Regrets...I Have a Few... (17)
MADDOG69Dublin, Ireland21 Threads 7,583 PostsI can't put anything right now so I'd have to go back and re live them differently. Sometimes I get cringing flashbacks about how various things went down. You know... driving along somewhere, might drive past a familiar street or see something that brings back memories of an argument that I wish might have panned out differently and that might have, but didn't.
Made me think of this youtube clip!
Non, je ne regrette rien
See there's a few things that i could put right but it's not knowing if other people want it that way...maybe they're happy the way things are?? i know some people are anyway...but i know i'm not and i'd hate if something happened and was never given the chance to do it...thinking wayyyy too much here i know 
There are people i've never even met but probably should...then again i don't miss having them in my life because i don't know them...not talking about having kids or anything haha just a strange situation...
Ah i dunno
There are people i've never even met but probably should...then again i don't miss having them in my life because i don't know them...not talking about having kids or anything haha just a strange situation...
Ah i dunno
Regrets are normal, I certainly have a few, but there really is no point crying over spilt milk. You have to learn from your mistakes and move on.
mcattack: See there's a few things that i could put right but it's not knowing if other people want it that way...maybe they're happy the way things are?? i know some people are anyway...but i know i'm not and i'd hate if something happened and was never given the chance to do it...thinking wayyyy too much here i know
There are people i've never even met but probably should...then again i don't miss having them in my life because i don't know them...not talking about having kids or anything haha just a strange situation...
Ah i dunno
There are people i've never even met but probably should...then again i don't miss having them in my life because i don't know them...not talking about having kids or anything haha just a strange situation...
Ah i dunno
You should read "the five people you meet in heaven"! It kinda gets at what you are thinking.
mr1983: You should read "the five people you meet in heaven"! It kinda gets at what you are thinking.
Wow...Mitch Album...great book...loved "Tuesdays with Morrie" also.
saoirse65: Wow...Mitch Album...great book...loved "Tuesdays with Morrie" also.
Haven't read that one! Must get around to it though!!
mr1983: Haven't read that one! Must get around to it though!!
Think it was his first book. He is an American sports writer..or was..
This is a real factual book. This guy Morrie was Mitch's College lecturer...He ended up going to visit him one Tuesday cos Morrie was terminally ill...ended up going to see him til Morrie died..It is an amazing book about the relationship with a dying person and their outlook on life...really fantastic and not depressing in my opinion.
He also wrote a book called "One More Day" This is a fictional thing but it is about what you would do if you had one more day with someone that you have lost.. I still think that "Tuesdays with Morrie " is the best of his books but the others are good also..
everyone has regrets ...i regret moving back home to ireland 15 yrs ago from england but its done now and i can only change the future thats why i think my next decision in life is the most important one and i really hope to get it right this time
I could never just settle with death,car crash,plane crash.not the way that I want to die.not my style.to much regret and maybe regret is now the only thing keeping me alive.maybe regret is a good thing
ohwiseone: Thought about this and was thinking 2 things straight away that I regretted then realised it was the only way I could cope at the time with the situations. One situation I could not face the pain of another and deal with my own pain so I ran away from it. The other I was doing the right thing by the other person at the cost of myself, so no regrets. I am a different person now though and would handle both situations differently. Stronger I guess.
Have always tried to treat people decently so no regrets there, even if I had to say or do something which could hurt another I did it with compassion.
I would not hesitate to make amends or tell someone I am sorry if I felt the need to mac, life is too short
Have always tried to treat people decently so no regrets there, even if I had to say or do something which could hurt another I did it with compassion.
I would not hesitate to make amends or tell someone I am sorry if I felt the need to mac, life is too short
Wise words there and i agree totally, but who's problem is it if they don't want to forgive and have no interest in building bridges?? yeah i can say at least i tried but at the end of the day it was me that caused the problem and hurt the person so therefore it's still my problem...no??
yeah I have regrets..I think we all do..ruminating about the past is bad for you well thats what I think anyway..If I was to focus on the past too much I'd become miserable..depressed..emotional..I think of exs..what could have been? my career? what should I have done differently...try not to focus on the past..its hard not to but its for the best
mcattack: Wise words there and i agree totally, but who's problem is it if they don't want to forgive and have no interest in building bridges?? yeah i can say at least i tried but at the end of the day it was me that caused the problem and hurt the person so therefore it's still my problem...no??
if you have tried to as you say " build bridges " , and they still can't forgive , you just have to let it go ,,
some people can forgive quite quickly ,, others can't --some just need more time to accept you are sorry for any hurt caused -
It does nobody any good holding onto grudges or anger towards another ,,it's not healthy --
As ohwiseone said ,, life is so terribly short --there are none of us perfect --everyone of us has the capacity to hurt those we care about , and we all mistakes --but i feel it is better to forgive as long as you know the person is truly sorry
mcattack: Wise words there and i agree totally, but who's problem is it if they don't want to forgive and have no interest in building bridges?? yeah i can say at least i tried but at the end of the day it was me that caused the problem and hurt the person so therefore it's still my problem...no??
Mac you are responsible for your role only and they are responsible for the decision they make re forgiving you or not. The fact that you apologise and try is all you can do on your part, you can't change the past. Sadly sometimes it's the price one pay's for one's actions/words.
You just have to learn to live with their decision not to forgive you or build bridges, and except that. Sometimes the hurt runs to deep or has not fully healed and sometimes in time people can appreciate the fact that you tried to make amends and sometimes there is no way to make amends.
Life is not always easy, you need to find peace for you, the fact that you have tried to make amends and apologised will help both you and them in time.
nuala: so true you cant change the past only change how you do things in your future....as for a good woman start looking....
To be fair now he never said she needed to be good.
Life is too short, fix it, mend it, do what you have to do to ease the mind, shake the demons and live life to the full
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