Ever find the competition ... ( Archived) (86)

I would never compete for love. Love is all about two people having feelings for each other isn't it?

I'll make my interest known, if the woman is viewing it as a competition chances are I'll lose her interest because I don't view it as a competition.

Moreover, who would I be competing with? I'm looking for long-term love. If my competition is looking for a short-term affair how can I compete with that? He'll offer her the moon, lie to her, and promise her all sorts of things he knows damn well he's never going to deliver on. He has nothing to offer but lies and therefore nothing to lose.

For me to compete with that I would need to top him by offering even more outrageous things. But then what if I win? Since my intent is sincere now I'm in a position where I would actually would need to deliver on all of these outrageous promises I needed to make to outdo the insincere liar. He was never really offering those things anyway. It was an unfair competition.

I'll offer my heart of gold. If the woman doesn't see the value in that she can have the other guy. I'd be better off without that particular woman anyway.

Moreover, if the other man is offering true love then why should I *compete* with him. I made my interest known. It's the ladies choice. Why is she choosing a particular man? Because she loves him? Or because he's the high bidder in a competition? Not sure I want to win a woman who thinks that way when it comes to love.

I'm an extremely romantic, affectionate, and generous man. If the only thing that would drive me to be that way is competition then what happens after we marry? There's no longer any competition, no need to compete. Done deal, lay back on the couch and scratch my nuts saying, "Honey bring me a beer!"

That's what the competitive men will do because now the competition's over.

I don't compete. I'm just me all the time. What you see is what you get. Why a woman would want a man who is competing for her is beyond me. Seems like it's almost guaranteed to be a bad outcome in the end. Better off going after the meek fellow (i.e. that would be the 'nice guy'). He's more stable in the long run because there's no competition to be over with. He's just who he is all the time. Like a rock. You can lean on him and know he's not going to fall over.

I would never expect a woman to have to compete for me.

I totally agree with this.

Very nice way to put it magic man.

I also look at it another way when it come to competing...

I will be competing with life and she will be a part of my team therfore she has to want me.

If she does not want me then competing for her will do me no good. If she wants me than there is no competion cause theres no one else in the game.

AB

Exactly

Why would I even want to be with a woman I had to compete for?

Give me a woman who LOVES me, and together we'll be a team.