, which is the point of the thread
Oh I'd rather have my photo on display, gives them the chance to get over the shock, and me a chance to work some charm, its all I have All those things you mentioned, likes and dislikes, surely though you can't pick them up from the words in a profile, which is the point of the thread
ps..you have a lot more than charm!...
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almera03: How could you not say that, that isn't a fair point of argument now is it
Oh I'd rather have my photo on display, gives them the chance to get over the shock, and me a chance to work some charm, its all I have All those things you mentioned, likes and dislikes, surely though you can't pick them up from the words in a profile, which is the point of the thread
Oh I'd rather have my photo on display, gives them the chance to get over the shock, and me a chance to work some charm, its all I have All those things you mentioned, likes and dislikes, surely though you can't pick them up from the words in a profile, which is the point of the thread
Your photo isn't that bad. At least the flash didn't make you look over-exposed like mine did
Reading between the lines on a profile, can give you a good idea sometimes. Salient words often are written, without the person noticing.
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jono7: well, i must admit...
with each of these folks that i have met from cs (some male, some female) who did not have pic posted, but later sent me a photo..were all very attractive folks.
sizzle hot actually....
each had their photo hidden for different reasons.
now had they not been attractive....?...not sure how that would of effected things. i'd like to think it wouldn't matter.
but i know there are certain physical characteristics that i do find unattractive, as there are also certain personality traits i find unattractive... so looks do make a difference to me. good news is...there's someone for everyone.. grin.
but the reality for me, is that the man i was interested in, and got to know better, is hot, very handsome, and that was just icing on an already delicious cake..
with each of these folks that i have met from cs (some male, some female) who did not have pic posted, but later sent me a photo..were all very attractive folks.
sizzle hot actually....
each had their photo hidden for different reasons.
now had they not been attractive....?...not sure how that would of effected things. i'd like to think it wouldn't matter.
but i know there are certain physical characteristics that i do find unattractive, as there are also certain personality traits i find unattractive... so looks do make a difference to me. good news is...there's someone for everyone.. grin.
but the reality for me, is that the man i was interested in, and got to know better, is hot, very handsome, and that was just icing on an already delicious cake..
Hi Jono..
My photo isn't hidden because I think I'm attractive. It's hidden because it is a good photo and when I have it up I get emails from 20 year olds, etc. just like every other female on here. I don't have the patience to go through the list, open each one and then delete them. I used to open them cause there just might be one that interested me. So the easy way is to not have a photo which eliminates all that stupid email.------ This thread is Archived ------
almera03: Nah don't worry I know a lovely Indian lady who is itching to find a gorgeous hunk......she keeps writing about it
hunk huh? aaaahhh you have to be careful of this lady
by the way how many indian ladies r your friends?
do not mistake me just curious
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almera03: Nah don't worry I know a lovely Indian lady who is itching to find a gorgeous hunk......she keeps writing about it
hunk huh? aaaahhh you have to be careful of this lady
by the way how many indian ladies r your friends?
do not mistake me just curious
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montemonte: Hi Jono.. My photo isn't hidden because I think I'm attractive. It's hidden because it is a good photo and when I have it up I get emails from 20 year olds, etc. just like every other female on here. I don't have the patience to go through the list, open each one and then delete them. I used to open them cause there just might be one that interested me. So the easy way is to not have a photo which eliminates all that stupid email.
hey monte
so nice to see you back on here after such a long cs vacation...grin
i hear ya!....
(that's why you often see me in my cowboy hat...
...changes the nature of the mail i receive)
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montemonte: Hi Jono.. My photo isn't hidden because I think I'm attractive. It's hidden because it is a good photo and when I have it up I get emails from 20 year olds, etc. just like every other female on here. I don't have the patience to go through the list, open each one and then delete them. I used to open them cause there just might be one that interested me. So the easy way is to not have a photo which eliminates all that stupid email.
....was that taken....on your 21st birthday............. 
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jono7: hey monte
so nice to see you back on here after such a long cs vacation...grini hear ya!....
(that's why you often see me in my cowboy hat......
changes the nature of the mail i receive)
so nice to see you back on here after such a long cs vacation...grini hear ya!....
(that's why you often see me in my cowboy hat......
changes the nature of the mail i receive)
I will be getting in touch with you shortly.
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trueheart1941: ....was that taken....on your 21st birthday.............
39 honey....always 39....
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Most of the people that I know have been visually attracted to the men they have developed relationships with. May I just add that many have lasted over 40 years. Only a few that I know have developed relationships which started as purely friendships.